[MsMarvelDuckie]

Utrom has hit the nail on the head quite forcefully. In fact I will add to it with some personal thoughts. If a woman is in an already unstable financial situation where she must rely on others for a home and other neccessities, and in spite of being in a healthy relationship/marriage has no income or privacy, no job and is already caring for someone ELSE'S kids as an unasked and unvolunteered "foster mom", does she even have the RIGHT to bring yet another mouth to feed into that situation, knowing it would only put further strain on the already tight resources of those on whom she depends? My answer is no. And it is exactly the choice I have had to make.