Please Help Me Talk to Girls

*snake* · 10-03-2016, 02:21 PM

What are some tips you can give me? I want to converse better. Personally my only guide on this subject is the Anakin/Padme deconstruction in the Mr. Plinkett Attack of the Clones review, which has actually worked very well.

Plastron, please do not contribute to this thread

*plastroncafe* · 10-03-2016, 02:29 PM

*CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy* · 10-03-2016, 02:30 PM

I hate to break it to ya, Snake, but PC does not care about your boner.

*plastroncafe* · 10-03-2016, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy

I hate to break it to ya, Snake, but PC does not care about your boner.

This is true. So very true.
However, I do really care about the girls/women his boner is going to try and convince him to talk to...with that in mind:

Consider the notion that girls/women are people, and they're likely just as nervous to talk to you, as you are to talk to them. Being nervous and awkward is par for the course. Embrace it. Learn to love it like an old friend, because it's not going anywhere anytime soon.

Fake confidence until you make confidence. There are few turn offs bigger than lacking in confidence.
(when "nice guys" complain about girls liking jerks rather than them, it's because they've come off as sniveling basket cases, where as the other guys look like they've got their s#it together.)

You're going to fail, and fail hard...laugh about it when you do, and then get right back up when you're ready.

And most importantly: girls aren't vending machines you put Nice into and get Sex out of.

*snake* · 10-03-2016, 02:51 PM

Confidence is my super power. I'm just boring as f*ck because no one else shares my interests in real life.

@Nines, we're good friends but I can't converse or carry a conversation like a normal person. She sticks around but I feel like she'll eventually get sick of me and will stop bothering with me entirely.

*CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy* · 10-03-2016, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by snake

Confidence is my super power. I'm just boring as f*ck because no one else shares my interests in real life.

@Nines, we're good friends but I can't converse or carry a conversation like a normal person. She sticks around but I feel like she'll eventually get sick of me and will stop bothering with me entirely.

Do stuff with her. Stuff she likes, stuff you like, stuff you both like. Sports, games, movies, beating up homeless people.

Okay, everything but the homeless people.

*IndigoErth* · 10-03-2016, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by snake

Confidence is my super power. I'm just boring as f*ck because no one else shares my interests in real life.

Hmm. Any clubs or activities in school or the area that might make people with similar interests a bit more visible? Surely there may be others, but might just be quiet about it?

For sake of fun/conversation, would it be lame to ask people what they personally geek out over? Or things someone may like that you might get sucked into.

*ToTheNines* · 10-03-2016, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by snake

Confidence is my super power. I'm just boring as f*ck because no one else shares my interests in real life.

@Nines, we're good friends but I can't converse or carry a conversation like a normal person. She sticks around but I feel like she'll eventually get sick of me and will stop bothering with me entirely.

~~Commenter 42~~ · 10-03-2016, 02:31 PM

Step one: Take no advice from P.C.
Step two: See step one.

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Originally Posted by CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy

I hate to break it to ya, Snake, but PC does not care about your boner.

Something tells me this thread has already got her hard.

*CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy* · 10-03-2016, 02:32 PM

Step 3: Be yourself. Unless you're an asshole, in which case, don't.

~~Commenter 42~~ · 10-03-2016, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy

Step 3: Be yourself. Unless you're an asshole, in which case, don't.

Lol, wrong. if you are an asshole, be the asshole. Women love assholes.

*IndigoErth* · 10-03-2016, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Commenter 42

Lol, wrong. if you are an asshole, be the asshole. Women love assholes.

Step 4: Unless she's really not a Raph fan type, then abandon asshole shtick immediately.

*CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy* · 10-03-2016, 02:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by plastroncafe

This is true. So very true.
However, I do really care about the girls/women his boner is going to try and convince him to talk to...with that in mind:

Consider the notion that girls/women are people, and they're likely just as nervous to talk to you, as you are to talk to them. Being nervous and awkward is par for the course. Embrace it. Learn to love it like an old friend, because it's not going anywhere anytime soon.

Fake confidence until you make confidence. There are few turn offs bigger than lacking in confidence.
(when "nice guys" complain about girls liking jerks rather than them, it's because they've come off as sniveling basket cases, where as the other guys look like they've got their s#it together.)

You're going to fail, and fail hard...laugh about it when you do, and then get right back up when you're ready.

And most importantly: girls aren't vending machines you put Nice into and get Sex out of.

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Originally Posted by Commenter 42

Lol, wrong. if you are an asshole, be the asshole. Women love assholes.

Between these two posts, I'd go with PC's advice every damn time.

*ToTheNines* · 10-03-2016, 02:36 PM

All of my successful* relationships were with girls who were easy to talk to and longtime good friends. No advice to be given there.

Any hot girls that I had forced conversation with for the purpose of screwing or even dating, just ended up being hollow and superficial, feeling like a waste of time. I mean, I guess it was worth it, but as you get older, good company far outweighs hot ass.

* = they all end up being **** eventually.

*Autbot_Benz* · 10-03-2016, 02:40 PM

I honestly thought Cybercubed made this post

*Prowler* · 10-04-2016, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ToTheNines

All of my successful* relationships were with girls who were easy to talk to and longtime good friends. No advice to be given there.

Any hot girls that I had forced conversation with for the purpose of screwing or even dating, just ended up being hollow and superficial, feeling like a waste of time. I mean, I guess it was worth it, but as you get older, good company far outweighs hot ass.

* = they all end up being **** eventually.

Yeah, honestly it's not hard to find good looking chicks out there. What's really harder is to find one with a personality you like. No matter how good looking a girl is, if she is braindead or doesn't have much/anything in common with me, I just can't get interested in her. And I'm not into casual sex, so...

Zak The Neutrino · 10-04-2016, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Prowler

Yeah, honestly it's not hard to find good looking chicks out there. What's really harder is to find one with a personality you like. No matter how good looking a girl is, if she is braindead or doesn't have much/anything in common with me, I just can't get interested in her. And I'm not into casual sex, so...

I think it's also hard to find the right balance of common interests. At least it was for me. For me you want someone that has some common interests because you want to be able to do things together you both enjoy however you don't want someone that likes everything you do because you want to do some things alone too.

*Prowler* · 10-04-2016, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by plastroncafe

It's only relevant if Snake considers himself among the shallow.
In which case I would also advise he keep an eye out for the girls he goes to school with that also like anime, wrestling, and video games, because they're there. They might not be obvious about it, but they're there if you know where and how to look.

Back in my HS there were soe girls who liked anime and wrestling. They didn't hide it. Now, could there have been more? Possibly.

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Originally Posted by Zak The Neutrino

I think it's also hard to find the right balance of common interests. At least it was for me. For me you want someone that has some common interests because you want to be able to do things together you both enjoy however you don't want someone that likes everything you do because you want to do some things alone too.

Well, everyone is unique so it's impossible to find everyone who likes everything you do.

I remember when I was younger seeing people change often in order to please their partner. Like, per example, changing their musical taste to match the one of their current bf/gf. I also remember this guy dropping Magic the Gathering for a while because the girl he liked hated that game.

Zak The Neutrino · 10-04-2016, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Prowler

Back in my HS there were soe girls who liked anime and wrestling. They didn't hide it. Now, could there have been more? Possibly.

Well, everyone is unique so it's impossible to find everyone who likes everything you do.

I remember when I was younger seeing people change often in order to please their partner. Like, per example, changing their musical taste to match the one of their current bf/gf. I also remember this guy dropping Magic the Gathering for a while because the girl he liked hated that game.

I don't mean literally everything but for example my first wife liked my car hobby and nerd movies too. So she wanted to go to everything and I could never just go do something with my guy friends. It got super annoying. My current wife has no issue with me going and seeing new movies with my nerd friends from work without her because she can take them or leave them.

*Cure* · 10-03-2016, 02:39 PM

Talk about how ratchet the other girls in school are. Just make sure they're not friends with her.

10-03-2016, 02:21 PM	#1
snake Disgusting Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Outer Heaven Posts: 12,230	Please Help Me Talk to Girls What are some tips you can give me? I want to converse better. Personally my only guide on this subject is the Anakin/Padme deconstruction in the Mr. Plinkett Attack of the Clones review, which has actually worked very well. Plastron, please do not contribute to this thread

10-03-2016, 02:30 PM	#3
CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy Annalist Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 16,435	I hate to break it to ya, Snake, but PC does not care about your boner. __________________ *ALL THEIR DAYS ARE NUMBERED*

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CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy Annalist Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 16,435	Step 3: Be yourself. Unless you're an asshole, in which case, don't. __________________ *ALL THEIR DAYS ARE NUMBERED*

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Autbot_Benz Hellblazer Join Date: Jun 2014 Location: Ventura California Posts: 8,323	I honestly thought Cybercubed made this post __________________ I respect what FW cartoon did for the turtles franchise but it is the most overrated and hard to watch of the 3 turtles cartoons. Last edited by Autbot_Benz; 10-03-2016 at 03:33 PM.

10-03-2016, 02:51 PM	#5
snake Disgusting Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Outer Heaven Posts: 12,230	Confidence is my super power. I'm just boring as f*ck because no one else shares my interests in real life. @Nines, we're good friends but I can't converse or carry a conversation like a normal person. She sticks around but I feel like she'll eventually get sick of me and will stop bothering with me entirely.

10-03-2016, 02:36 PM	#14
ToTheNines [sic] Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 15,098	All of my successful* relationships were with girls who were easy to talk to and longtime good friends. No advice to be given there. Any hot girls that I had forced conversation with for the purpose of screwing or even dating, just ended up being hollow and superficial, feeling like a waste of time. I mean, I guess it was worth it, but as you get older, good company far outweighs hot ass. * = they all end up being **** eventually.

10-03-2016, 02:39 PM	#20
Cure Y'all need Jesus Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: New Jersey Posts: 8,938	Talk about how ratchet the other girls in school are. Just make sure they're not friends with her.