Originally Posted by Leo656
Kids right now believe that if someone teases you, you hurt them. That's the problem. It's a damaged kind of thinking that needs to be rewired. Until we do that, nothing changes. You can't ignore a kid's emotional problems and then pull the "Not MY little angel" garbage, as has become the new standard. Every time this happens it turns out that NOBODY was keeping a close eye on these kids or intervening on their behalf - not parents, not teachers, not guidance counselors. Partly because they're told to stay out of it - but that's not working.
One of my clients is an elementary school teacher, and just yesterday was telling me how kids today are completely convinced everything they think and feel is correct, and you can't tell them otherwise. And if they start having behavioral problems, the school says you can't do anything but call the parents, who always, ALWAYS pull the "Not My Angel" sh*t, and accuse the teacher of being inattentive or not giving their kid 100% exclusive attention at the expense of everyone else, despite the fact they're not a babysitter or a counselor, they're just a teacher.
I've worked with several teachers over the last ten years and this isn't a new story. Most of them are also parents. I hear the same things, always: "Nobody's raising these kids right, they have no respect, no discipline, no empathy, they all want to be told they're perfect and special and they're never, ever wrong. And if they are, expect an angry phone call from Mommy and Daddy."
And people wonder why they pick up a gun when they don't get their way, or someone teases them.
But if we're not gonna talk about what's ACTUALLY going on, and get hung up on fairy tales, we may as well get used to this being a weekly thing.
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