Why did Davetello get banned?
 

My good friend Davetello got banned today. Does anybody know what happened? I would like to know.

Misogyny, Transphobia, ragging on someone for not mourning their grandmother enough, making fun of people's looks and/or penis size....

Take your pick.

WTF? Is that what he did? Damn.

He was starting to talk to me via PM about things, but by then it was too late, I should have made that offer to him earlier

I'm more curious what happened to Coola.

Same here.

Ditto. I saw Coola Yagami was banned and got confused, so I'd also like to know what happened to him(or was Coola a girl?)

Coola kept riling up things in the movie sub-forum with his "It sucked, get over it!" posts. He's just temporarily banned.

Ah, right.

Is Dave just temporary banned?

I had a shock as I logged in today to find two familiar names banned out of the sudden. I understood Dave's situation fairly quickly by looking at his last few posts, but Coola's case was less obvious. His last few posts didn't reveal anything suspicious.

I sincerely hope it's just a temporary ban. It's not the first time Dave exploded like this, and staying away from the forum might be the best course for him at the moment until he cools down and return normal later. I've seen his "normal" posts in the TMNT sections quite regularly and even find many of them a good read. Dave, if you're reading this, please find a way to set things right and come around okay? I understand that you could have personal issues setting you back, but just remember that you still have friends here who would rather see you return as your normal self again, as soon as you get your troubles sorted out. Oh yeah, and don't stay awake for 48 hours again, you know how bad it can affect your health, mood and temper (which requires lots of work). Wish you all the best!

I don't usually visit the Everything Else section, in a way, this unfortunate turn of event sort of brought me here :tconfuse:

Yes. When I logged on he posted his last post on my user page. Go look at it. He didn't explode at me at all, or ever.

Lucky you.

FWIW I think the biggest problems Dave had were the people ("friends"?) who were supposedly egging him on in his arguments while many more people from a wide demographic of forum users who gave him the sound advice to ignore people he didn't like we're immediately vilified as being part of some vast conspiracy against him.

Those people should be ashamed of themselves. IMO those are not friends. Look what happened because of it.

The other thing was that he needed to have the last word and didn't know how to just leave an unproductive discussion.

I don't care what anyone thinks of me or anyone else, but the very best advice anyone could give to anyone else is to ignore people you don't like and don't respond to things that get you emotional. Simple.

Yeah, was likewise curious about Coola.

Shame about Dave, he did start some interesting topics and whatnot sometimes... But there's a line that was crossed, by maybe about a mile or two, and stooping to become a no-holds-barred runaway train of anger is a low point no one should reach for.

Hope he's able to find some of the inner peace and whatnot he so clearly needs. And hope those affected by that - what ever that was - are able to put it out of mind pretty soon. Some pretty nasty stuff was said :( but not worth holding onto any of it.

That's good to hear. If anyone had such ideas I'd rather they took it up with older members.

I really hope it isn't a temp ban for Dave.

The things he said, not just in those two threads were really disgusting and borderline disturbing ('Monroe and Princess Di deserved to die young because they were money whores')

I dunno man. I don't know.

I feel kinda bad. There's been plenty of times in the past where he PMed me saying he was angry and upset and "I feel like saying this...", and I'd be like "Dude, please don't," and somehow he'd calm down and things would blow over. But I wasn't around at all yesterday, and I feel like maybe I could've talked him down again before things got bad. I guess not, though, a lot of it was building for a while, obviously. Guess it was inevitable.

I've probably talked to him more than most, he's a sharp guy but he's very open about his mental issues, his depression and anger and whatnot, and I do think some people might be more considerate of that sometimes. I mean, I don't know, I just know I've got my problems and been through counseling and told flat-out I don't need any medication, so I can only guess what it's like to be someone who has such little control of themselves and their feelings that they DO need it. I also know he's said he's had complications with his meds recently and other things have been going on. Point being, he's not a bad guy, but he has issues, and there are factors. It's never as simple as, "Eh, that guy is just an asshole." If that were the criteria for damnation, this place would have all of five people. I won't defend any of what was said - by anyone, honestly - but I definitely saw some cats who couldn't resist poking the hornet's nest once they heard a buzz. For shame.

I was curious about Coola as well, so thanks for clearing that up. I will say if he was banned for "bait" comments like that, he's far from the only one guilty. At least it's just for a while. But he honestly seemed kind of tame compared to many, Iunno. Seems like an odd pick. Guess he just got the short straw.

Seeing his posts, he called people c***s, transexual and a bunch of other offensive things. I don't know what to think of him.

Not gonna lie, but anybody who drops a C-note on anybody is Forever Gold, in my book. :lol:

I'm surprised you didn't make a poll about it.

:lol: C'mon, be nice. :lol:

Does make a lotta polls, though... eh. :lol:

I've talked to him a lot as well, but mostly about soccer, since we're both big fans of the sport.

Shame he wasn't able to keep his cool. Even though some things he said were a bit uncalled for, I doubt he really felt what he was saying. He seemed like a nice guy for the most part. People sometimes hurt others without thinking it twice. Anger clouds one's judgement at times. And if he really has such deep mental issues, then it only reinforces what I'm saying.

As for Coola, the movie section is a cesspool of people fighting about Bay's film. Many of them only joined this place to talk about the upcoming film and never showed up again. Weird that Coola was the one to get banned. Maybe they thought making an example out of a veteran would give other people a hint?

There's nothing offensive about being called a transexsual, because there's nothing wrong with being a transexual. That he considered it was and attempted to use it as a slur is shameful.

I hope he takes this time to reflect on just how shameful he was yesterday.
Seriously, bringing up my dead grandmother? The slights against my virtue, mental health, weight, relationship status, and significant others...that I'm used to. But telling me that my grandmother would be pleased at how he was addressing me? Outright saying that I didn't mourn her enough?

He should be ashamed of himself.
I don't care how non-neurotypical he is, that's unacceptable.
Not being neurotypical is not an excuse for being a jackhole, which is exactly what he was yesterday.

We can take one look at Dave's wall and see someone who encouraged him in his arguing. This is what I'm talking about. And that person has been around long enough to know the consequences. And didn't openly participate in the argument. But he encouraged Dave.

Dave is an easily riled guy and he was exploited and encouraged down the path he ended up on. Some friend.

That's what I ment. Its not bad at all. You are right. But being called a c**t is.

That's not really insulting either, Mr. Meow.
It's just a word for a part of a woman's anatomy, and parts of our body aren't shameful. So it can't be an insult to be called that.

At the end of it all we are responsible for our own words and actions.
Someone might have been egging him on, but...he still posted what he did, and therefore is responsible.
He's also responsible for managing his own illnesses, just as I'm responsible for managing mine.

Polls are kind of my thing.

I will miss reading Davetello's posts.

You obviously don't know how insults work.

I think you've got that backwards, mate.

Even though I didn't share some of his views and his threads were a tad controversial, I did enjoy reading what he had to say. And discussing with him as well. I've never had a problem with him.

Good riddance. He was too out of control and just came off as a total dick, especially to people who didn't deserve it.

Fast reply. You're obviously used to arguing online.
Insults are insults. You could say assh*le (I don't know how the swearing rules work) shouldn't be an insult because it's a part of our body, but that's just ridiculous.

Yeah! I make alot of polls!

Could be a bot.

I don't even want to start trouble. But the sjw feminist that is "it's a female body part, it's not a real insult" just annoys me to no end.

Or I'm at my keyboard and am proficient at using the home row.

Maybe for you it is, but less so for me.
I just...don't see the insult in being called a vulva/vagina.
Really, the use of C*nt as a slur says more about the person using it, than the person it's being used again. How frightened of women they must be. It's sad really.
Please don't misdesignate my class: I'm a social justice cleric, not warrior.

People use d*ck too. It's all good.

I don't find them offensive either.