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Y'all need Jesus
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Haha, nah.
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10-12-2017, 06:23 PM | #44 | |
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That's hard to do when a parent is an alcoholic, has a personality disorder, or suffers from some other serious psychological issue. And it's all too easy for even well-behaved kids to become victims.
Also, if a kid curses at people, vandalizes property, spits on people, and acts badly, they had to have learned that behavior somewhere. That sort of thing doesn't develop in a vacuum.
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10-12-2017, 07:58 PM | #47 |
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Unless he/she has genetically severe mental/emotional issues, that kid most certainly has parents who should be ashamed at their clear failures; either terrible parenting or an utter lack of it. Whole family should probably at least start with counseling...
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I agree. If a kid acts out that badly and there is no illness involved, it is a clear failure in parenting where the kid has learned he will get his way if he causes a big enough scene.
My mother would have dragged me out of the public space and I would have gotten hell from both parents at home. Terrible behavior should never be rewarded just to shut the kid up. If he gets what he wants by screaming and causing a scene, guess what? Junior learned a new skill. ETA: “doesn’t want to be disciplined with ‘time outs’...”. WTF? What kid gets any say in the punishment? This puts too much power and control in the kids hands. I don’t care how you want to be punished. If you act out, there is a punishment. Period. Of my choosing.
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10-13-2017, 02:25 PM | #49 |
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I believe parents have a right to be treated with respect and honoured even if they're the most cruel and painful people you can imagine.
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10-13-2017, 02:37 PM | #50 |
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Katie, you don't have any kids, do you? Would you repeat the things your mother did with you if you did?
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10-13-2017, 02:55 PM | #51 |
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10-13-2017, 02:57 PM | #52 |
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Talk to them with decency and don't go out of your way to belittle them.
If they are doing something wrong, lovingly explain their error to them without the slightest hint of annoyance and sarcasm in your voice. If they ask you to do something thats not immoral, do it without questioning them. Respect their wishes and financially support them. If they wish to be left alone, do not disturb them but go out of your way to make sure they are doing well and let them know you'll always be there in case they need you. |
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Yeah, I never did truck with that Keep Sweet stuff.
I will always love my mother and father, but that doesn't mean I'm going to set myself on fire to keep them warm. I do feel the need to add that for much of my growing-up years my mom had a sign hanging in the family kitchen: Be nice to your children, they pick your nursing home.
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10-13-2017, 03:14 PM | #54 |
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I'm glad this is part of the definition. Because when you said "the most cruel and painful people you can imagine." Well I have a very good imagination. Let's just leave it at that.
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He’s a good kid though and that’s because before his mom died she raised him well and punished as necessary. And from what I understand we have similar styles in that regard.
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10-29-2017, 07:11 PM | #56 | ||
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I have to disagree. Just being "parents" does not automatically entitle them to be treated with respect if they are abusive or neglectful. Respect must be EARNED, even by a parent. Why should a child have to respect someone who does not treat them as a human being SHOULD be treated? This has always been one of my biggest gripes with so-called "Christian values". They are often full of hypocrisy and double standards. A parent who abuses their kids does NOT get to claim parenthood as a mantle of respect. They did not EARN it.
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One thing that really irritates me is that, just because someone is a parent, they have the right to "Smack" his/her child or deny them food to teach them right from wrong. I believe children can be taught with words. Consistency really is key, and that applies to just about anything. I mean, if you were making a batch of muffins, and they got burned, you'd start over again until they came out perfectly. Sure, it may take a while, but it'd be worth it in the end. The same rule applies to raising children. Parents should treat them with the same amount of respect as they want to be treated. Children are people, after all. I apologize if this sounds preachy. I'm just stating my opinion.
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Abusive people are not worthy of respect, regardless of how much DNA they contribute.
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Do I believe abuse is wrong? Yes, but I think there are certain degrees of respect everyone deserves regardless of what they have done, by virtue of who or what they are. And parents by that definition are always worthy of respectful treatment by their children in my book. |
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