12-07-2015, 06:55 PM | #81 |
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Ah, well that's pretty much black & white then, huh... Sh*t.
Frankly, I think you should just wash your hands of them both & the situation entirely, even if it's only temporarily. You need a chance to rest/recuperate. Let him realize what a nut she is, let her realize what a dick he is, they'll both be unhappy & you can have the last laugh. If someone comes to their senses after the fact & approaches you, the ball will be in your court & you can decide whether you are a merciful God or not.
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12-07-2015, 07:07 PM | #82 | |
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12-07-2015, 08:53 PM | #83 |
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For a teenager the advice is easy, no matter the situation move on. I know at the time it seems like your situation is totally different and you're mature but whatever, I wish someone would've slapped me as a kid and told me this and I wouldn't have wasted so much time on worthless girls during HS. The chances of finding the love of your life during your teens is extremely low.
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12-07-2015, 09:36 PM | #84 |
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They're both bad people, Knux. Abort mission and just move on. I've been there too, and for one thing, if the guy is that big a scumbag and she's too dense to see through his act, then she's an idiot too. And I don't know about you, but I'd rather be single than waste my time with a girl THAT dense.
Keep in mind - Offensive Comment Coming - (deep breath) ...MOST girls are pretty stupid when it comes to taste in guys, especially when they're teenagers. We've all seen it; "She's so smart in every other way, so WHY is she with such a loser?" It's because girls are no different from guys in the way that they mostly pick partners with their private parts and it interferes with judgment and higher brain functions. They pretend they're better than that, but they're not. Nobody's immune. If you're chasing a girl for three goddamn years, and she's repeatedly told you No, then dude, you have LESS than Zero Chance, and if you did have one, she's not worth it anyway, just for dicking you around. I was in love with my best friend in high school, and she's still the smartest chick I've ever met in person. But she had horrible taste in guys; she and all our friends knew how I felt about her, it was no secret, and we were still pretty good friends for a long time. But finally, she admitted that it all came down to looks, that I didn't dress or style my hair the way she liked and that's why she would never even consider going out with me. Right then, I knew our friendship wouldn't last much longer - it didn't - because I lost a ton of respect for her in that moment. She was a super-feminist type, always raging about guys only caring about girls' looks and not caring about anything else, but in the end, she was nothing but an enormous hypocrite. A lot of our mutual friends stopped talking to her for a long time over the whole thing, because she had a tendency to use my feelings for her as a way to manipulate me into doing things for her and stuff like that. Just move on, man. If they don't want ya they don't want ya. One day someone'll come to you. Here's my theory on women: Ultimately, as the "gatekeepers", they hold all the power, thus, chasing them is stupid as it's exactly what they want. If one of them comes to you, of her own volition, there's a much better chance she's actually into you. If she makes you chase her, she's not worth it.
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12-07-2015, 09:45 PM | #85 | |
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12-07-2015, 09:48 PM | #86 |
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Wait...wait...this is all teenage stuff? For some reason I thought we were talking about relationships with people in their 20's.
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12-07-2015, 09:52 PM | #87 |
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She's full of sh*t. She's probably starting to see for herself what a c*nt the guy is and she wants to hold onto her "back-up plan". The more you tell of her the more repulsive she sounds as a human being, no offense.
I'm pretty good at spotting manipulators and she's got you where she wants you. From "I'd only date you for a week' - which, first of all, I don't even know where to start on that nonsense - to "Now I think I like you after all"... man, there's a ton of red flags all over the place with this chick. We've established that she is a player of games as well as that she doesn't care much about your feelings. This should be pretty cut-and-dry by now.
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12-08-2015, 12:02 AM | #89 |
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Leo's right. It's your life, but sticking with her would be a terrible decision. Don't make any moves unless you've cleaned the pipes first, 'cause I can only assume you're leading with head #2.
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Putting any more time or energy into a friendship (or holding out for a relationship) with this bird is a waste of time and you're just going to get hurt again. And then you'll feel doubly stupid for falling for her crap yet again, and feel even more depressed. Cut your losses and get out. She's not the only woman on earth and once you've put a bit of distance between the two of you, you'll see her bullsh*t for exactly what it is - bullsh*t. Right now she's throwing out so much crap that you don't know whether you're up or down. She's playing games with your feelings and your life - f*ck that noise; I don't care what damage someone has, you don't treat other people like sh*t just because you've been hurt in the past. Giving her another chance is just signing up for another round of "use me as a doormat". You might not like yourself very much at this point in your life - I know you're not in a great place atm - but you should at least respect yourself enough to realize that you don't deserve to be treated this way and draw a line in the sand. I know it's harsh and it's not what you want to hear, but when you're young, sometimes you need to just hear it laid out in black and white (I know I sure did).
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The root of this problem is people only thinking about themselves -- they don't stop and think how the OTHER person feels. How it ****ing feels to have some dude you're not even into and never will be into chasing you around school for five ****ing years, as if repeatedly bothering me, trying to sabotage my platonic AND romantic relationships, STEALING FROM ME, and sending me gross, TMI emails and IMs will suddenly make me say "yes, take me already". No, to them, it only looks like a battle to be fought and the "crush" in question is a prize to be won. They are so blinded by this that they don't even look at the signals the other person is sending, they don't look at the incredible flaws present in the other person, and to them, rejection is just a "temporary" condition that can be changed. Because people don't ****ing understand that NO MEANS NO. YOU WILL NOT EVER CHANGE MY NO INTO A YES, AND IF YOU TRY, I'M BEATING THE **** OUT OF YOU.
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As you've said, you've only ever been rejected once and have more often times been the rejecter. I have never done any of the above things you mentioned to her. Nor has she ever said or even implied that she disliked what I was doing. She loved it, because every other guy she's gone out with is an asshole, whereas I'm more of a romantic. Hell, even her friends still want me to date her, for both my sake and hers.
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Well, good luck to you dude.
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So, I sincerely thank you all for the advice and I have come to a decision.
I'm going to completely cut this person out of my life. Because even if she wants me back now, she should've when she could've. If she contacts me I'll be blunt and honest as to what I want and if she rejects me again, so f*cking be it. I don't need to put up with that sh!t. I have my own, much more important, life to live which she need not be a part of. So if she does start trying to get me back, unless she agrees to my terms for once, then im absolutely done with her and that other a**hole. Powder, Leo, Penny, Cylon, Bry, Net, Katie, Cubed, and Shuriken thank you all so much for the advice. I greatly appreciate it.
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Healthy relationships don't have drama like this. If someone can't decide if they want to be with you or not, that's not likely to suddenly change. She seems emotionally confused (at the very least) and you're gonna get some serious emotional whiplash if you keep following her lead. To be brutally honest, it's clear that you want her a lot more than she wants you, and she knows that and is counting on you being on standby if her current situation doesn't work out. And all that means is you're probably just going to get your heart broken again and again when she decides she wants someone else instead. Don't be anyone's Plan B. You deserve more than that. And if you don't believe you deserve more than that, then that's where your focus should be right now. Quote:
I think this is the right call, and I'm glad to hear it. You don't have to be mean/cruel to her about it, but in short, she's causing you a lot of grief and emotional turmoil, and there's absolutely no reason you have to keep sources of trouble like that in your life. Taking care of yourself, prioritizing your own well being, is definitely the smart decision. And the sooner you work on moving on and building yourself up, the sooner good things can happen. It's a confident move. And keep working on your confidence, because the cliche is true, confidence is key! Hope things get better soon, dude.
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Remember that you tried to take your own life because of her. Be careful, be brave, be strong, and remember we're all in your corner cheering for you.
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You're young, and young relationships don't tend to last forever anyway. It's very freeing to just let something go entirely, just let it be in the past and left in the past, so you can move forward. Ultimately that's your call, but I know I've been jerked around and held onto hope a lot longer than I should have. But it still ended badly, and all that hope did was prevent me from moving on sooner and nearly ruin something much better in the process. I'd ask yourself these questions: If she's caused you a lot of pain and emotional turmoil, why would you want her to come back to you? And if she does, why would you want to follow her lead again?
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