Wedding Etiquette Advice?

~~AquaParade~~ · 08-13-2017, 07:59 AM

Looking for your advice/input!

I'm attending/taking part in a friends wedding about a month from now, 100 miles away, and last night he told me that for the wedding they have rented out a great cabin space, andif we pay $100 each, all guests will be able to stay there both nights.

The catch is that these are shared spaces. We won't have our own bathrooms and I'm not sure I Would have my own bedroom but I am still trying to understand the details. Since I sometimes have stomach issues, the idea of sharing so much space, especially bathrooms, with "7 or 8" people I don't know (4 bathrooms), has me a little nervous. When I told my friend I was considering just staying in a nearby hotel so that I could have my own privacy, he seemed to get uncomfortable and started requesting that I please stay in the cabin due to "logistics".

Am I wrong to be a little annoyed/uncomfortable? All the details, like wedding weekend, suits to purchase, and housing arrangements all seem to be coming last minute, so maybe that has been contributing to my negative outlook, but what do you all say?
I'm now asking for final details on whether I'd have at least my own private bedroom for those two nights, and if not, I'll be staying in a hotel nearby. Am I being unreasonable on his big day/weekend?

08-13-2017, 07:59 AM	#1
~~AquaParade~~ Banned Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 8,450	Wedding Etiquette Advice? Looking for your advice/input! I'm attending/taking part in a friends wedding about a month from now, 100 miles away, and last night he told me that for the wedding they have rented out a great cabin space, andif we pay $100 each, all guests will be able to stay there both nights. The catch is that these are shared spaces. We won't have our own bathrooms and I'm not sure I Would have my own bedroom but I am still trying to understand the details. Since I sometimes have stomach issues, the idea of sharing so much space, especially bathrooms, with "7 or 8" people I don't know (4 bathrooms), has me a little nervous. When I told my friend I was considering just staying in a nearby hotel so that I could have my own privacy, he seemed to get uncomfortable and started requesting that I please stay in the cabin due to "logistics". Am I wrong to be a little annoyed/uncomfortable? All the details, like wedding weekend, suits to purchase, and housing arrangements all seem to be coming last minute, so maybe that has been contributing to my negative outlook, but what do you all say? I'm now asking for final details on whether I'd have at least my own private bedroom for those two nights, and if not, I'll be staying in a hotel nearby. Am I being unreasonable on his big day/weekend?