Lonely Hearts Club

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

Rather than bog down Spitfire's romantic thread about how sweet his girlfriend is, I decided to start a special thread just for us singles to whine about our crushing loneliness. :)

Let the whining begin!

BTW my situation can still be summed up in this thread from a couple years ago. (http://www.thetechnodrome.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3982)

[Sewer Bull]

Well, being a single wouldn't be so shameful if it wasn't for happy paired society. Friends and family encourage you to pick up someone, settle down and just be content till the end of your life - like them.

I'm 22 and lately my further family told me it's high time to find myself a fiancee :o Yes, a fiancee, because the best age for marriage is below 25, according to them. How awful. I felt like Bridget Jones.

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

'tell 'em to shove it. Your family shouldn't tell you when to get married. It should be if you meet the right person, and you both decide to tie the knot.

[Ryona]

I'm 22 and lately my further family told me it's high time to find myself a fiancee :o Yes, a fiancee, because the best age for marriage is below 25, according to them. How awful. I felt like Bridget Jones.


Actually, these days now, around 30 is the ideal age to get married. ...er, that's if ya even want to get married.

[Anarky]

Sheesh, actually I don't mind being single. Well, especially not after tonight, since I noticed that there's quite some girls interested in me. I could pick, but hell I won't. I mean, it would be mean to "just pick a girlfriend" since this is not a casting show. But just the feeling that my regular, impolite, "f***-you"-attiduded, anarchist self bears something interesting for girls.

I do like that one girl though... :D

[ThirdMarioBro]

I'm doomed. I'm a geek who lives on his computer and is a gamer, also known as the un-marryable type.

There are so few gaming girls in the world and 99% of them are taken. All I ever wanted was someone to share my life with. Somone to sit down with at the end of the day and play a game of Tetris with, or to pound the ole Donkey Konga bongos with. Someone just to share life with. Witout the internet, I'd probobly just die of loneliness.

Sometimes I get pretty damn lonely. :cry:

Sheesh, actually I don't mind being single. Well, especially not after tonight, since I noticed that there's quite some girls interested in me. I could pick....

Lucky bastard :lol: ;)

[Anarky]

I'm doomed. I'm a geek who lives on his computer and is a gamer, also known as the un-marryable type.

There are so few gaming girls in the world and 99% of them are taken. All I ever wanted was someone to share my life with. Somone to sit down with at the end of the day and play a game of Tetris with, or to pound the ole Donkey Konga bongos with. Someone just to share life with. Witout the internet, I'd probobly just die of loneliness.

Sometimes I get pretty damn lonely. :cry:

Uhm, this might sound a bit blunt, or insensitive, but have you ever tried going out? I know it sounds like "blending in with the people you hate" but believe me, it's different.

[ThirdMarioBro]

No, it's not insensitive. I've been out, and for the most part, girls just snub at me around here. You've got to realize that Tulsa, Oklahoma is in the middle of the "bible belt" and around here, everyone is very country oriented and stuffy. In fact, my beliefs and opinions and intrests in life are about the opposite of everyone around here. That's what also contributes to making it so hard.

[Anarky]

The bible belt? Aw, crap... I heard stories. Lots of them. Is it really that bad?

And there really isn't one club where "non-conformist" people meet? Because I live in a city with about 16,000 people, we have liek a dozen clubs, 9 of them are Hip Hop and R'n'B-holes, and there's one bar that has been sort of my home away from home. I met so many people there, including 90% of all my previous girlfriends. The others were just... odd encounters.

[Raph's Girl]

Im single and haven't had a BF since 1998 and I don't care if I ever get married. My dad is satisfied with my step-sister's 2 boys so he doesn't bother me with questions as to if I'll ever get married or have kids. Due to all the issues my body has I can't have kids anyways and that's fine with me...can't stand kids. :P

Im a single computer geek and am somewhat satisfied as to where I am in life. Now if only I could get a job I'd like. :ohwell:

I DO go out tho...mostly to the bar up the street. :lol:

[Hannah]

...I don't like it when people want to have a date just so to HAVE one. Like, my one friend broke up with her b/f becuase he was beat up by a girl. And the next day she was all over this other guy and a week later came to me like she was high or something because he got her first kiss. I was like, "Jesus, chill. You should have saved that for someone you actually cared for. o_O" I'm pretty sure she won't be virgin for long. -.- My point is, don't get depressed over being single unless you really love someone and just cant have them. Be single and proud! I know I was. ...Then I met Shadow. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend; we were just friends for a while anyway.

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

My point is, don't get depressed over being single unless you really love someone and just cant have them.
That happens to be my situation. One, that I find myself constantly in.

And, I don't believe in just wanting a "trophy sweetheart" either, but a person does get lonely.

And, yes Anarky, the Bible-belt IS (irronically enough) hell! :lol:

[Jo Dawn]

All I ever wanted was someone to share my life with. Somone to sit down with at the end of the day and play a game of Tetris with, or to pound the ole Donkey Konga bongos with. Someone just to share life with. Witout the internet, I'd probobly just die of loneliness.

Sometimes I get pretty damn lonely. :cry:


Aww... *hugs TMB* We wub you. :)

*ears perk up* Did I hear Tetris??? I... love that game. If I start playing I am addicted and cannot stop. :D

My point is, don't get depressed over being single unless you really love someone and just cant have them.

Bingo, babe. My situation is a tad differnet. I'm a technical single. Without going into too much detail, my guy friend and I have been 'more than' for over a year now, but, due to... 'things' we're not technically going out. But he doesn't go out with anyone else, and neither do I. *coughs* But there you have it. We're in limbo, and limbo sucks.

By the way... thankies for the nice comments in the other thread. At least they made me smile tonight. :)

[GK Punk]

One day, Dawn, I demand a Game of Tetris against you.
(I believe I made this challenge once before also!)

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

Bingo, babe. My situation is a tad differnet. I'm a technical single. Without going into too much detail, my guy friend and I have been 'more than' for over a year now, but, due to... 'things' we're not technically going out. But he doesn't go out with anyone else, and neither do I. *coughs* But there you have it. We're in limbo, and limbo sucks.
I see ;)
But, at least you sort of have someone. At least, you're not crushing on an old friend that now lives 4 states away.

[Hannah]

At least, you're not crushing on an old friend that now lives 4 states away.
At least, you're only a few states away and not at opposite ends of the US.

[Ryona]

I'm doomed. I'm a geek who lives on his computer and is a gamer, also known as the un-marryable type.

There are so few gaming girls in the world and 99% of them are taken. All I ever wanted was someone to share my life with. Somone to sit down with at the end of the day and play a game of Tetris with, or to pound the ole Donkey Konga bongos with. Someone just to share life with. Witout the internet, I'd probobly just die of loneliness.

Sometimes I get pretty damn lonely. :cry:


You'll find her, TMB. Believe me, there's much more girls out there who like to play video games than you think.
You're a nice and interesting guy. One of them will eventualy get drawn to your charm. ;)

[Jo Dawn]

One day, Dawn, I demand a Game of Tetris against you.
(I believe I made this challenge once before also!)

*nods* So it shall be, Alison...

<<Level 18, bay-bee!! ;) :)

But, at least you sort of have someone. At least, you're not crushing on an old friend that now lives 4 states away.

This is almost worse than anything... It's right THERE but it's not. It can be very... trying... at times.

[Ryona]

This is almost worse than anything... It's right THERE but it's not. It can be very... trying... at times.


*hugs* Oh, Jo... I know how crappy it's been for you...
I swear, your man needs to be like, jolted off his feet to wake him up and get the relationship moving again. It's been set on "stand by" for too long. ;)

[愛]

Being single isn't a bad deal. You can do whatever you want without worrying about some kind of set schedule. It gets lonely at times, but hey. Screw it. There are games to be played.

[Peanut]

You're just saying that because you know you're going to die alone.

[愛]

Yeah, I know. Gotta cover it up somehow, though.

[ThirdMarioBro]

*nods* So it shall be, Alison...
<<Level 18, bay-bee!! ;) :)


Level 23

pwned ;)

btw, the DS version will be online, so I'm going to kill you all. :D

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

This is almost worse than anything... It's right THERE but it's not. It can be very... trying... at times.Well, all I can say is, I hope things get better for you soon.

[Kali]

Twenty-two years of single bliss,
Without so much as a single kiss. :D

Though I do think it would be nice to find someone I didn’t get the urge to kill every time they spoke. I’m sure there’s someone, somewhere. I mean, you people are proof that there are human beings who aren’t complete morons…

((And I used to be the Tetris Queen! But I am so out of practice… :dead: ))

[That Matt Guy]

You are never alone when you have liquor.

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

Amen Matt! :lol:

[Anarky]

Twenty-two years of single bliss,
Without so much as a single kiss. :D

Though I do think it would be nice to find someone I didn’t get the urge to kill every time they spoke. I’m sure there’s someone, somewhere. I mean, you people are proof that there are human beings who aren’t complete morons…

((And I used to be the Tetris Queen! But I am so out of practice… :dead: ))

Do I just get a slight feeling of misanthropy here? :D People aren't that bad... occasionally.

You are never alone when you have liquor.
But you also have major hangovers. Ask me... and I've got to go to a funeral now. Argh, and I'd love to sleep until I can at least walk straight.

[ThirdMarioBro]

Just go to E3, where the women are paid to fondle you and Konami hands out passes to strip club.

I kid, I kid

......but not about the Konami part.

[Dane E5R]

Not to rain on anyone's parade, here... But I've grown a bit tired of that old "you'll find someone" cliche. I mean, I'm sure I'll eventually get married and settle down, but I just hate how people make it seem as though it's some law of nature that everyone will find that special someone. That's fairytale talk, and if there's one thing I've learned, it's that life ain't nothin' like a fairytale.

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

But, it's such a sweet lie.

[Sewer Bull]

Not to rain on anyone's parade, here... But I've grown a bit tired of that old "you'll find someone" cliche. I mean, I'm sure I'll eventually get married and settle down, but I just hate how people make it seem as though it's some law of nature that everyone will find that special someone. That's fairytale talk, and if there's one thing I've learned, it's that life ain't nothin' like a fairytale.

Amen to that. And how come only marriage can guarantee happiness and well-being...
The more dangerous cliche from "you'll find someone" is "find yourself someone". Like it was so easy. Just go to bar and pick up anyone.
And about my further family - their words of wisdom have no significance for me because I meet them once in 3-4 months and the fact is my elder cousins have already married their spouses, therefore I'm the next guy in the line so they have someone to gossip about during family reunions. Yeah. I bet my current "girlfriend-in-spe" would officially freak out if I popped a question right now :lol:

[XERO]

Question:

Why do we always have to find 'someone?'

Why can't 'someone' find us for a change?

[GK Punk]

Question:

Why do we always have to find 'someone?'

Why can't 'someone' find us for a change?

That's how it's always been for me. The girl always finds me. I guess I've just been lucky?

[Barkworm]

No dude, you're drop-dead sexy unlike us. ;)
I've just met one of my former classmates from Junior High. He always liked me although I always thought he was kind of a dumbass. Well, he WAS dumb but a nice guy... somehow. Anyway, he had his brandnew family with him: one hell of a nice wife and a supercute baby-son. I started wondering what I've actually done wth my life so far...

[愛]

Not to rain on anyone's parade, here... But I've grown a bit tired of that old "you'll find someone" cliche. I mean, I'm sure I'll eventually get married and settle down, but I just hate how people make it seem as though it's some law of nature that everyone will find that special someone. That's fairytale talk, and if there's one thing I've learned, it's that life ain't nothin' like a fairytale.

Guess I am going to die alone.

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

That's how it's always been for me. The girl always finds me. I guess I've just been lucky?
So, I've noticed.

[Peanut]

That's how it's always been for me. The girl always finds me. I guess I've just been lucky?

Yeah, same with me. When I see people talking about having all this relationship trouble...I can never relate to them. We must be the lucky ones.

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

I would like to say for the record that I do not believe that EVERYONE needs to be in a couple to be happy, but I don't believe that EVERYONE can be happy alone either. It depends on the individual. (And I agree that realitives pressuring someone to get married is total B.S.).

The point is, if you're "Happy to be single" then, good for you, now PLEASE stop ruining our perfectly good whine-fest! Not, every single sees the advantages and we shouldn't have to justify our loneliness to you guys. I appreciate that you're trying to help (especially you Hannah, who makes some good points), but we can't just will ourselves to be like you.

I swear you'd knock the ice-cream from our hands if we were doing this in real life. :lol:

[ThirdMarioBro]

Yeah, same with me. When I see people talking about having all this relationship trouble...I can never relate to them. We must be the lucky ones.

*grabs a needle and takes DNA samples from Peanut and Gk*

Now, to clone me some faramones...

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

:lol: Now there's an idea. :lol:

[Ryona]

I would like to say for the record that I do not believe that EVERYONE needs to be in a couple to be happy, but I don't believe that EVERYONE can be happy alone either. It depends on the individual. (And I agree that realitives pressuring someone to get married is total B.S.).

Well said, Tetsu.

Believe me, relationships infact can and will most likely make you more unhappy than being alone. They can be ugly... REAL ugly.

I'm totally fine and happy being single right now. I have enough friends to laugh and have fun with, plenty of things to do in this active and adventurous city, and I know I can get a date whenever I feel like it.

Life is good when you're single. :)

Life gets complicated when you're in a relationship. :dead:



If you have friends that you can do certain physical activities with, more power to you! :D :oops:

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

Good For You!

But, actually, I was directing that at the people here trying to talk me into not being lonely. I was trying to say that while there certainly are some people (obviously you) who are happier single, I believe I'd be happier if I wasn't.

I was just pointing out that just because I wish i had someone, doesn't mean I think everybody needs to.

[ThirdMarioBro]

To each their own. i just believe I've got to get out of this state.region if I ever want to find someone anywhere close to me in compatability.

[Ryona]

Come to Toronto, TMB! You would be adored be women here! ;) :D

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

Yeah, I can understand wanting to move out of the bible belt myself. I'm stuck in that region too, and even leaving romance aside, I need to get the hell out of here!

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

I've been to Canada. It does ROCK! (except the food) TMB, You'd love it.

Edit: Forgive the double-post. Wasn't thinking (where's the delete icon anyway?)

[Ryona]

I've been to Canada. It does ROCK! (except the food) TMB, You'd love it.


The food isn't great here? :-?
You really need to find the good places. our sushi restaurants are awesome! :D

[ThirdMarioBro]

Believe me, I consider it weekly. Sounds like a paradise compared to here.

[GK Punk]

Dude, in San Jose we own your souls with Sushi resturants :D
(The heavy Japanese community here helps that...)

[Peanut]

I've been to Canada. It does ROCK! (except the food)

How is our food any different? :-?

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

Haven't eaten sushi in Canada, yet. But, I've never eaten sushi I didn't like.

Everything, Ive ever eaten in a canadian restaurant has been dry and flavourless. But their groceries are fresh and tasty, so I'm really just reffering to places like that crappy place "Yesterday's" in Ottawa. If you do your own cooking or can find the Japanese restaurants you'll be fine, but heed this warning....

NEVER EAT A CANADIAN HAMBURGER! I don't know how many places my cousin and I looked for a decent hamburger, but believe me if there's a food to sneak across the border, it's that. Same with pizza, steak, and lasagna, searched high and low, was dissapointed.

Of course, your tastes may vary.

[Ryona]

I can't speak for Ottawa... but most pizza joints in Toronto are great. Especially Pizza Gigi and Pizzaville. :D

[Peanut]

It's exactly the same! I've never even heard of "Yesterday's" it definately isn't a chain, and if it is, it isn't big. Pizza...we have Dominos, Pizza Hut...I'd like to know what exactly you were looking for. As for our hamburgers..well...you do realize America gets most of their beef from us..right? There's little to no difference in food between US and Canada, so I have no clue what you're talking about.

[That Matt Guy]

Yeah, I can understand wanting to move out of the bible belt myself. I'm stuck in that region too, and even leaving romance aside, I need to get the hell out of here!

What the hell? I live in the middle of the so-called "bible belt" a term of which I have never used or heard anyone else use in conversation. I find girls from the south, or at least Texas, to be some of the most outgoing and friendly. If you can't get a date here then there is something wrong with you. But I have been to Oklahoma, and good god all I saw were old people... everywhere.

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

It's exactly the same! I've never even heard of "Yesterday's" it definately isn't a chain, and if it is, it isn't big. Pizza...we have Dominos, Pizza Hut...I'd like to know what exactly you were looking for. As for our hamburgers..well...you do realize America gets most of their beef from us..right? There's little to no difference in food between US and Canada, so I have no clue what you're talking about.

I can't explain it, I just know I had serious trouble finding good RESTAURANT food in Canada. Maybe, it's a "culteral difference", and our restaurant food also tastes bad to you. Or, maybe it's just Ottawa (which is a beautiful city BTW, if you've never been to your capital, visit it! But, pack a lunch.)

You should know, I don't judge countries by their burgers. I think Canada is a beautiful country that frankly I'd prefer to live in than this one. But, I'd be wary when going out to eat.

[ThirdMarioBro]

But I have been to Oklahoma, and good god all I saw were old people... everywhere.

My point exactly *shudder*

[GK Punk]

What the hell? I live in the middle of the so-called "bible belt" a term of which I have never used or heard anyone else use in conversation. I find girls from the south, or at least Texas, to be some of the most outgoing and friendly. If you can't get a date here then there is something wrong with you. But I have been to Oklahoma, and good god all I saw were old people... everywhere.

That's funny you say that, I was in Oklahoma recently and was thinking the same thing.

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

You guys haven't seen Florida in a while....

[ThirdMarioBro]

They speak the truth. I'm surrounded by fogeys here. HEEEEELP MEEEEEE

;) :lol:

[GK Punk]

all this talk of Canada's bad food Make's Bret Hart Cry :(
We can't have that :(

[Tetsu Deinonychus]

Yeah, let's drop it. For Bret!

[JameO]

I guess I will put this here, it fits with Spit's story but I thought to throw it in here. I have a rather weird situation as well, like Hannah and others, mine is an online relationship. She lives in Texas, and I am in Canada, seems like I win for furthest! In my area and with my shyness and my luck I haven't turned up a girl around here. So I have known her for over 3 years but it got serious lately, and I really do love her. As in spitfire's case, she is great and I do treat her great like Spit, and I am there for her, but wish I could be there for her in real life. Once we both get school done, it will progress from there, with the possibility of her moving up here. And that is my life story, I have found that special someone, just too bad it was behind a computer screen. But I don't regret it one bit. And yes, for Bret!

[ThirdMarioBro]

You're a lucky man JameO. Really. You may have to wait a while, but at least you know she's there.

[Peanut]

all this talk of Canada's bad food Make's Bret Hart Cry :(
We can't have that :(

Dude, Bret does commercials for Pizza Pizza up here! They rule!

"I'm warning you, eating any other pizza is like wanting to get trapped in the sharpshooter! Ya just don't do it! Pizza Pizza, best there is, best there was, and the best there ever will be!"

[JameO]

No way! I haven't seen that! Damnit! That sounds intense! I must watch tv a bit more, what channel you see it on?

[Jo Dawn]

Not to rain on anyone's parade, here... But I've grown a bit tired of that old "you'll find someone" cliche. I mean, I'm sure I'll eventually get married and settle down, but I just hate how people make it seem as though it's some law of nature that everyone will find that special someone. That's fairytale talk, and if there's one thing I've learned, it's that life ain't nothin' like a fairytale.

Touche!! Life is nowhere NEAR 'fairytale'.

Question:

Why do we always have to find 'someone?'

Why can't 'someone' find us for a change?


If I waited for someone to 'find' me... well... I'll be here I am now.

Believe me, relationships infact can and will most likely make you more unhappy than being alone. They can be ugly... REAL ugly.

...Yeah. That's very true.

and I know I can get a date whenever I feel like it.

Tha's 'cause you're sessy. ;)

If you have friends that you can do certain physical activities with, more power to you!

... ;)

[Ryona]

Tha's 'cause you're sessy. ;)


Aww! You too, sweety! ^_^

[Jester]

*hopes to find some one soon....or his head willl explode*

[Ryona]

You'll find someone, Jester...
you just gotta work on being less annoying. ;)

[Jester]

I thought i was charming....

*runs away crying*

[Hannah]

YAY I see my name up there

[Storm Wolf]

You guys haven't seen Florida in a while....


OMG....someone else knows about this!

Florida is the Senior Citizen capital of the world!

Try living there and finding a "special someone"....it's damn near impossible to find someone below the age of 55 and above the age of 15.....especially if you're living in the Marion County area. :ohwell: