My Tinder Strategy
 

Swipe right. No matter what.

Can't afford to be picky, after all; some girl's bound to swipe right at me, even if it takes all year.

Any one else on Tinder?

What the hell is Tinder anyway? And why the hell are you even making a thread about it?

I think it's an App to meet people.

No reason to get so hostile...

Well he does tend to make pointless threads about things no one really cares about.

Havent most of us at some point?

I would hate to be BubblyShell22's boyfriend. I bet he wishes he were going deaf instead of blind.

Back off DB...that's totally uncalled for and you aren't going to meet someone if you talk like that to people.

Well the thing with this app is they go off looks alone, so...actually yeah, he's never gonna meet anyone.

Wow. That's really mature, DB. At least I HAVE somebody and I didn't have to go on a website or download an app to meet him. I actually met him at college.

So, its not okay to meet someone online?

I never said it wasn't. I'm just saying that he needs to stop taking cheap shots at me and the person I care about very much. With that attitude, he won't find anybody who will want him.

The problem I have is that he makes these threads and is very vague about things when he posts. All he has to do is be more clear about things, and I wouldn't have a problem with it and wouldn't be so confused as to what he means. I don't think it's wrong that he wants to meet somebody online, but he needs to be careful about those things because there are times where it may not end well. That's my two cents on that.

Next time if you can't understand something just ask...politely.

And there is nothing wrong with meeting people online It has worked for many people I know.

I wasn't being rude about it. I just asked what the hell it was? Nothing rude about asking. I don't approve of online dating as it doesn't always work out and you have to be very careful about who you meet. I'm glad I met my BF through college and it's worked out just fine. But if he wants to do that, that's his business. I wish him the best of luck.

Yep...100% not rude. Sorry Bubbly, but that seems a little rude.

Also, so what if you don't approve of online dating? It works for some people because it can be based on personality and common interests and not other more fluid aspects of relationships. Go ask Krow and his wife, who met on this very forum and have a baby on the way.

Well, I didn't intend for it to be rude. I thought it was like his other thread that he made so I was just questioning it.

Hey, I didn't say online dating doesn't work for everybody, and I did say that if it worked for him, then great. I just don't like the idea of it, that's all. It seems to me you can find those things if you actually meet people in person rather than hiding behind some computer screen. Again, just my opinion.

I wasn't really into online dating but that's how I met my fiancé. Well technically it wasn't an online dating site at all, but we did meet online and she and her family really wanted me to fly to Tx to meet everyone. The rest, as they say, is history. It may not work for everyone but I think it had a hand in bringing the two of us together. Going on 3 and a half years now. Jeez lol! So best of luck to you Dirty Blond. And I had no idea two folks met and got together as a result of this forum! That's very sweet.

Online dating is actually very underrated. As adults how often are you going to meet people outside of your job or bars?

Its not like when we were in school or College around people the same age as us that you could see on a daily basis.

Yeah, Cubed hit the nail on the head. Sure there's always a chance you'll meet someone out of the clear blue. It's how my folks met, but yeah it's rather difficult to get to know people these days in our on the go society. Glad it works for some people. Most places tend to make you pay quite a bit to join, so that was mainly why I never got into it. I was never into the bar/party sceen either, so that's another reason online dating started looking like the way to go for me. We met on livejournal, but I guess you could say we did the online dating thing. It was free in our case.

All the dating sites I see are subscription only, and its like $40 a month which is insane. That's what turns people away from them.

Statistics have shown that dating/relationships arranged via the internet have a stronger success rate because all your cards are on the table up front. You don't typically waste time realizing someone is not for you. You have to be just as careful in real life. The amount of rape and abuse that happens at college campuses is off the charts. So maybe that's the dangerous route.

"Hiding" behind a computer screen? That's ridiculously insensitive. I'd love to go on a rant, typing up a paragraph on why you're beyond rude for saying something like that, particularly in this context, but it's pretty clear it would go right over your head.

My apologies if it seemed insensitive, but that's how I see it. You may meet the person eventually when you're able to, but before that, all you're doing is talking via computer. I just don't really like the idea of online dating and would never do it myself. If my relationship doesn't work out with my BF, I'm just going to stay single for the rest of my life rather than waste time trying to find someone over the Internet. If it works for other people, that's great and congrats to those who have made it work. It's just not something I like the idea of. Hell, my cousin found her husband online, but she got lucky in that department though I was worried about it at first.

I agree that you can't be too careful with dating either way, but to me, at least if you meet someone first, you can get a sense of whether they're trustworthy or not whereas with online dating, it's really hard to tell if you're getting someone who says who they say they are. Anyone can fool you online which is why I'm not a fan of online dating.

You can call me insensitive all you want, but I'm just a realist when it comes to these things.

Online dating does not = talking on a computer.

Online dating = Say hello in a message, if there's chemistry, you move to a phone call.

You can't trust someone just because you met them in real life. That's complete BS. People are liars. You're not a realist, you're a conservative worrywart who's let mainstream media propaganda dictate your social life.

Keep in mind online dating isn't just typing texts to each other anymore.

Now with webcams you actually have video chat with the people, you actually see what they look like, and its like talking face to face in real life. Some of you are acting like you have no clue what the person looks like on the internet.

You guys do realize we're not in 1995 anymore, right? Video chatting exists.

You mean BubblyShell22. There is one person arguing against it.

I"m just saying that it's not something I'd personally do myself. If others want to do it that's fine. I agree that there is video chat and ways to still meet people like that, but even then I'd still want to be more cautious about things. Call me a worrywart all you want, I just feel it's better to be safe than sorry since you never know who could scam you with these things. It's just my opinion, and that's it.

DB, I wish you luck and hope you be careful about these things.

When I first heard the word Tinder, I thought it was a brand of chocolate not a dating site.

And, Powder, I'm not a conservative. I don't classify myself that way or a liberal either. I'm just cautious, that's all.

I've been having fun with this as a sort of time-killer for the past few weeks. I get a fair amount of matches, but I'm terrible at actually striking up conversations on it. I actually wish girls would be a little more proactive in doing that, but that's not the culture, so I understand.

I also have something going on right now so that I'm not horribly desperate for the touch of a woman, but if I was, I'd probably use it a little more seriously.

It's fun, though; most single twenty-somethings I know have a profile at least to play around with. If you meet someone through it, power to you.

I actually don't swipe right in most cases unless they actually seem like someone I'd want to talk to, which at least includes a glance at whatever their tagline is and common interests.

Well, maybe girls are a little shy about these types of things if they've never done it before and want to be cautious about it. Don't sweat it and just keep on trying if you want to find that match. I can understand people wanting to be careful about these things because you just never know what can happen with this type of stuff. All I'm saying is just be careful and don't rush anything. I just don't want anyone on here getting hurt or scammed, that's all.

The term conservative existed prior to the political sect-

"A person who is averse to change and holds to traditional values and attitudes"

Don't you know relationships you make online may not end well!? Completely unlike every relationship you make in real life, which always turn out SWIMMINGLY!

Online dating is for chumps! GO OUTSIDE, NERDS!

Online dating is a lot safer then walking into a bar and picking up some random girl who has been sitting there every week. Half those girls are "party girls" who have probably had more men inside them than your average girl on the internet.

The girls who probably do try dating on the internet are likely shyer or more withdrawn girls who don't do the bar/party scene and want to meet someone. Of course this isn't always true, but it seems more likely.

After you finish College it gets harder to meet new girls when you're single. Unless you manage to get lucky with one of your co-workers, but that tends to be rare.

Powder, I already said I'm not arguing about this anymore, and I was talking about myself personally not doing online dating. I don't care what any of you other people do. I already said this before. Now leave me alone. I've got enough sh*t on my plate now and don't need this drama. Drop it.

And you don't have to necessarily meet people in a bar. You can meet people anywhere you go. But whatever.

90% of the time those people are either married or already in a relationship. Or simply not interested.

I think online dating is great and not just because I met my husband here. It gives you the chance to experience something new without having to move across states or even countries.

For example in KROW's small town I think everyone I know is somehow related here. Kinda off putting. I'd be worried I was somehow dating a relative. Haha!

I think it adds a wider scope of diversity in your choices.

Sure there are "catfish" on the internet but I feel people are more honest when it comes to personality and ideals because if someone doesn't like you....you move on to the next person....there are plenty of choices on the internet.

I liked the fact that when KROW and I met looks were not a factor. It was all personality and getting a feel of who each other were. I know many people think that this sort of "mushy" stuff doesn't exist but I did very much fall in love with his being or his soul (if you believe in that sort of thing). We traded emails, snail mail, and phone calls for quite sometime before we traded pictures (I still have them too!) and a little over a year before we physically met.

No it's not for everyone....some people are just old fashioned and that's fine, too, but to say that internet dating isn't successful is wrong.

BTW, the best way to meet someone is OBVIOUSLY through The Technodrome. Hell, who doesn't love a bunch of loud "mouthed" and opinionated TMNT fans?




GAH! I kid, I kid! :embarass:

Don't know much about tinder, but you can put me firmly in the camp of being a fan of online dating. One've my best friends met his wife online, and although I had met my wife a couple of times on nights out (through friends of friends) we got to know each other through Facebook and texting...