My mom sucks.

[tasuki]

You know I lived with my mom for a long time, and then I went to live with my dad. I thought things would be better where I am now instead of with my mom. (my mom is bipolar [if you don't nkow what that means then it's a desease where a person has sort of a split personality and they are manic depressant) Now, I'm not so sure. My mom was abusive, but my dad neglects me somewhat, I mean it's not like I don't get enough to eat or anything, but it's kind of like mental neglect if you know what I mean. But anyways I want to go back to live with my mom because I don't like my school. I mean this school I'm in is full of shallow people, and they get me so ticked off all the time, I would have never gotten this ticked off with people back at the school my mom lived by. (I'm not talking about you angel queen or tiger powers [sorry if I offend you in any way tiger powers.]) I just wanted to see what you guys think about me moving back. If you're confussed on the situation just ask me more questions.

[SlayerX]

Well if this is for anyone to answer, I would say to do whatever feels right for you. I'm not psychologist or whatever but do whatever you feel is right, and has the more advatages for you 8)

[cqb101]

No comment.

[J Legault]

That doesn't really sound like a good neighborhood.

So like me get this straight: Your mom has a certain medical problem

And your school treats you like a stranger.

That's tough. A true mom wouldn't be on drugs,cansier, or something else.
I may not be a miricle worker but moving out could be one choose. There's better places to visit and great things to view. But that's my suggestion so the choose is yours.

[That Matt Guy]

Well that's life, GET OVER IT!

[kyabetsu]

**SMACKS MATT!!**
i hope some one tells you that some day when YOUR life sucks. That's one of the rudest things you can do! If you just don't EMPATHIZE, then DON'T respond! sheesh. i think you owe Tasuki an apology. This isn't a thread about pokemon or Gummi Bears or paint ball or PROM... you've no call to be that mean.


Tasuki--
look. i don't know much about the situation. But is you mom getting help for her condition? Because Bipolar (and yeah... obviously this varies from person to person, but GENERALLY SPEAKING) can be treated with the proper medication and psychotherapy.

Now if the only times she's abusive are during her Manic states, and she can PROVE that she's making progress to overcome her troubles, then yes, i'd say to go home and show her all the love and support you can.

But UNTIL she makes progress to the point where you would NOT feel that you are being abused to live with her, i'd stay where you are. Your dad is NOT sick, so logically, he should be the easiest one to get through to...

I understand that Logic is hardly the "be all, end all" answer to these situations, but have you sat down with him and told him frankly and honestly that you feel ALONE in his home? That he doesn't seem to care for you the way you feel that family should? That you're lost socially in your school? That it's bad enough that you think MAYBE you'd rather return to an abusive home than continue to live there with him if NOTHING CHANGES?

i know that if i were anyone's dad, THAT would be a HELL of a wake-up call. If i cared about my daughter at all, i'd make more of an effort to come HOME to her. To pay attention to her, and to be a FATHER in the FULL meaning of the definition to her.

Now, having said that.... again, i know that i don't know either of your parents. but you must do what's best for YOU. Even if that involves going off to live with an aunt, uncle, grandfather, or family friend until your mom has gotten HELP and made a SIGNIFICANT recovery or your dad figures out what FAMILY means.


don't know if that helps. but if you're REALLY at a loss, i'd suggest talking to a school counsellor... b/c girl... you should NOT EVER go back into an abuse situation. EVER. but a professional can help you with that way more than i can. He/She may see more options than either you or I.

but good luck. and don't get too down, girl. it does work out. really.

[That Matt Guy]

**SMACKS MATT!!**
i hope some one tells you that some day when YOUR life sucks. That's one of the rudest things you can do! If you just don't EMPATHIZE, then DON'T respond! sheesh. i think you owe Tasuki an apology. This isn't a thread about pokemon or Gummi Bears or paint ball or PROM... you've no call to be that mean.

I'm tired of listening/reading to people whine and bitch about their wussy little problems. I don't owe anyone an apology, Tasuki posted this on here and that's what I think about it.

[Machias Banshee]

I'm tired of listening/reading to people whine and
bitch about their wussy little problems. I don't owe anyone an apology, Tasuki posted this on here and that's what I think about it.

I'm tired of seeing people downtalk others. Tasuki came on here for advice, because we're his Friends...Please, just be a lil more careful with what you say, k?

[JameO]

If your mom is abusive then it's no good for you to go back there. Atleast your dad doesn't abuse you although neglect is bad as well. I think you should stay at your dad's and maybe try to get the people to like what you like or find some similarities. Or just transfer to a school that might have better people that won't be shallow. If there are no schools close then maybe just live with the school your in. Finish school and forget all about it.

[tasuki]

I'm tired of listening/reading to people whine and
bitch about their wussy little problems. I don't owe anyone an apology, Tasuki posted this on here and that's what I think about it.

I'm tired of seeing people downtalk others. Tasuki came on here for advice, because we're his Friends...Please, just be a lil more careful with what you say, k?

Well, I appreciate you sticking up for me and all, but I'm a girl not a guy...... just thought I'd let you know.

[greensborohill]

I don't think bilpolar is something you ever cure. I dated a girl who was bipolar for 6+ months. They were the worst 6 months of my life. All bipolar people do is take pills in increasing doses until they get immune to them then they try a new sort of pill in increasing doses until they get immune to that pill and then they move on. There is no getting better. It is something that will have to be dealt with for life. I thought I was strong enough to deal with it but I was not. I can't understand never being happy. She claimed she was never happy. . . I on the other hand am always happy and can't think of a time when I was not.

Your situation differes in that she is your mom and can't disown her. When you grow up and move out your relationship probably will be vastly different. For now however, you gotta suck it up and live with one of them!

[Tinselcat]

I agree with triceraton, you should do what feels right. but consider that an abusive relationship is a serious problem, and you shouldn't have to deal with something like that. but i probably don't know enough about the situation to make any kind of judgements. while it's good to confide in your friends, you might also want to talk to a school counseler. i know they can be kind of... nutty. and annoying. but they are there to help, and may offer some insights from a proffessional's perspective.

you've got my support, buddy! hang in there! i second Kyabetsu in the matter!

[tasuki]

I don't know I don't really feel satified with what you guys are saying, maybe I just haven't said enough about my sitaution. I don't really want to get into details, but I will say a little more. I guess it's kind of like she's (my mom) still a little kid. She fights everyone and everything until she gets what she wants, and in the end it's almost as though she reconstructs in her mind what has really happened so that she won't be at fault, and she believes her false memories. Everyone is her enemy. No one can be stronger or smarter or wiser than she is in her world, and to prevent that from not being true she diverts people from believing what is really true and she takes herself with whatever she says is true. I guess what I mean is she uses a lot of propaganda. And you know how the average syblings fight all the time, one doesn't want something because the other one does........... well my mom is like that to everyone.
As for my dad well....... I've told him before how I felt about my situation, but he's so passive and won't get anyone done. When he got a note from the cunsilor that they thought something was wrong with me he asked me how I felt, and then he did what he always does. He stays the workaholic that he is, and then starts to blabber on about money, money money (my mom does that too.) One day my dad went into my room and asked what I wanted from the store, and I wouldn't talk to him because I was upset, and he asked me if he wanted him to go get some knoves to slit my wrists with. That really upset me, even though he was just kidding. I didn't know what to think. Well, that's pretty much it for now.

[Kali]

Tasuki, you are asking our advice, but we cannot make your decisions for you. We can only give our opinions. While neither situation is good, sometimes it is necessary to go with the lesser of two evils (or in this case, bad situations.) Everyone eventually has one of these times in their lives, where no matter where you turn, it looks bad. However, like everything in life, it's only temporary. I've been where you are.

I'd make a list, the pros and cons of each situation, what you can and cannot live with and without. You can't change other people, but you can change yourself, not for their sake, but for yours. You can't sit around and wait for change and happiness to fall into your lap. If you can't change your life, change your perspective. Seek out that ray of sunshine.

I don't mean this to sound cold. In RL, you'd be getting this speech with a hug and a soothing voice. But I'm not a professional counselor, just someone whose advice was asked. This is the best I can do: It's not about being happy with your situation, it's about being happy with yourself.

[Tokka-B]

You could put them both in the looney hospital, they could take good care of them. Then you could either get fostered or have a relative take care of you or something...or get a connection where you'd relocate. It depends how old you are...

[That Matt Guy]

I don't know I don't really feel satified with what you guys are saying, maybe I just haven't said enough about my sitaution.

It sounds like you want the people on this board to solve you're problems :roll: ...

[Tokka-B]

Yea, he is basically telling us to type something for him, but not letting us know what to type... :roll:

Like I said, just call the looney hospital, maybe you can force them to say what you want us to... :roll:

[Cascadia]

I love my mom even though we have different views on how to have a lifestyle.

[Machias Banshee]

Matt, Tokka, Lay off of her. She's having a rough time as it is, I'm sure she doesnt need any crass comments from you, Please.

Show some tact.

[Tokka-B]

Excuse me for giving insight as to how to solve her problem, it's not my fault she doesn't "accept" it...

[tasuki]

I'm sorry if it sounds like it, but I'm not trying to get you to solve my problems. It's just that I am being boxed in from all sides. I'm a minor so I can't do much about my parents. The courts don't want to listen to what I have to say. Something that the court said, quote on quote, I'm only a minor it doesn't matter what I think. So I guess what I mean is....I guess it really doesn't matter what you guys say now, the court has made it pretty clear that it isn't my choice. I thank you all for the advice, but it doesn't look like I have a say in it anymore. :cry:

[Voltron]

Well it seems to me that you could argue to the court that not being allowed to speak is a violation of your rights, but you still are a minor so it doesn't seem like it'll do much even if you do get to talk.

As for your school "chums", please realize that shallow, mindless retards (like me) have, are, and always inhabit every inch of these planet. There is no running from them. Even if your other school was better, is it worth going back to a home where your mother is never garunteed to be the same person she was when you last saw her? The point is, if people are **** heads, get used to it. No matter where you go, they'll be there. I know what its like to surround yourself with souless bastards. My life has been a living hell for the past 13 years because no matter where I go, or who I meet, or what I do, I will always have to be around morons.
But as for the maternal situation: I almost killed myself two weeks ago because my mother said she didn't love me and hoped I died. Family is different from friends. If friends are assholes then you can shrug it off, family is something you have to live with for quite some time.

If you want my actual opinion, fight like hell to stay away from your mother (if she really is that abusive, I'm assuming) and learn to be self sufficient. What ever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. You can't be totally alone in your school; there's almost always someone to talk to. While rare, people who give a damn are out there.

I'm sure things will turn out just fine.

[kyabetsu]

Well it seems to me that you could argue to the court that not being allowed to speak is a violation of your rights, but you still are a minor so it doesn't seem like it'll do much even if you do get to talk.

As for your school "chums", please realize that shallow, mindless retards (like me) have, are, and always inhabit every inch of these planet. There is no running from them. Even if your other school was better, is it worth going back to a home where your mother is never garunteed to be the same person she was when you last saw her? The point is, if people are sh** heads, get used to it. No matter where you go, they'll be there. I know what its like to surround yourself with souless bastards. My life has been a living hell for the past 13 years because no matter where I go, or who I meet, or what I do, I will always have to be around morons.
But as for the maternal situation: I almost killed myself two weeks ago because my mother said she didn't love me and hoped I died. Family is different from friends. If friends are assholes then you can shrug it off, family is something you have to live with for quite some time.

If you want my actual opinion, fight like hell to stay away from your mother (if she really is that abusive, I'm assuming) and learn to be self sufficient. What ever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. You can't be totally alone in your school; there's almost always someone to talk to. While rare, people who give a damn are out there.

I'm sure things will turn out just fine.


wow.
Voltron, as of right now, i have a new found respect for you. i mean it. not only do i agree with you 100%... but i'm PROUD to be one of your fellow human beings.

seriously, Mr. V. you rock.


tasuki--
Please. yes. it'll suck. but Like Voltron says, be STRONG. it'll pass. You'll find those one or two very very special people who you CAN turn to. and they'll get you through to the point where you can look BACK and say, "Damn, i'm glad that's over."

... you're prolly up to HERE. w/ platitudes and "personal triumph stories"... but yeah. people repeat them so often because they're true.

[tasuki]

You're right,....... thanks. I'll keep that in mind. :evilgrin: