11-17-2017, 10:37 PM | #1 |
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What would you do if....
What would you do if someone had been sending you filthy nasty perverted messages?
especially if the person was being very obnoxious and intrusive? just curious if anyone else has had to deal with a similar uncomfortable situation?
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11-17-2017, 10:46 PM | #2 |
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My advice will probably not be for others but I would block the person online and ignore their messages, pursuing the matter no further.
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11-17-2017, 10:57 PM | #3 |
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If it's happening here, forward it to Machias Banshee/GK/Krang. They'd be banned as soon as one of them saw it.
Elsewhere, similar thing. Find whoever's got the power to give them the boot. Block them if possible. Authorities can be sought out if it's severe, I should think. Sorry you're having to deal with that.
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11-17-2017, 11:01 PM | #4 |
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thank you both.
i only wish i didn't try to brush it off and forget about it. as time went by it has just bothered me more and more. i can let it go but i just hate to think that they'll just do that to the next person. that's what's really bothering me the most. sick world we live in.
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11-18-2017, 04:59 AM | #5 |
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Block and report is probably the best solution, or you could engage them and make them explain why they think it's acceptable to send unsolicited creepy messages. I've done that a couple of times and it seems effective enough to make them stop pestering me.
And dickpics gets this gem back: Spoiler:
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11-18-2017, 07:01 AM | #6 |
Just...way too serious.
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People do that mess because they think they are powerful enough to get away with it. Not letting them get away with it shows that YOU have power too.
I’ve never had stuff happen online, but I’ve had my share of guys who think its ok to keep piling on unwanted attention. I shut that crap down. The latest one was a guard at the office I work at who, even after I told him I wasn’t interested, continued to harass me about going out with him and how jealous my boyfriend would be if he saw him...calling me dear and sh!t. Said he was willing to clean up the “mess” my life was. (WTF? This guy doesn’t know boo about me and I never talk to him to encourage him) TLDR: he does not work on my side of the building anymore because I told him off and shut that sh!t down.
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I've experienced that, along with being stalked. Save what you can as hard evidence of the behavior (printouts, photos, screen captures, etc.) and report it to the proper authorities.
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11-18-2017, 09:46 PM | #8 |
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Coincidentially Just had this happen to me today, someone started sending me nasty messages so I blocked them for an eternity.
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11-18-2017, 09:49 PM | #9 |
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what this person was doing was very intrusive questioning.
asking me personal questions about my private parts. eventually my being evasive just drove them to being more obnoxious and persistent. at the time (a few months back) i decided to ignore them and delete the messages. but now i feel all i've done is left the door open for them to harass someone else. it is even possible they are reading this thread? to the person who i am referring to, i ask that you try to understand that you cannot talk to people in such a way. it is NOT right. it's very disrespectful and only lessens your integrity as a person. hopefully you will come to understand and respect other people's boundaries.
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11-19-2017, 06:18 AM | #10 |
Just...way too serious.
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Wait....it’s someone here? Aw hell no. That person needs to be named and shamed.
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it was . . . . . . . ChosenOne. so gleeful he became every time i told his i did want to answer his filthy questions. hence the reason why i've been lashing out at him for other reasons in various threads. if by my naming him publicly means i should be booted from these forums then fine. so be it. i really don't enjoy joining in on discussions if he's there anyway. it's actually pretty revolting to me. i will definitely miss interacting with many other of you on here, but i hope this will prevent someone else having to go through what i had to.
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11-19-2017, 07:03 AM | #12 |
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That type of behavior should warrant an immediate lifelong ban, once the mods are aware (the harassment, not you pointing it out, myconius)
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11-19-2017, 07:07 AM | #13 |
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i only wish there were a way for me to recover the messages i'd deleted.
but hypothetically if i do get some sort of backlash for speaking out, i'm willing to accept it.
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11-19-2017, 01:03 PM | #14 |
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Even the drome has a sexual harassment scandal.
lol Last edited by snake; 11-19-2017 at 05:36 PM. |
11-19-2017, 03:06 PM | #15 |
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I’m sure its viewable in his sent messages. If not Maybe it can be restored under mod or admin functions. I’ve seen places where that was possible.
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11-19-2017, 03:20 PM | #16 |
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i guess time will tell if anything actually coves of it.
i guess the main thing is for people to be aware there was a problem, so they can avoid any unpleasantly.
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11-19-2017, 06:20 PM | #17 |
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If you have any kind of proof, it needs to be forwarded to the moderators to take action.
I understand that there was a selling beef between you two, and you've both been going back and forth at each other in several threads that I had to step in on. I"m going to strongly suggest that you both stop contacting each other and avoid each other in the threads until we get this figured out. I"m closing this thread, and I"m going to tell every member right now to stay out of this, and not take action into their own hands (I saw your personal page post, Snake. Don't do it again.). Leave this to the moderators. |
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