No One Came to Her Son’s Party

[Andrew NDB]

To be fair, I probably wouldn't have gone to his birthday party.

[plastroncafe]

It seems to me the mom was more upset with the lack of RSVP from the other parents than she was with the kids for not wanting to attend the party.

In which case it's those parents who are the ones lacking in social skills and awareness.

[CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy]

Originally Posted by Andrew NDB

To be fair, I probably wouldn't have gone to his birthday party.

To be fair, it would have been creepy if you did go to his birthday party.

[Sage Ninja]

Originally Posted by CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy

To be fair, it would have been creepy if you did go to his birthday party.

I know some parents that make it a requirement that kids parents are present during a birthday party. I had a friend whose daughter was born during the summer, so she would through backyard pool parties for her, but she made a requirement that the parents of her daughters friends had to be there.

I always thought it was a bad idea since I think some parent's look forward to dropping their child off to enjoy themselves, and would rather not be tied down around a bunch of kids for two to three hours. I noticed the kids with the that did show up only stuck around for an hour at best, not the whole party time.

[IndigoErth]

Originally Posted by plastroncafe

People who don't RSVP to things with an RSVP requested on the invite are terrible people.

Agree.

Saw and shared this on FB yesterday. Thirty years ago when I was a kid RSVPing was a thing people did and it wasn't hard. It still shouldn't be. In fact it should be easier. It takes a matter of seconds now to simply shoot someone a message saying that sorry, you won't be able to make it. When did it become okay to brush off giving others at least that much simple courtesy... If the parents were given some kind of idea that few to none would make it then it would have saved them the trouble and expense and they could have made other plans.

To quote part of my comment about it on FB:

I guess people may think, "well I'm just one person, it won't matter." And then everyone thinks the same thing...

Just think how the election could turn out if people act like this next week; if people don't go thinking they're just one vote, it won't matter.

Now, I was not trying to shoehorn political crap in there, that really wasn't the point, but it just struck me how much people think the same and don't even realize it, and the kind of things that mentality can affect. No one is quite the unique snowflake they think they are, there are many who have thought or done much like they have... But there are also cases where no one and their actions are as insignificant as they think. (Hell, even just working in retail makes that massively apparent. "If I just mess up this part of this table or change my mind and drop this crap in the most random, annoying place, it's no big deal"... and then the next 20 or 50 people do the same and collectively make it a big problem.)


Sure, they shouldn't have assumed people were coming if no one said they were, but still... I have found that even when your RSVP is made easy by being "regrets only," people still fail. That was done for the "meet the baby" party my sister had for my nephew back in August; "regrets only" on the invitations. An old friend of mine that I've known since age 10 was invited to it. If work didn't make it possible or if she simply didn't want to come... that's okay, I wouldn't hold it against her at all. But I'm still vaguely annoyed that she never said a word. I spent much of the time watching for her because I thought she was going to come to it, even if it was just to stop in to make an appearance for five minutes.