05-17-2007, 03:04 PM | #41 | |
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And I think there is more to it than just learning the person's bad habits. It's a big step living with another human being like that and it's good to make sure you're ready first. Besides what if you find out that the person is completely looney-bin crazy and keeps bodies in their basement freezer? That's the kind of stuff you might not be able to figure out unless you live with them.
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The fact that they probably live together without being married didn't strike me as odd one second - it's common where I live, I can't think of anyone I know who didn't live together before getting maried...
And the chance of a divorce is higher? Never heard it before, but could be fun to investigate. To say it myself, it saved me from a lot of trouble with a guy, who turned out to be the (in my opinion) biggest idiot in the world! I can't imagine all the trouble I would have had, if I had to try and settle a divorce with him. So I think cohabiting is a good thing, but that's my opinion.
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05-17-2007, 03:57 PM | #44 |
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GOD DAMNIT.
They might be living together ("co-habiting", as you put it) but it doesn't mean they're having sex for breakfast, sex for lunch, sex for dinner and sex instead of five o'clock tea. Seriously, I watched that flick and that thought has NOT even crossed my mind. MY mind, infested with dirty jokes and usually residing in a moral gutter. I know couples living together before getting hitched who didn't/don't copulate at all. They just do the everyday chores and enjoy the freshly gained freedom from parents. But they don't have sex - as their willpower is strong enough. So cut the crap.
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05-17-2007, 04:11 PM | #45 |
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Stop looking too closely into things. Kids who go see this movie wont be thinking that Casey and April are shacking up.
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05-17-2007, 04:32 PM | #46 |
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In my statistics classes, the profs cannot hammer into our heads enough that CORRELATION DOES NOT EQUAL CAUSATION! Seriously, I think this is the most common logical flaw that occurs. In the world.
So people who live together before they are married are more likely to be divorced, say the statistics. So therefore we must automatically assume that their cohabitation caused their relationship to be less strong once they got married. Way to jump to conclusions! There may be other possibilities. The one that jumped immediately to my head was that getting married messed up a perfectly healthy cohabiting relationship (surely they were getting along while they were cohabiting, or else why would they want to get married?). That's a possibility, too, and just as valid IMO. And as someone else said, (sorry, I forget who), people who live together before marriage may just be the kind of people who are less likely to view marriage as a permanent contract that they shouldn't leave, even if the marriage is terrible. If they did, they would probably be puritanical enough to not live together before marriage. The faulty logic of some people astounds me. It's like people who, for example, look at the statistics that homosexual youth are 3 times more likely to commit suicide than heterosexual youth, and therefore go, "Eureka! Homosexuality is a mental disorder!" When maybe homosexual youth are more likely to commit suicide because they've been discriminated against their whole lives?
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Valid points, Roo. I never understood how a couple that lived together for years, sometimes even decades, would suddenly dissolve their relationship after they decided it was finally time to get hitched. Why? I don't get it.... Is it the pressure? By that I mean, do they suddenly feel that they have to measure up to... the ideal of marriage or something? Do they see marriage as a trap instead of a union?....
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05-17-2007, 04:49 PM | #48 |
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right on. way too many people believe correlation = causation. reminds me of that ice cream and murder example.
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Calm down people. Lol. Jeez.
I'll admit, I was surprised to see it. The again, there's a huge generational gap between me and the youngun's so... I'll leave my thoughts at this: It surprised me. I was semi-disappointed with it (though that MAY just be because she lowered herself to Casey). Would I do it? Asked me a few years ago I would said vehemently NO. Now I'm not so sure. *ahem* Do I hate those that do it? No. I dunno. But anyhow, don't burn this person because they were outraged. Some people have stricter morals, different morals than others. Live and let live, don't try to say they're wrong. Because who knows... You may be.
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Care to elaborate, bullet?
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Wow everyone. Thanks for your replies. It is very interesting to see what everyone thought- as well as the fact that some people did not pay attention to it!
While appalled and outraged may be too strong, disappointed is certainly the word I should have used. I'm certainly not preaching- but there is no doubt I was disappointed. There are couples who do live in the same place without engaging in sexual relations- but that is not usually the reasons why couples cohabit. Sadly, often one member wants to get convenient sex while the other one is hoping that marriage will come soon. And Scandia is a SHE, btw. My real name is the name of a literary character- a Swiss girl who liked goats. |
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I think it a valid question, and I didn't think of it until you mentioned it, Scandia.
For those who haven't read the Mirage comics, Casey was living with Gabriella, who was pregnant with someone else's baby, and then they got married, which says a lot about Casey's sense of integrity. He was willing to settle down with a woman whose child was not his. The story has a sad outcome, but afterward, Casey took on the upbringing of Shadow, Gabe's daughter. Guys who are like that are worth their weight in gold.
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Sorry if I was too harsh, there, guys ... I don't like moral judgments being made on people who aren't hurting anybody. That's just me. But then, I personally did not even notice Casey and April living together ... I thought it was obvious that they'd move in at some point, and I didn't really expect April to want to marry Casey because, as JD said, he's not good enough for her.
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I do agree with the integrity shown by Casey in that aspect. And that leads us to the aspect that they should have shown him having a good job- he deserves it and I see no reason in his character to not have one or want one.
Is anything ever said about the guy who sired Shadow (can't even call him a father- especially since that would compare him with Splinter)??? |
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You know I was with a girl who believed in no sex before marriage and I told her I was cool with it. What the hell did I care right? Well who was it who wanted to have sex first? It was her. And every time after that as well. She was the sex freak not me. Now before that when anyone had asked if we had yet and I told them no they were surprised. We had been together almost a year before we did. Most couples don't make it a month. And my roommate is an example he didn't make it half a year with his current g/f. Now me and my X were both virgins so that works out. My roommate was his g/f wasn't so I don't know how that went down for him. But sex before marriage does not set you up for failure. The people who divorce are insecure immature adults stuck in the high school days who don't understand what marriage is. It isn't hanging out with your girlfriend everyday it's alot more then that. People who stay married are people who either actually loved one another and weren't just lusting for each other*And yeah lust can last for a long time* or stubborn people who either refuse to divorce because it's against their religion or just plain refuse. My X's Dad wanted a divorce and her Mom wouldn't let him. That's entrapment if you ask me. |
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it's a classic example that was brought up time and time again in stat classes that demonstrate how correlation doesn't equate causation.
studies apparently show that whenever ice cream consumption increases, murder rate increases. it shows a correlation, but not a causation...cuz weather is a third variable that causes an increase of both variables. heat waves generate increased aggression, leading to an increase in violent crimes. hot weather also leads to an increase in ice cream consumption. so although ice cream sales and murder rates show a correlation, there's no causation between them...if that made any sense, i prolly didn't do too great a job at explaining that. |
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God better not tell my roommate that. Or I better stay away from him he ate a whole gallon to himself last night.
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Now I'm not say that this a statistc truth or any thing. Its what I have persoanlly seen in the area that i live in. I want to stress that. So I hope I don't get flamed by making this observation. BTW Jo Dawn, why did you feel disapointed? And why did you feel that April lowered herself?
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