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Originally Posted by Coola Yagami
Let's not forget also, once the arguing starts they will use every private, embarrassing, deeply personal thing you confided in them and throw it in your face.
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Hell yeah they do. That's something I was warned about when I was getting ready to go home from the center.
One of the male counselors pulled me aside to talk privately, and was like "I really can't talk to you the way I'm about to, I could get in big trouble for it, but here's the thing... personally, I wouldn't go back to your wife." Now, the idea of going home was one of the main things driving me the whole time, and he knew that. But he was very candid; "I've seen this a million times; when the man gets home, the woman in the situation will use this whole experience against them for the rest of their f*cking LIVES. She's gonna insult you, demean you, put you down, and if you ever speak out of turn, she's gonna remind you that she can ruin your whole life with one phone call and put you right back here, anytime she wants to. I can't tell you what to do - and again, I'm not supposed to pick sides or play favorites or talk about 'how women are' or anything... but that IS how they are, and I can promise you, that's exactly what's gonna happen. Almost every single one of the guys who leave here and go back to their wives end up right back here eventually."
I said I didn't think so, he wished me all the luck, and that's where it ended. I eventually got back home and was brimming with hope and optimism.
It took about 6 WEEKS for every single thing he'd predicted would happen to come true. All that self-improvement, shot to hell and down the drain because you really DO need to cut all ties with the toxic people in your life and start over in a brand new environment, or else those people - and 99% of the time, they're the ones "closest" to you - will do everything they can to keep you beneath and below them.
They're spiteful, petty, and vindictive. That's a Hard Rule. Exceptions? Sure, a few. They tend to be single, though, and not interested in relationships. Because all "relationships" rely on a system of subtle manipulation to maintain on either side and "good" women can't be bothered playing such games. So if a woman isn't a spiteful manipulator by nature, she's probably going to be single forever. That's just the way it is.
I mean, if you really pay attention to human beings... they're not at all complicated.