I need help! I have a father who abuses me when I have seizures

[Leofan26]

What can I do? He thinks for some reason that I'm faking some times and I've never given him reasons to think that. I have trouble trying to reason with him due to this, he seems to think he can push me harder like walk a dog when I'm in the middle of having one and think it's ok or leaving me alone in a car while having one. I don't know what to do and need tips, my mother is currently Busey planning my sisters wedding so she's gone 24/7 these days. I'm afraid to get taken away from my mom too, she helps take care of me, it's my dad. I'm sorry to bother you guy's I'm just concerned with my own life and need help with this, please and thank you.

[Whatswiththeheadbands?]

You could try and see an expert. Just wondering, what causes your seizures to happen?

[Leofan26]

You could try and see an expert. Just wondering, what causes your seizures to happen?

I have tons of them and different kinds too, it's not just one. My doctors all say never to leave me alone while having one or to push things on me and my father doesn't get that. I've tried to explain tons of times to him but once he gets some thing stuck in his head it's hard to change. Tons of things can set them off, mostly stress.

[Roseangelo]

This sounds like a pretty serious matter that isn't going to be solved by an Internet forum. You need to talk to a school counselor or other adult that you trust. Your dad is being negligent and harmful. Your mom isn't much better if she's allowing this. Have you talked to her? Your health is more important than a wedding.

[Whatswiththeheadbands?]

I have tons of them and different kinds too, it's not just one. My doctors all say never to leave me alone while having one or to push things on me and my father doesn't get that. I've tried to explain tons of times to him but once he gets some thing stuck in his head it's hard to change. Tons of things can set them off, mostly stress.

Yeah, i'm sorry about that. Giving advice is not my strongest point.

[AT-Man]

I think your dad might be afraid of it because he doesn't understand it, and then he reacts that way. He should be there with you to listen to what the doctor has to say and take heed.

[Leofan26]

This sounds like a pretty serious matter that isn't going to be solved by an Internet forum. You need to talk to a school counselor or other adult that you trust. Your dad is being negligent and harmful. Your mom isn't much better if she's allowing this. Have you talked to her? Your health is more important than a wedding.

It's kind of hard, like I said I'm afraid to get taken away from my mom, it's all very complicated. My own inner feelings I guess are fighting this in a way, I don't want my sister to get her thunder stolen, every girl should get the wedding they want, while I know it sounds stupid cuz my life is at danger at the same time. I love both of them, my dad's the only one who can take care of me. I don't know what to do..I can't drive either so this makes things even more harder for me :(

Edit;

He has gone to see the Doctors with me few times and he still doesn't get it. My mom thinks he does every thing to get his own way, even if it means going against his daughters health.

[Peanut]

It's kind of hard, like I said I'm afraid to get taken away from my mom, it's all very complicated. My own inner feelings I guess are fighting this in a way, I don't want my sister to get her thunder stolen, every girl should get the wedding they want, while I know it sounds stupid cuz my life is at danger at the same time. I love both of them, my dad's the only one who can take care of me. I don't know what to do..I can't drive either so this makes things even more harder for me :(

This is f*cking nonsense you need to get out of your head. A wedding isn't as important as your life and if your sister gets upset over you "stealing her thunder" than she has much bigger issues to worry about. Tell your mother first and if this doesn't rectify the situation tell an adult at your school and I'm sure they'll get that information to the right people.

Don't have your one and only life ruined by the ignorance of someone else.

[BubblyShell22]

Definitely agree with Peanut here. Your sister is selfish if she thinks that her wedding is more important than your health. Tell your mother and if that doesn't work, tell someone else to get this rectified. I know you don't want to get taken away from your parents, but it sounds to me like that would honestly be the best solution if things don't improve with your dad. You don't need to be put in danger like that.

[Refractive Reflections]

Right on point Peanut!

Leofan26, SPEAK up! Tell your mother, sister, another family member, a teacher, a school counselor! Depending on the severity of seizures, they could lead to harmful consequences if they are neglected like that (that's why your doctors tell your father that you aren't to be left alone when they occur). Your other family members shouldn't feel bothered by it, because its a significant life-affecting medical condition for you.

[Leofan26]

Updated Information..

I finally had a talk with my mom, only problem is my care taker who is a friend of mom and watches over me while my dad is gone to work and if my mom is off doing things for the wedding has threatened to tell the people who are taking care of my situations that she will tell them if my dad doesn't get better with watching over me. Turns out, both my parents can go to prison if they get tolled this, I don't want my mom to go to prison, I love her very much and she does do a good job looking after me, it's just this entire Month has been mostly about my sisters Wedding so my father who's been watching over me right now or when she's got things like going to her own Doctors. I'm really freaking out, this has now turned a major family problem :(

[Kas]

Fair enough you do not want to separate from your parents, but more important are you and your health, above all. If your father does not have enough "resources" to take care of your situation, you should find them in other people, like professionals.

[Refractive Reflections]

Updated Information..

I finally had a talk with my mom, only problem is my care taker who is a friend of mom and watches over me while my dad is gone to work and if my mom is off doing things for the wedding has threatened to tell the people who are taking care of my situations that she will tell them if my dad doesn't get better with watching over me. Turns out, both my parents can go to prison if they get tolled this, I don't want my mom to go to prison, I love her very much and she does do a good job looking after me, it's just this entire Month has been mostly about my sisters Wedding so my father who's been watching over me right now or when she's got things like going to her own Doctors. I'm really freaking out, this has now turned a major family problem :(

Well Leofan26, none of us can really give the "best" advice concerning your situation since we don't know the full extent of what's going on over there. But you have to understand that the way how you described your father being negligent/abusive, is causing us to firmly and urgently tell you to speak up about it. You have to speak to a counselor or somebody who knows the situation better that can give you a proper one-on-one conversation (and is looking out for your best interest with this medical condition), so you can find some resolution to this considering the extent of what you have told us.

But while you are deciding, I would highly suggest for you to reassess your definition of "love" and "support". While I understand that parents can be overburdened with many stresses in life (financial, raising kids, maintaining the home, careers, etc.), for someone to be willfully neglectful/abusive or to not take at least an effort in understanding, all concerning their child's health condition that is not consciously controllable, says a lot about the supposed "concern" or "love" of a parent.

From what you told us, your medical situation is very serious, possibly life-altering/threatening regarding how serious some seizures can be, and if your parents are not taking it as seriously as your doctors are... Well... that's certainly saying something about your parents' concern about you. I'm just sayin'...

I hope everything works out over there for you. :ohwell: