"R. Kelly insisted I have a sex trainer"

[Prowler]

Another chapter in the R. Kelly book.

For two years, Asante McGee was a girlfriend of the now-disgraced R&B superstar, R. Kelly, but in the summer of 2016 she went to live in his house in Georgia. There were other women there, she discovered - and very strict rules.

Whenever I was in my room alone, that was when I would call home to speak to my children, as when I was with Robert, he didn't want us to have our phones and have contact with the outside world.

When I met Robert, or rather R. Kelly, it wasn't like meeting Prince Charming who swept me off my feet. He didn't wine and dine me, he was just a warm and funny guy. We did normal stuff; he took me shopping and we enjoyed having dinners together.

But there was a moment during a text exchange in 2014 when I think I should have known things weren't what they seemed. It was really early on in our relationship and I texted him, addressing him as Rob and he said: "No, can you just call me Daddy." There was no discussion - he just told me his demand. When I look back at that moment, reading the text message in my car, I should have questioned it. I should have seen his behaviour in that moment as a red flag.

I was first introduced to R. Kelly in September 2013 by a member of his entourage, when he was performing in a club in Atlanta to promote his next tour. However, we had a proper introduction in January 2014.

A member of his entourage invited me to hang out with R. Kelly and some of his friends. We went to the mall and we laughed and talked. We just hung out like two old friends. Before I left, he gave me his number and we immediately started texting each other.

We texted for weeks and one day he invited me to his concert in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, which was being held on February 13. After watching him perform on stage, he invited me back to his hotel room and we had our first sexual encounter.

After Valentine's Day, we kept in contact through text messages and he began inviting me to different concerts across America, and when he visited Atlanta, where I lived, I would stay with him from time to time.

While we were in a relationship together, he made it clear that I wasn't the only woman he was seeing. The fact that he told me he was dating and sleeping with other women, it made me feel like he was doing his best to be honest with me, so I accepted that and decided to stay in the relationship.

For the first two years of our relationship, everything was great. I would fly out and see him perform, and we would spend time together - and it worked for both of us.

On the Easter weekend of March 2016, he flew me out to Chicago, but I didn't hear from him for two days and then when I finally heard from him, he had someone come and pick me up to take me to the studio where he was recording.

However, I ended up being locked in a van from 11 o'clock in the morning to eight o'clock at night. When I was let out of the van, by members of his entourage and nephew, I found R. Kelly partying in the studio as if nothing had happened. He acted completely normal, but months later, I found out that locking me in a van was a test. He was testing my boundaries and playing mind games.

Then in May 2016, I flew to watch him perform in Dallas. After the concert, one of his assistants said you need to hurry up and get your clothes from the hotel.

I got my clothes and got into the van which was supposed to take me to Oklahoma, so I could catch a flight home to Atlanta, but the bus never stopped. We ended up in a huge house in John's Creek, Georgia. When I got off the bus and walked into the house, Robert said: "Welcome home, baby."

He gave me a tour of the house, showed me my room. So I thought I'd stay for the summer because my kids were staying with family for the holidays, which happens every year. So with my kids not going back to school until the end of August, I thought, "OK, I can stay and spend some time with him for a few extra weeks." It was never a permanent arrangement in my mind.

As soon as I moved in, he started inflicting both emotional and sexual abuse. No, he didn't force me to have sex with him, but he intimidated me to commit sexual acts and have threesomes with other women when I made it clear that I wasn't comfortable.

If I said I didn't want to do something he would shout at me and call me "stupid". He would tell me that the other girls who were also visiting or living in the house at the time with us had no problem with his sexual requests, so what was my problem? I felt degraded by his actions and his desires.

What caused even more tension between us was his trainer. Her role? Her role was to train me and the other girls how to sexually please and satisfy Robert. According to both Robert and her, they had been sexually involved together for 16 years, since she was 14 years old.

As she had been with him for so long, it was like she was the head girl in school and she used her position to verbally abuse me. I remember one day she and I got into an argument and Robert said I had "black woman syndrome". He said that I didn't like being told what to do by a younger black woman and that he wasn't going to let me, a black woman, tell him what to do.

There is a misconception that R. Kelly just preys on younger girls. That isn't true. Yes, he targets young girls more so, because they are more vulnerable, easier to manipulate and more likely to be star struck. I was 35 when I met R. Kelly and he knew I had experienced abuse in a previous relationship. He had me exactly where he wanted me, because he made me trust him. He made me believe he would never hurt me by getting me to open up about my history of abuse.

The hurt and pain didn't stop with sexual intimidation and emotional abuse. He was controlling.

Once, he grabbed my arm for wearing the wrong shirt. He had rules that I and the other girls who lived with him or had a sexual relationship with him had to follow.

One day, we were supposed to be going out and I was wearing a top with spaghetti straps and shorts. As soon as he saw me, he grabbed me and told me to change. I went upstairs and changed and instead of going out with the other girls, he made me come to the studio with him. When we got to the studio, he told me that my outfit intimidated the other girls in the house. He said that I needed to dress like the other girls, who were wearing tracksuits - but it was over 100F (38C) outside. When I said this, he didn't care.

He controlled every aspect of my life, while I lived with him. Myself and two other girls who were living with him while I was there could only eat when he said we could eat. Sometimes you could go a whole day without eating because he would simply forget to feed you or he didn't want to eat. I remember buying a bag of snacks when we went out and hiding them in my room, so I always had food. He even controlled when we could use the toilet or come out of our rooms. We would have to text or call and ask for permission to use the bathroom and if he didn't respond, you were allowed to come out of your room and stomp on the floor until he heard you.

The abuse and control was pushing me to my edge, but it wasn't just that. I would have to watch young girls, some as young as 18 years old, perform lewd sex acts on him and I just couldn't take it any more.

I started plotting my escape.

I called a friend who worked in the area and asked if she would pick me up. Later that day, my friend called me but because of the security and gates she wasn't able to drive up to the house. I knew I had to take my chance, so I packed my suitcase and decided to just walk out. Robert was outside talking to his staff and he looked shocked, he even chuckled: "So you are leaving?"

I just said: "Yes, I'm leaving." I carried on walking towards my friend's car and didn't look back.

I stayed with R. Kelly for three weeks in total. The week after I left he called me and said that I needed to apologise for walking out and that I had to come back home. I didn't.

A lot of the other women who have suffered abuse from R. Kelly have come together and keep each other lifted. I don't have any regrets telling my story and coming forward, not just because of whom my abuser was, but because saying out loud what I went through will help other women in similar situations tell their stories and for others to believe them.

https://www.bbc.com/news/stories-46964969

Man, this guy's quite a character...

[IndigoErth]

Wow, that is seriously messed up.

[Leo656]

BUT. "I Believe I Can Fly" has been the soundtrack for innumerable graduation ceremonies. So... yeah?

I have seen more than a few people cite that, with zero irony, as justification as to why "Y'all can't take R. Kelly from us."

Very strange, some peoples' priorities. I think even if Justin Bieber was accused of even half this sh*t, he would be taking a far greater beating in the court of public opinion. Regular non-famous guy gets accused with even 1/10th this much evidence? Life in prison, easily.

I'm amazed at what some people are allowed to get away with, and why. It's bizarre.

[Prowler]

Originally Posted by Leo656

BUT. "I Believe I Can Fly" has been the soundtrack for innumerable graduation ceremonies. So... yeah?

I have seen more than a few people cite that, with zero irony, as justification as to why "Y'all can't take R. Kelly from us."

Very strange, some peoples' priorities. I think even if Justin Bieber was accused of even half this sh*t, he would be taking a far greater beating in the court of public opinion. Regular non-famous guy gets accused with even 1/10th this much evidence? Life in prison, easily.

I'm amazed at what some people are allowed to get away with, and why. It's bizarre.

I guess it's because Space Jam was a big part of many of our childhoods.

But in all seriousness now, I've always heard of R. Kelly as being a prime example of rich people being able to get away with things people normally don't. Seriously, EVERY time there's a conversation about messed up things celebs do, R. Kelly's name is ALWAYS one of the first ones to pop up. Now I finally know why.

[Leo656]

I forget if it was where he's living now, or some city where he used to live, but in one of these articles some people talked about going to the local law enforcement and trying to get them to do something about R. Kelly.

The response was more or less, "We're aware of it, but too many white people like R. Kelly, so if we went after him it would be a public relations disaster."

It sounds ridiculous but it also makes perfect sense.

[Prowler]

Originally Posted by Leo656

I forget if it was where he's living now, or some city where he used to live, but in one of these articles some people talked about going to the local law enforcement and trying to get them to do something about R. Kelly.

The response was more or less, "We're aware of it, but too many white people like R. Kelly, so if we went after him it would be a public relations disaster."

It sounds ridiculous but it also makes perfect sense.

LMAO

[Leo656]

I wish I were joking. If I find the article I'll share it.

[Prowler]

R. Kelly pleads not guilty to sexual abuse charges in court

[Papenbrook]

That's terrible.

I hope he gets punished.

[Andrew NDB]

[Voltron]

How, exactly, does one become a "sex trainer"? Like, is there a class? Is it like going to DeVry or Lincoln Tech? Because that seems like a really weird thing to both be certified in and advertise.

"I'm licensed in TV VCR repair and I passed my "S"ATs. The "S" stands for sex. The other two letters are the same, I assume. I don't know what they mean, since I bombed the actual SATs."

[CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy]

Originally Posted by Voltron

How, exactly, does one become a "sex trainer"? Like, is there a class? Is it like going to DeVry or Lincoln Tech? Because that seems like a really weird thing to both be certified in and advertise.

"I'm licensed in TV VCR repair and I passed my "S"ATs. The "S" stands for sex. The other two letters are the same, I assume. I don't know what they mean, since I bombed the actual SATs."

Sex trainer?

Sounds like a personal trainer who's desperate and trying to make ends meet. By using their end as meat.

Or something. The analogy breaks down.

[Voltron]

Yeah, but the name implies training someone for sex. Which I imagine is like some sort of mix between perverted karate and a step aerobics class.

And, again, people like to see some certification. Am I supposed to just take the applicants word for it, or is there some sort of demonstration involved?

[CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy]

Originally Posted by Voltron

Yeah, but the name implies training someone for sex. Which I imagine is like some sort of mix between perverted karate and a step aerobics class.

And, again, people like to see some certification. Am I supposed to just take the applicants word for it, or is there some sort of demonstration involved?

You're supporting single moms who obviously don't have enough to wear. Need you overthink it?

Although, now that I think about it, don't most gyms and physical trainers give you the first session free?

[Voltron]

That's stripping, though, right? Chris Rock was pretty clear about the rules of the club.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9yBPcn8IqU


This is something different.

[Leo656]

You guys are awesome.

Originally Posted by CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy

Sex trainer?

Sounds like a personal trainer who's desperate and trying to make ends meet. By using their end as meat.

Or something. The analogy breaks down.

Hey, I'm personally certified for at least HALF of these things! Which is great, I've been looking for ways to expand my business.

Or "extend" my business, as the case may be. "Like, y'know, whateverrrrrrr," as the kids in Congress say.

[CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy]

Originally Posted by Leo656

You guys are awesome.



Hey, I'm personally certified for at least HALF of these things! Which is great, I've been looking for ways to expand my business.

Or "extend" my business, as the case may be. "Like, y'know, whateverrrrrrr," as the kids in Congress say.

Not sure your two and three-quarters inches of extra business will make much of a difference, but sure, champ, you do you.

[Andrew NDB]

Originally Posted by CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy

Not sure your two and three-quarters inches of extra business will make much of a difference, but sure, champ, you do you.

[Leo656]

Originally Posted by CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy

Not sure your two and three-quarters inches of extra business will make much of a difference, but sure, champ, you do you.

You're gay.

I'm at work, that's all I got. Make it more offensive, use your imagination.

[CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy]

Originally Posted by Leo656

You're gay.

I'm at work, that's all I got. Make it more offensive, use your imagination.

I'll pretend you just insinuated that I used to work as a zookeeper until I was fired for being, um, too friendly with the inmates.

There, does that work? I'm willing to let you have that one for free.