What things do you regret?

[Whatswiththeheadbands?]

What things do you regret?

Be aware that I'm going to go a bit personal here.

I regret not telling how i feel to the first girl i ever had feelings for how i feel about her.

I went through 2 years without telling her. Now, that i have left school, and she went to a different college to me, i don't see her anymore. I try texting her as a general conversation, nothing. I try Facebook, nothing. If i did tell her, nothing might have even happened, but at least i would get it off my system.

[Katie]

One thing which I will not say because it can never be corrected and there's no sense dwelling on it.

Except that one thing....I regret nothing in my life.

[BubblyShell22]

I have plenty of regrets, but I don't dwell on them and just look to the future. Everyone has something that they regret in life, but the key is to just move on and try to focus on the here and now. If you keep dwelling on what you regret, it will consume you, and that's not a good thing.

[Dirty Blond]

I regret telling some girl's boyfriend that we were seeing each other behind his back.

He knew, but I still should have just dismissed that relationship swiftly and quietly.

[blindturtle02]

I have plenty of regrets, but I don't dwell on them and just look to the future. Everyone has something that they regret in life, but the key is to just move on and try to focus on the here and now. If you keep dwelling on what you regret, it will consume you, and that's not a good thing.

Nice one Bubbly. I was thinking the same thing.

[BubblyShell22]

Yeah, I may have had past regrets, but I don't even remember them, but I don't regret anything at the moment, and that's good.

[Gin Rummy]

As long as you learn from your mistakes, you'll live a life without regrets.

[Mzx10484]

A person in my life would have deserved more attention. I regret it deeply. Now it's too late.

[Icebot]

I regret not getting my work done on time and it's because I like to go slow. I think the only way to get it done is to do it quickly but I like to think that slow and steady wins the race.

[KROW]

I shoulda bought that DVD when I first saw it at Walmart, because now it's gone.

[Krutch]

I regret not learning quick enough that being the nice guy only gets you so far. I had a serious problem with putting everyone else before me regardless of how much I was entitled or how much they didn't deserve it; I sacrificed a lot of what I wanted and its kind of left me with nothing now.

Beeing meek is a good quality to have, but you need to know when to fight for what you want. I wish I learned that a long, long time ago.

[plastroncafe]

I regret not taking advantage of opportunities when they presented themselves. Not ending relationships sooner. Not buying those kick-ass rocketship flannel sheets back in the day.

I think it's shortsighted to assume 'regret' means "Something That Keeps You Up At Night," rather than a mistake you've learned from and won't duplicate in the future.

I don't think having regrets automatically means you're unhappy with where you are.

[zkarlette]

I regret many, many things...but for today, it was eating that goddamned chocolate pastry.:ohwell:

[Bakushan]

I regret nothing. Nothing.

Every mistake is a lesson.

Every pain is a lesson.

Every hurt is a lesson.

You are who you are right now because of the sum of every regrettable thing you have ever done. So, don't regret it.

Without those things, you would not be who you are.

[Hazel-rah]

I prefer to think of them as life lessons over regrets. Everyone has things they wish they had done differently. Just try not to make the same mistake twice.

[snake]

Starting animal crossing.

[Vivi]

Starting animal crossing.

I regret stopping it. When I think of all those cockroaches in my house...

[zkarlette]

I regret stopping it. When I think of all those cockroaches in my house...

Ditto, and don't forget the weeds...but you can always get the ghost for that one.

[Jester]

Rushing into home ownership. My house is practically falling down around my ears...and there's little we can do about it.

[blindturtle02]

Rushing into home ownership. My house is practically falling down around my ears...and there's little we can do about it.

Oh dude I'm sorry. You've certainly got friends if you ever need to vent. That has to be stressful.

[Jester]

It's not as bad as it sounds...but it's certainly an old house that needs some repairs that we can't afford at the moment.

[BubblyShell22]

Yeah, but that still sucks, Jester. I just hope things work out for you soon.

[zkarlette]

Rushing into home ownership. My house is practically falling down around my ears...and there's little we can do about it.

Try to not think of this as much or it will drive you crazy, it is true what everybody says once you get a house you are always fixing something, make a list prioritizing the things that need to be fixed sooner and go from there little by little even if it takes years at some point you'll see it all start to come together, something's are also easy fixes that you can do yourself for a lot less money, or you can learn by checking out some you tube vids. We bought a fixer 5 years ago and we are still working on it but I try to do most of the handy work myself and I also do the contracting. If I save some money on some projects I get to spend it on the other projects that I really can't do myself.

[Whatswiththeheadbands?]

I shoulda bought that DVD when I first saw it at Walmart, because now it's gone.

What DVD was it?

[blindturtle02]

This may seem rather trivial, but I wish I'd held onto all the Mystery Science Theater episodes I taped off Scify some years ago. I had over half of those, I think. If Shout!factory ever makes a complete set of the episodes featuring Mike Nelson, I'd buy those. Joel is great but Mike tends to make me laugh harder for some reason. Sorry, the name KROW made me think of mst3k. And by the way, KROW, what DVD was it?! Don't do the 2 month hiatus thing and leave us in suspense lol! Yeah I see allot of great bargain buys at Walmart and never give in. Too many regrets to list on that front!

[Aaronardo]

Sorry for the bump .-.

If I had to regret anything, it would be going to a yard sale and finding that $2 SNES that came with A Link to the Past and Mortal Kombat 3 (it came with controllers and cords. The whole thing including the games was $2 altogether). Not being a Zelda fan at the time, I didn't really get it, so I sold it for about $20.

Damn.

[Icebot]

I'm regretting telling something that was supposed to be a secret. I didn't know it was supposed to be a secret and I feel really bad about it.

[Pagong]

I think I have a lot of regrets, but what can I do? I just keep moving forward and let the past be past. :)

But there's one thing I'd like to share though and that is when I forgot about the turtles and so now I missed buying figures that were probably a lot cheaper before. :lol:

[Whatswiththeheadbands?]

when I forgot about the turtles and so now I missed buying figures that were probably a lot cheaper before. :lol:

I feel the same way. I could have a nice set of NECA Turtle figures for £12 each, but i started to focus on other things, and when i came around to getting them, they were too rare and expensive.

[Pagong]

I feel the same way. I could have a nice set of NECA Turtle figures for £12 each, but i started to focus on other things, and when i came around to getting them, they were too rare and expensive.

That is exactly the figures I was talking about... *sigh*

[Memphis]

Being too damn stubborn to try to stop her or saying anything when things came to a head with my ex.

[The Green Ranger]

Not knowing I was bi earlier in life. Upon reflection, I know I was bi all along and just didn't realize it.

Not staying in college.
Not living life more.

Man I could write all day about my regrets.

[pennydreadful]

Man I could write all day about my regrets.

Ditto that.

My regret is that I spent so much of my life being ruled by my fear of failure - not having confidence in myself, not liking myself and basing my decisions and self-worth on arbitrary societal standards, on what I thought other people would approve of, not on what I wanted to do or be.

But hey, it's in the past, and I've overcome it. :)

My most immediate regret is that I allowed my mother's cat to fall asleep on my lap, and now I can't move without waking her. :lol:

[MsMarvelDuckie]

I have some regrets, and one of the biggest is that I don't get to see my little girl, as she currently lives in Iowa. She was adopted at birth by a friend of mine and her partner/wife, and I don't regret that decision, but they moved up north several years ago, so now I don't get to watch her grow up.

Another regret is that I didn't go to college (aside from a short-lived attempt to take on-line classes a few years ago). However, if I'd gone to college, I never would have gotten together with my husband, who is my best friend and is probably the best thing that ever happened to me, in spite of his health problems and our financial situation. So I guess there was a silver lining there. But I wonder how my life would have been different if I'd gone.

[pennydreadful]

I have some regrets, and one of the biggest is that I don't get to see my little girl, as she currently lives in Iowa. She was adopted at birth by a friend of mine and her partner/wife, and I don't regret that decision, but they moved up north several years ago, so now I don't get to watch her grow up.

That would've been a hard decision to make. :(

[blindturtle02]

Hear ya about the lapcat thing, Penny! Happens with mine all the time. Seriously, I think we've all been there when it comes to basing a few decisions on societal standards. That can be a pretty tough snare to escape on occasion. For me it was stuff like finding a wife, starting a family, etc. Society seems to say you've got to be married at such and such an age and making this or that amount of money. You have to have x amount of kids. Stuff like that. I think I quit worrying about all that stuff in my early/mid twenties when I started losing folks I cared about to terminal illnesses. Life's way too short to think about all that when I should be enjoying it with those I've got left. The other stuff started falling into place anyway, so the societal standards proved to be a big waste of time for me. I wish I could go back and kick my younger self in the...

[BubblyShell22]

Yeah, I hate that whole thing too. Mom and I were in Walmart last week and this elderly gentleman came up to us and started talking to us. He asked if I was married and I said no. Then he asked if I'd ever been married and I said no. He said, "Well how are you going to give your mom grandkids?" I stated that I didn't want kids and I didn't want to get married because it's just not for me. He was a nice guy, and I certainly don't hate him, but it just kind of bothered me the way he said it like I'm expected to get married and have kids when I don't want any of that.

[pennydreadful]

Another regret, and this is probably going to sound really stupid... that I allowed my social anxiety to deter me from going to Otep's concert when she played here the other year - and that I missed the opportunity to see/meet in person someone who's a big deal to me.

I know that sounds really minor, but she's my favourite musician, will probably never play here again, and her music played a really big part in my life when I was going through the absolute worst patch of my entire life (it sounds really emo to say "I felt like she was the only one who understood what I was feeling", but in this case it's true).

[blindturtle02]

Yeah, I was like that too several years ago. We're talkin back in HS. Doesn't sound stupid at all. Mine had to do with being abused physically as well as verbally by others. Got tuns better in college. I let the moronic behavior of a few get in the way of allot of things, actually. Simpsons and MST3K really helped through the worst of that. Seriously regret not telling parents or teachers about that kind of stuff now though. Probably could have gotten close to allot more people.

[Whatswiththeheadbands?]

I found an electric guitar at a fair today, and I regretted not buying that guitar.

[HotNunchuckFury]

Every morning I regret not going to bed earlier!

Seriously though, I don't really have any. I've made mistakes yeah, but I'm in a good place in my life right now and so I wouldn't want to change anything in my past for fear I wouldn't be living the same present, if that makes sense.

[Metalwolf]

Mine today: Eating four Reese's Big Cups peanut-butter cups. Argh, why did I do that? Those things are super-rich, and I KNOW they're super-rich, yet I did it anyway and am on the verge of developing a headache and sugar crash. I don't think I'll eat anymore tonight, I know that.

[Icebot]

I walked away when someone was talking to me but I still think I had a really good reason to do it. Someone was asking me something and I told him. He didn't hear me but I knew the first time he should have been able to hear me. I repeated myself 5 times and he still didn't hear what I said. I had a dangerously low level of tolerance for embarrassment and I felt it went too far. I knew in my heart there was no reason this should have happened. I felt it was right to rudely walk away from him.

[ZariusTwo]

I regret not keeping in contact with school friends after my days there were over. I find long-term contact very difficult beyond the extent of internet and immediate family

[Storm Eagle]

I regret offending someone who I both care about and respect a great deal, even though I have her forgiveness. We're still on good terms, but I still feel as though I can't apologize enough.

[Icebot]

Being myself.

[BubblyShell22]

Why should you regret that, Icebot? Being yourself is the best thing you can do.

My regret: Worrying about what other people think of me and not letting myself be who I am. I've learned since then, but that was a time that just was bad for me.

[pennydreadful]

My regret: Worrying about what other people think of me and not letting myself be who I am. I've learned since then, but that was a time that just was bad for me.

I think we all go through that time; it sucks and nothing is greater than the day when you can kick it in the butt and tell it to get lost!

[BubblyShell22]

Yes, exactly.

[Metroid]

I regret being overly-caring to people, not all people, but the ones who you are kind to and all they do is repay you with insults and disrespect

[Storm Eagle]

I regret being overly-caring to people, not all people, but the ones who you are kind to and all they do is repay you with insults and disrespect

Just simply be caring. Never overly-caring. Not that nobody will take advantage of you either way though.

[BubblyShell22]

I regret being overly-caring to people, not all people, but the ones who you are kind to and all they do is repay you with insults and disrespect

Yep, I hear you there all the way, MT. That's why if anyone does that, I simply stop caring about them and let them fend for themselves. That's what you have to do with people like that.

[pennydreadful]

Totes - you've got to set boundaries for how much of your emotional energy you're prepared to give someone who never gives anything back.

[Leo656]

My sins number in the multitudes. Many should never be spoken aloud. My regrets are many. I sincerely have no idea where I'll spend eternity, should anything like the Christian version of afterlife exist.

It bothers me, sometimes. I like to think having nothing but the best of intentions counts for something. But I'm not sure.

[BubblyShell22]

Honestly, I don't think you should worry about it, Leo. We all make mistakes, but the important thing is whether you learn from them or not. I don't believe in heaven or hell anyway, so I really don't care what happens to me when I die. If hell does exist and I go there simply for wanting to believe what I want to and not follow the herd, then so be it. I once told my mom that if heaven exists and I go there to face judgment, I'm going to look God straight in the eye, give him the finger and say, "You want to send me to Hell just because I don't believe in you, then f*ck you, God."

[pennydreadful]

My sins number in the multitudes. Many should never be spoken aloud. My regrets are many. I sincerely have no idea where I'll spend eternity, should anything like the Christian version of afterlife exist.

It bothers me, sometimes. I like to think having nothing but the best of intentions counts for something. But I'm not sure.

I wouldn't worry dude - even if you do go to hell, you'll be in good company. I'll see you there! ;)

[Storm Eagle]

My sins number in the multitudes. Many should never be spoken aloud. My regrets are many. I sincerely have no idea where I'll spend eternity, should anything like the Christian version of afterlife exist.

It bothers me, sometimes. I like to think having nothing but the best of intentions counts for something. But I'm not sure.

I know about having the best intentions. You can put the utmost thought into something before saying or doing it, and the results could still be disastrous.

Honestly, I don't think you should worry about it, Leo. We all make mistakes, but the important thing is whether you learn from them or not. I don't believe in heaven or hell anyway, so I really don't care what happens to me when I die. If hell does exist and I go there simply for wanting to believe what I want to and not follow the herd, then so be it. I once told my mom that if heaven exists and I go there to face judgment, I'm going to look God straight in the eye, give him the finger and say, "You want to send me to Hell just because I don't believe in you, then f*ck you, God."
................................

[BubblyShell22]

Ha, I rendered somebody speechless with that comment. Well, it's true, and I don't care.

[Leo656]

Eh, I get it. I don't know what I believe, so I can't presume on anyone's beliefs. I just know me and God never got along and probably never will. If He exists, I'd like to think he understands that, and I'm sure He knows the reasons.

[Slade]

Honestly, I don't think you should worry about it, Leo. We all make mistakes, but the important thing is whether you learn from them or not. I don't believe in heaven or hell anyway, so I really don't care what happens to me when I die. If hell does exist and I go there simply for wanting to believe what I want to and not follow the herd, then so be it. I once told my mom that if heaven exists and I go there to face judgment, I'm going to look God straight in the eye, give him the finger and say, "You want to send me to Hell just because I don't believe in you, then f*ck you, God."

No offense Bubbly, but I doubt that's how it would go down.


Not trying to start a religous debate either.

[Storm Eagle]

Ha, I rendered somebody speechless with that comment. Well, it's true, and I don't care.

Whatever tickles your peach.

[pennydreadful]

I regret never putting my hair into dredlocks when I had long hair. I'll never have the patience to grow my hair long enough to do it now.

[BubblyShell22]

No offense Bubbly, but I doubt that's how it would go down.


Not trying to start a religous debate either.

Psh, whatever. That's how I think it'll go down because I don't give a sh*t what happens to me when I die. All I care about is how I die and if God can't accept that I don't believe in him/her/it, then too bad. I have the right to believe how I want to, and if God wants to question me, I'll just say that I'm a human being and I have the right to choose my own path.

This is why I hate religion. I really really do.

[Leo656]

I could've wrestled at the ECW arena a few weeks ago with the Monster Factory crew but I had work. I should have just rescheduled the appointments. That was a huge f*ck-up on my part.

[BubblyShell22]

Oh, man, that sucks, Leo. That would have been so awesome for you, too. Did you know about the arena thing before you scheduled the appointments, or after?

[Leo656]

Well, I knew I had work and since it was during a slow patch I didn't want to take a chance trying to reschedule it. My gut told me it was the wrong move, but my wallet was saying "take the work while it's there".

Everyone on the Factory crew got to wrestle at The Arena - two of them had a tag match with Blue Meanie and Al Snow - and they don't really run shows there anymore. I'm going to hate myself forever. But it's done.

[Cure]

I'm going to look God straight in the eye, give him the finger and say, "You want to send me to Hell just because I don't believe in you, then f*ck you, God."

Whoa, you're so badass. Which eye are you gonna use to look Him in the eye, again? Your bad eye or your even worse eye?

[Leo656]

Too dark, I think. I confess, I almost spit out my food. But that's daaaaark.

[pennydreadful]

Cure... that was really unnecessary.

[BubblyShell22]

Whoa, you're so badass. Which eye are you gonna use to look Him in the eye, again? Your bad eye or your even worse eye?

Oh that is so mature of you. But to answer your question, the one I can see out of which is my left eye. And I don't care if my post offended you because I don't believe in any of that crap anyway. It's all just a myth created by humans, but if it turns out it is real and I go to Hell for not believing in some stupid myth, that's going to be my reaction. If you think about it, we're all going to Hell since, according to the Bible, even p*ssing and sh*tting is a sin. Just a thought.

[Icebot]

I regret going to work everyday. They always torture me there.

[NightwatchersOnlygirl]

I regert not doing my biker scout armuor when I had the time

[Slade]

Oh that is so mature of you. But to answer your question, the one I can see out of which is my left eye. And I don't care if my post offended you because I don't believe in any of that crap anyway. It's all just a myth created by humans, but if it turns out it is real and I go to Hell for not believing in some stupid myth, that's going to be my reaction. If you think about it, we're all going to Hell since, according to the Bible, even p*ssing and sh*tting is a sin. Just a thought.

Ughh...what??

[Lil G]

I sold a boxset of black & white NECA tmnt MIB for $40 right before they suddenly went extremely rare. My gosh that still gets to me sometimes.

[GildedLily]

Getting personal here and not sure if this is going to sound silly.

What I regret the most is not being able to tell my dad how much I loved him one more time and to say goodbye before he committed suicide. It's been one of the most life changing, hardest experience I have ever had to go through in life. And I've had 3 years of healing, but it still just kind of hangs on. He had issues and I truly feel his choice was the only option to be free from his pain and to watch over his family.

And sorry if the S word upsets anyone. It's not my intention.

[pennydreadful]

Hey Eri - sorry to hear that you had to go through that. *big hugs* It doesn't sound silly at all. And it takes a long time to heal from something like that - there's no right or wrong time frame for how long you need to recover.

[GildedLily]

Hey Eri - sorry to hear that you had to go through that. *big hugs* It doesn't sound silly at all. And it takes a long time to heal from something like that - there's no right or wrong time frame for how long you need to recover.

Thanks Penny. It's probably something that will stick with me for the rest of my life. I've gone through the motions, obviously, and there are a lot of emotions you go through when something like that happens. The main thing is I hope to maybe help others who feel as lost as he did someday. Even if talking with someone gives them an extra day; it'd be worth my time.

[Slade]

I regret not staying with certain females at times. Now that I think about it, I don't know if I regret it or just wonder what it would be like at times.

I do regret not hooking up with one when the opportunity presented itself.

[pennydreadful]

Thanks Penny. It's probably something that will stick with me for the rest of my life. I've gone through the motions, obviously, and there are a lot of emotions you go through when something like that happens. The main thing is I hope to maybe help others who feel as lost as he did someday. Even if talking with someone gives them an extra day; it'd be worth my time.

That's very admirable. I'm not a believer in the "everything happens for a reason" ethos, but I do think that if you can use the lousy stuff that's happened to you to ease the pain of others, it makes having gone through aforesaid lousy stuff a tiny bit less sucky.

[BubblyShell22]

Sorry to hear about that, Eri. That had to be very hard for you to deal with. But don't blame yourself because you didn't know it was going to happen, or did he exhibit signs of suicide or talk about it? Sometimes, people will commit suicide without showing any outward signs of depression. My cousin's best friend killed herself and never showed any signs that she wanted to.

And, RTD, I'll give you one of my fave Simpsons quotes to illustrate my point;

Rev. Lovejoy: Get a divorce.

Mrs. Lovejoy: Mmmhmmm.

Marge: But isn't that a sin?

Rev. Lovejoy: Marge, pretty much everything we do is a sin. *holds up Bible* Have you read this thing? Technically, we're not even allowed to go to the bathroom.

So, if you want to take the Bible literally based on that, we're all doomed for hell for performing our normal bodily functions.

[Slade]

Yeah, that quote is meant to be a joke.

[BubblyShell22]

Never struck me as a joke but whatever.

[Icebot]

Complaining to my boss at work about something that was bothering me. I always regret complaining.

[Slade]

Complaining to my boss at work about something that was bothering me. I always regret complaining.

Sometimes, complaining can be a good thing.

[Metroid]

Not replacing the Clutch on my 1967 El Camino sooner, would have helped a lot with the slipping

[Darthknuxward]

Not getting most of the Hero Factory Line when it was in store. Man I need to find Vapor...

[pandaderek]

Not buying a lot of the Alamo Drafthouse movie screening posters, before they became so popular. I purchased one, eight years back, for $30. Then, two years ago, I sold it for $1,350. If I knew the poster world would boom like that, I would have stocked up. Damn!

[shuriken]

I regret not suing some a**hole that doored me while I was on my bike, bruising my leg, dislocating a finger and jamming my wrist. All I did was angrily berate him for being an a**hole for not checking the bike lane. I coulda used that money...
^^This along with all other vehicular accidents I've had.
I regret dedicating so much time and energy on a particular someone that had outgrown me and moved on. I also regret working two years before going back to college.
I would like to think that All of my mistakes have helped me become who I am, and that everything happened for a reason. But sometimes I wonder if I woulda been more aggressive with certain things if I would be in a better place opposed to where I am.

[pandaderek]

I regret not suing some a**hole that doored me while I was on my bike, bruising my leg, dislocating a finger and jamming my wrist. All I did was angrily berate him for being an a**hole for not checking the bike lane. I coulda used that money...

Well, it might neutralize the regret knowing that you wouldn't have gotten more money than what medical bill(s) you've accumulated, as a result, from the accident. Most cases, unless you're unable to work or suffered extreme pain, would, only, order the person, that is at fault, to be stuck with any medical bills or repairs to any damage they've caused.

But, if you needed the money because of the medical bills that you've accumulated from the accident, then, you should check to see if you're still within the limitations to file a claim against the guy to reimburse you for the medical bills. Unless, you didn't get any info.

For any future accidents, even if you don't feel pain or saw that there wasn't any damage, ALWAYS, get the other person's information. That way, if something happened that you didn't notice, at first, you can file claims against the other person, within a certain time period, after the accident.

[shuriken]

^^ Good thing I heal quick. But yeah you're always supposed to get the information. Although at the moment I was extrememly upset and just wanted to get back to work.

[Icebot]

I regret showing up at my job today. My day was extremely awful.

[pennydreadful]

I regret not telling more people to f*ck off when I was younger. Oh for the confidence and self-awareness then that I have now...