Please Help Me Talk to Girls

[Leo656]

Originally Posted by IndigoErth

Rather harsh of her considering he was still rather young at the time, so come on. Can't blame someone with so little experience for seeking advice or fumbling once in a while. He could be kind of jerky sometimes, yes, but chalked much of that up to his age and hopefully he's matured a lot more today. What was her excuse.

She just got way, way bitter and flat-out mean as time went on, and became one of those "Once I dislike someone (usually over political opinions) I'm going to snark and insult them at every chance, forever" people, whereas before she got all political her snark was more playful and lighthearted. She always knew how to throw a stiff jab and that's actually one of the reasons we used to get along, we used to crack each other up constantly with the outlandish sh*t we'd say to people. Then she got all political and was like "That's not funny, that's Actually Harmful" and it's like "Oh boy, here we go."

It's a shame, but it happens. I don't change, the people around me do. But yeah, like many people I think Trump winning just broke her and she was never the same after. Too bad. Although there was evidence she was starting to slip even before that. I said something a little insensitive about trans people around 10 years ago or something and she sent me a long, scolding PM, and I was like "I hear you. I said what I said and it is what it is," and she kept replying trying to correct me and I kept telling her I had no interest in the conversation whatsoever. Now, whether what I said was "bad" or not, that's a matter of personal mileage, but I really did not like the fact that I kept politely telling her, "You're basically talking to yourself on this topic and I don't wanna keep it going" but she kept basically pushing me for either an apology or admission that I was wrong, no matter how many times I made it clear that neither of those things were happening. Like, okay, you feel your way, now let it GO.

I realized that only me conceding to her in defeat was going to satisfy her, and that's when I realized she was starting to become a bit of a pill.

Also, for whatever it's worth, I always thought her ideas about "You can be in a relationship and still F*ck whoever else you want, and you don't especially need to be honest with your partner about it either because your own sexual needs are most important and you can't expect one person to ever satisfy you anyway" to be pretty ridiculous. Like once she started loudly and insistently saying that cheating is no big deal and that staying in a "boring, unsatisfying" relationship is worse than cheating is, I knew she'd pretty much just lost it. Like open relationships where both partners consent (or pretend to; that sh*t NEVER works) is one thing, even though that too is bullsh*t. But the whole "You don't owe them an explanation, what they don't know won't hurt them" sh*t got me thinking that maybe she's just not a good person.

[Prowler]

Oh man, I remember that. I once made a thread where I asked if society overrated sex and relationships and she basically implied such things there.

She also thought a marriage that ended in a divorce wasn't a failed relationship, just one that ended. Last time I checked, when two people get married, they plan on staying together until death does them part, or they should. I'd not marry a woman if I thought I was going to end up dirocing her a decade from then on.

Open relationships... Penny was a fan of those and said my arguments for not liking them were tired and old. Well, idk, the open relationships that do work have to be exceptions to the rule.

[Leo656]

Yeah, that was one of the few things I disagreed with penny about, as well. I get that it works for SOME people, specifically individuals. But it is impossible to have an actual "relationship" that way, at least one that lasts and is sustainable. Every single "open" or "polyamorous" relationship has at least one person who's a silent ball of simmering jealous rage who just goes along with it because they don't think they can get another partner as hot as their current one. And those "relationships" always end badly, too; the ending is an inevitability, but I've never known a single person who was in an "open" relationship to still keep in touch with the other people once it ended, there's way too much bad blood by then. Because one person (at least) is ALWAYS jealous and lying about it, the entire time.

Not to be a dick but I also can't help but notice that most "open relationships" are of the "one chick and two (or more) dudes" variety. Which, I'm just being honest, always reads to me like "a slut who's trying to have her cake and eat it too." I don't think most guys would even broach the topic; a woman suggesting that she f*ck around and have multiple partners is "progressive", but if a man suggests the same he's a pig. See, I just don't think this stuff works.

I understand that some human beings are hardwired to not be monogamous, but I mean, I don't think those people should even enter a relationship under false pretense, either. You owe it to the other person upfront to say, "This isn't going to last, I just like how you look naked, but I get bored easy and one day I'm going to start f*cking someone better looking", and THEN let them decide if they want to be with you or not, without any pretense. Don't call it a genuine "relationship"; it isn't.

I'd feel a little differently maybe if I knew of even one open/poly "relationship" that lasted more than a year or two and all parties are still on good terms afterwards. Seeing is believing, and I've never seen it.

I do suppose there's a certain honesty to it, though. I think it's stupid to pretend you don't WANT to f*ck other people even though you're in a relationship; of course you want to, you're a human being with genitals. I think people should be mature and honest enough to admit, "I would totally f*ck that person... if I COULD," knowing that they can't/won't since they're already spoken for, and have it not be a huge deal or a fight-starter. Saying "I would" and "I'm going to" are not the same, after all. But for example, my wife isn't stupid, if we see Britney Spears on the TV she knows exactly what I'm thinking and I'm not gonna call her an idiot by pulling the whole "Who, her? No way, I only have eyes for you!" nonsense, which I actually find more insulting and patronizing than just plain admitting that other people make you horny. Like I personally am all about Truth over Lies, regardless.

But I think once you start saying out loud, "I think we can f*ck other people and still be in this relationship"... you've already started figuring out ways to leave the "relationship". Like saying you would and actually doing it are pretty wide apart to me.

Part of me definitely gets the kink of wanting to see your partner get it from someone else, though, I mean I can sort of understand that. I just don't think it's ultimately healthy to actually indulge those fantasies, no matter what anyone says. It just never seems to end well.

[Turo602]

Originally Posted by Leo656

Part of me definitely gets the kink of wanting to see your partner get it from someone else, though, I mean I can sort of understand that. I just don't think it's ultimately healthy to actually indulge those fantasies, no matter what anyone says. It just never seems to end well.

Whoa, whoa, whoa... Hold up a minute. Do we gotta change that tag to leothecuck? That kinda talk is dangerous, son.

[Leo656]

Originally Posted by Turo602

Whoa, whoa, whoa... Hold up a minute. Do we gotta change that tag to leothecuck? That kinda talk is dangerous, son.

It's just that for all the sh*t I talk about her when I'm mad she's actually really great at sex and she makes a lot of noise and sometimes it's fun to think about being a spectator rather than participant as a What If. Don't overthink it.

It's one thing to think things. Every time I go to the gym there's this one girl there and it takes me EVERYTHING I HAVE not to just lay her down on the flat bench and just f*ck her with everyone watching. But I'm not gonna actually DO that, that's crazy. Some things are fun to think about hypothetically, the reality would be quite a different matter in either case.

My wife's kinda admitted the same thing, like she thinks I'm so hot that on one hand watching me f*ck another chick would be really hot to see, but she also knows she's way to jealous to ever actually go there.

[Turo602]

Originally Posted by Leo656

It's just that for all the sh*t I talk about her when I'm mad she's actually really great at sex and she makes a lot of noise and sometimes it's fun to think about being a spectator rather than participant as a What If. Don't overthink it.

It's one thing to think things. Every time I go to the gym there's this one girl there and it takes me EVERYTHING I HAVE not to just lay her down on the flat bench and just f*ck her with everyone watching. But I'm not gonna actually DO that, that's crazy. Some things are fun to think about hypothetically, the reality would be quite a different matter in either case.

My wife's kinda admitted the same thing, like she thinks I'm so hot that on one hand watching me f*ck another chick would be really hot to see, but she also knows she's way to jealous to ever actually go there.

Well, the next time these unholy thoughts creep into your head, just remember what the great and wise Master Yoda once said about cucking being a pathway to the darkside.

[Leo656]

Please. Lookit that f*cker, Yoda never had sex in his entire life without a handful of Ambien and a few "Jedi Mind Tricks" on top. You think I'd take advice about my sex life from that asshole?

[Turo602]

Originally Posted by Leo656

Please. Lookit that f*cker, Yoda never had sex in his entire life without a handful of Ambien and a few "Jedi Mind Tricks" on top. You think I'd take advice about my sex life from that asshole?

Pfft, Yoda is always waist deep in the space pussy. Have you seen the size of his lightsaber? Also, Grogu's parents? Not a mystery. Yoda was totally banging Yaddle.

[Leo656]

You know an awful lot about Muppet Sex playa! I gave up on Star Wars after TLJ so I don't even know what half of those words mean.

[Turo602]

Originally Posted by Leo656

You know an awful lot about Muppet Sex playa! I gave up on Star Wars after TLJ so I don't even know what half of those words mean.

Hey, I know about as much about muppet sex as you do unicorn sex, so it's a pretty even playing field here, bro.

[Leo656]

Touche'!

[Andrew NDB]

Originally Posted by Turo602

Pfft, Yoda is always waist deep in the space pussy.

I don't know that I ever got that from the movies, at least.

[CyberCubed]

Snake is 22 now, I wonder what he's up to now. I remember he was just a kid when he came here.

[FredWolfLeonardo]

Funny time to bump this thread Cubed, I'm getting married tomorrow.

I hope Snake has had his luck.

[tmntpower1988]

Originally Posted by FredWolfLeonardo

Funny time to bump this thread Cubed, I'm getting married tomorrow.

I hope Snake has had his luck.

Congratulations on getting married.

[BornAgain]

Anyone still wondering:

1. Be confident. You like what you like, you don’t bend because someone feels a bit differently.

2. Be fun, not boring. Don’t ask 100 interview questions about work, school. That’s boring.

3. Be interested in what she has to say and listen with intent so you can actually learn something about her and spit it back.

This is generally first impression stuff.

[IndigoErth]

Originally Posted by FredWolfLeonardo

Funny time to bump this thread Cubed, I'm getting married tomorrow.

Grats on your marriage!

[Cowabung-Gal]

Originally Posted by FredWolfLeonardo

Funny time to bump this thread Cubed, I'm getting married tomorrow.

Congratulations!

[CyberCubed]

Originally Posted by FredWolfLeonardo

Funny time to bump this thread Cubed, I'm getting married tomorrow.

Congrats, how did it go?

Did you also find that "housewife" you were looking for, so you can have 8 kids like you want and expand the population with your race like you intend?

[IndigoErth]

Been quiet, probably *cough* getting starting locally on that global takeover.