Love and TMNT?

[DestronMirage22]

I'm (painfully) single so I don't know about this kind of stuff, but how well does TMNT mix with romantic relationships? Has your interest in TMNT ever affected your love life?

To those with spouses, someone their dating, or have someone they're in love with, what does the other individual think about your interest in TMNT? Are they supportive or do they not really care?

Any relationships ended because of the TMNT?

[Utrommaniac]

My boyfriend doesn't entirely care. He certainly isn't in the fandom, but he accepts it well enough.

I think you'll find a good number of people on here are married. I think there's four or five that I know of?

[Andrew NDB]

She humors me. That's enough.

[Candy Kappa]

My ex-fiance hated TMNT, so that was... fun. The relationship didn't end because of TMNT, though. They got really needy and paranoid during my finals when I was doing 3D Game Design, and they broke up with me because I wasn't "committed to the relationship" and apparently "slutting around with fellow students", but they where the one having a online relationship with a Guild member on WoW

My living partner don't mind, though. We've seen a whole lot of the FW cartoon, half of NM and been watching the current Nick cartoon together, and we've seen the 1990 and 2007 movie together. She also have a favorite turtle, and I gifted her a Mutatin' Donatello that she likes.

[MsMarvelDuckie]

My other half is not a fan per se but he will watch it with me and doesn't mind that I like it. He teases me occassionally about being "obsessed" due to the number of figures and comics I have bought but that's it.

[Katie]

Never been a problem for me.

Of course My SO and I met here so....

Stryker isn't active here much anymore, but he's still into the Turtles. I'm just a little more in than he is.

Before I was with Stryker, I had a fiance who was killed in a car accident. He was not into TMNT but didn't mind that I was. He died around the time that the 2K3 show came out and I remember one day we were in WalMart and I saw the toys. I didn't even know there was a new show coming out. He bought me a Leonardo. I didn't have the heart to tell him Leo was my least favorite . I still have it though.

[Andrew NDB]

Originally Posted by Candy Kappa

My living partner don't mind, though.

Does your dead partner mind?

[Candy Kappa]

Originally Posted by Andrew NDB

Does your dead partner mind?

Pretty sure they're responsible for toppling over my figures, so probably not

[Ninjinister]

I once dated a girl that I met here. It was nice being around someone who knew who I was talking about when I said names like Dooney and Lawson.

My last girlfriend was a semi-casual fan... knew most of the basic characters but didn't keep "in" on anything past Turtles Forever and forgets Laird and Eastman's names all the time (I don't fault her for this as I forget my own name a lot). I have some prints of a couple arts she did of Sophie Campbell's fan comic designs that she gave me for Christmas. We still talk all the time though so we sill discuss the series a lot.

[Andrew NDB]

Originally Posted by Ninjinister

I once dated a girl that I met here.

That was your first mistake.

[Netkeeper]

Originally Posted by Andrew NDB

That was your first mistake.

I think just about every partner I've had has had a casual enjoyment of the TMNT, or at least doesn't care that it's one of my fandoms. I've always dated other fandom people though, I don't date anyone that isn't in a fandom, I can't relate at all. What do people that don't do fan stuff even do with their time. How boring of an existence.

[IndigoErth]

Originally Posted by Netkeeper

What do people that don't do fan stuff even do with their time.

Probably still subscribe to the notion that adulthood is supposed to be boring. How sad.

In a day and age where many at the very least geek out over popular series like Walking Dead, Game of Thrones, etc., if someone doesn't have, at minimum, at least one thing along those lines that they're at least a little passionate about... Wow. Reading the stock market numbers in the Wall Street Journal every day is probably the most interesting they get. lol

[Vegita-San]

Originally Posted by IndigoErth

Probably still subscribe to the notion that adulthood is supposed to be boring. How sad.

i don't think you need to be in a fandom to have an interesting life.

but you SHOULD have some kind of passion that drives you to do something special.

just existing and being nice to each other is fine. but where is the fun in that?

[Andrew NDB]

Originally Posted by IndigoErth

Probably still subscribe to the notion that adulthood is supposed to be boring. How sad.

In a day and age where many at the very least geek out over popular series like Walking Dead, Game of Thrones, etc., if someone doesn't have, at minimum, at least one thing along those lines that they're at least a little passionate about... Wow. Reading the stock market numbers in the Wall Street Journal every day is probably the most interesting they get. lol

Hey, there's actually people like that out there. They don't enjoy movies, television shows... just as one example, I know more than a couple in real life whose seemingly sole passion is just coming home, turning on the news and, like, spending hours getting worked up watching political commentators pointing out all the things Trump did or said wrong on a given day and how "Any day now!!!" he's going to be impeached and/or in prison. It never happens, of course, so they just keep getting madder and madder everyday.

It's not healthy, really.

[Ninjinister]

Originally Posted by Andrew NDB

That was your first mistake.

I disagree.

[Prowler]

Originally Posted by Andrew NDB

Like with new friends, it's generally a bit of an embarrassment. It always goes about the same way.

"Oh... TMNT. Huh. Really?"

"Yeah, they're cool."

"Yeah, I used to like the cartoon. When I was 5."

"No, no no, not that. I don't like that at all."

And it becomes this big, awkward educating about the Mirage TMNT that never quite feels like I've actually gotten anywhere and possibly just dug myself in an even deeper, geekier hole.

Originally Posted by CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy

Literally every first conversation I've had with ANYONE on the TMNT since grade school. And usually also the last conversation.

Pretty much.

Saying you like TMNT is like saying you like pro wrestling or Sesame Street. People will think you're some sort of man-child. I mean, I guess they're kind of right but yeah people only know the 1987 series and the first 3 movies.

Liking TMNT isn't as socially acceptable as liking Batman or Marvel superheroes. No one takes TMNT seriously, let's face it.

Anyway, since I haven't been a teenager in a long time, liking TMNT or not is a non-factor when it comes to this thread's subject. Once you reach a certain age, no one cares if you watch cartoons, anime or play a lot of video games. No one is trying to come across as more mature than they actually are anymore.

[Powder]

It has never impeded me romantically. On the contrary, it has either helped, or been an otherwise positive thing that doesn't get in the way. Never once been criticized for it by a chick I was pursuing, or really anyone at all, for the most part. Part of that has to do with the fact I'm not a normie in the first place. I don't really associate with people who aren't completely mentally unhinged or obsessed with something nerdy, honestly. I like toy collectors, artists, musicians, weirdos. They always get it. Even in a toxic environment like the underground hip-hop scene, where people go really hard at trying to appear tough/masculine, everybody's got a comic book or horror movie series or something that they adore.

One chick I dated was only a very casual fan but actually fell for me because of my TMNT obsession. That was pretty cool. When I explained just how much it meant to me & why, that was apparently a green flag for the merit of my character. It showed that I was passionate about something, sought a positive outlet when at my worst, was a kid at heart, etc. Felt really good about that when she told me. We didn't share TMNT together, but it didn't complicate things whatsoever. She'd wear one of her TMNT shirts when we linked up & stuff to be cute.

Another chick I was with wasn't into it whatsoever but still made fan art for me & even bought TMNT undies to show off. That was pretty solid too.

My shorty who I've now been with for almost 4 years grew up watching the 4kids series (we're a few years apart) & has always had a peripheral fondness, though probably wouldn't call themselves a fan, per se. Nonetheless, because we are both major geeks who fixate on childhood favorites (theirs are Sonic/Digimon) we humor each other completely, & take in the various forms of media as a couple. We play Shredders Revenge together, they'll watch episodes or flicks with me on occasion, I excitedly show off new figures & the like. I've been gifted a lot of really incredible TMNT goods, fan art, autographs, & we've even co-developed turtle merch (stickers & prints). Couldn't be happier. It's the best relationship I've ever had, regardless of how TMNT factors into it, though the fact that it does so seamlessly, & fairly heavily, is definitely icing on the cake.

Nobody I've ever been with has laughed at it or anything. It's just one of those things that makes me who I am, & anyone who loves you (or even just wants to hook up) should take you with all parts included. If in the past I had met a girl I really liked but she was dismissive about the turtles, it wouldn't have lasted. But see, unlike a lot of people here, I have self awareness, so I know how to tow the line. As much as I obsess on any given thing, I never force it down other people's throats. One friend of mine quite literally ruined our relationship by ramming Star Wars up my ass all the time, despite the many, many instances I brought it up as being a serious issue.

[Coola Yagami]

Interesting. While it's not exactly a dating requirement, everyone I dated (or married) at least have fond memories of the 80s tmnt show. The last one was with me when the 2012 was new so we were equally invested in the new episodes until job schedules made us miss them.

[Leo656]

This might be the saddest thread I've ever seen, other than the one with the guy whining about how he couldn't get dates because he put LARP front-and-center on his dating profile like an absolute genius would.

I don't think being a TMNT fan "should" limit the type of trim you pull in, but realistically, it absolutely will. I promise you that Britney Spears cannot name more than two Ninja Turtles and neither can any girl who looks like her. If that's the kind of girl you want, best to keep the comics and toys in the "man cave". Them's the breaks. If you really don't care, then by all means, drop the "nerd sh*t" on the table upfront and let the chips fall. But most people do care about having a hot partner, even if they say they don't.

I mean, ideally it shouldn't matter, but nobody male or female ever got anyone into bed in the history of this planet by bragging about their massive comic book collection or their shelves full of mint-in-package action figures. The odds of making any sane adult run AWAY from you rather than TO you with that sh*t are exponentially weighted towards the former, no matter what age we live in. I don't care how much money "Endgame" made, chicks still don't get moist when you talk to 'em about Iron Man. Simply does not happen.

[Andrew NDB]

I remember a couple "when I was still dating"s ago, I brought this one lady home -- which is not a thing I generally did, at least as quickly -- and it still sticks with me. Everything was great up until the moment she walks into my bedroom, conversation amazing, totally vibing... then she's like looking around at all of the DC and Highlander action figures on my shelves, just floored, aghast. She told me, "Oh wow. I've never met one of you people." And everything was just straight downhill from there. Total disaster, because of that one thing.