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Guys can I be real for a moment here.
Because you don't like what I'm saying, doesn't mean I'm triggered. I've post-traumatic stress disorder from a sexual assault. I can guarantee you none of you will ever be able to actually trigger me. If a mod would be so kind as to remove this tag, I would appreciate it. ... Wait, isn't double bagging it wearing a bag over your head just in case the one you put over your partner's falls off?
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Divorce itself is a valid option and it's fine that you're not socially shamed for it anymore, but what does it say about our society when it starts becoming more and more prevalent? Societal changes and also economic crisis(bad finances seem like a fine way to destroy a solid marriage)are most likely the root of the issue. And it's best society addresses that, since divorces can be very damaging to kids, for example. You're a woman? Well I'm a man and not everything is about "the bros" to me. Or is that a false equivalency? Quote:
Using two condoms. A lot of people I met back then believed it was safer to have sex with two condoms on at the same time, when in fact the friction of two condoms against each other increases the risk of the condoms tearing. Quote:
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Definitely.
Society constantly pressures people into relationships and family life, starting from school idiots boasting about their loss of virginity and to the relatives who constantly quip how you should marry and how they want grandkids. Can't say about Western society, though, I think, in this case it is legacy of religion wiping its feet for 2 thousand years on the humanity brain. But in Russia it is legacy of the fact that just 150 years ago most of Russia population were slaves and lived in a very old-school ways, like having arranged marriages, 10+ kids (to compensate for the insane high rate of infant mortality) and so on. Even though times have changed, a lot of people still believe that families should have lots of kids, that if you are not married at 20+ - you are some weirdo and so on. Which doesn't make sense, but a lot of things about society does not. Depends on the people. I know some couples who were together for more than 60 years. |
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My own parents were together for 40 years until my dad died. Which -- I think -- is exactly the point Plastron was trying to make in this instance.
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One thing that I don't understand is the concept of "dying alone"... I mean, if I die one day at 45 on my way home from work by suddenly collapsing on the street of a heart attack... what difference does it make whether I have a wife and kids waiting for me at home or not? "Dying alone" only seems to apply to people dying of a terminal illness such as cancer and having no one holding their hand while they're in a hospital bed waiting to die. But if your partner dies before you... you'll die alone too. Especially if you never had kids or have any other relatives to support you.
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I think it'd be a bit embarrassing, really. I'm with the cats. I'd rather go off somewhere and die quietly, away from prying eyes.
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In the sleep seems best. Some dream can just segue into nothing, as they do anyway. Though, man, I don't like at all the idea of someone waking up next to my dead body.
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Yeah dying during sleep seems fine, but waking up next to a dead body seems scary. Wouldn't wish that on anyone
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Worse yet, if you're truly alone? Imagine you die in your sleep and no one finds your body for a month. Two. Three. Yeesh... horrific to ponder.
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There's a lot of people out there that can very well be "the one" for you. I'm sure if many married people today had not met their spouse they most likely would have met someone and be just as happy with them. But ofc they'll never know that. I think we need to accept people for their flaws as well. The media paints relationships and sex in a very unrealistic manner. Also, looks deteriorate with age and you wont' be as sex driven when you're 50 as you are when you are 20. So even if your wife is hot, it's not like you're gonna be smashing her everyday for decades, and she certainly won't be 25-30 forever |
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Well, sdp, it's not really possible to have everything in common with someone. And I don't know if I'd want a woman that was basically me with gonads.
I mean if you can be friends with people who don't like every single thing you do and vice-versa, then you can accept a bf/gf having some different opinions and tastes than yours as well. When I was younger I was always ver excited to meet people who were into heavy metal, anime I liked, Nintendo and/or history; but I quickly realised that someone liking many of the same things as you do doesn't mean you'll connect. It definitely helps, but I've met people who share some of my interests and yet their personalities just don't mix well with my own. Last edited by Prowler; 11-17-2017 at 12:26 AM. |
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I don't believe in soulmates, but I do believe in the love of one's life. I think for everyone there's going to be one relationship by which all others get compared to, for whatever reason.
I know it's that way with me at least. You find that one person who feels like home, and then it's hard to imagine home feeling like anything else... Until eventually something else feels like home, but there's still that basis of comparison. But the notion of there being only one person for anyone? That I don't buy.
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A lot of people never get married or settle down and never get a relationship like that either. But I don't believe we should make them feel bad for it. It just didn't happen for them, or they're just better off alone.
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What do you all think of arranged marriages?
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It's not a cultural practice of mine, but there have been times when I've thought the practice might make things a hell of a lot easier. Much the same way as straight girl thinks that being a lesbian would make her romantic life easier.
I'm assuming of course that this is a mutually agreed-upon arranged marriage situation with no coercion at all.
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