School policy forbids kids from saying "no" when asked to dance

*Andrew NDB* · 02-28-2020, 06:05 PM

Yeesh. I can think of more than a few scenarios within this where this could be... worriesome.

https://www.today.com/parents/sixth-...uKkNsVVOoLh0sY

*FredWolfLeonardo* · 02-28-2020, 06:11 PM

I remember this policy In my middle school too when there was an end of year Ball.

I don't get why people are not allowed to say no, is it so that nobody is left out from dancing?

*IndigoErth* · 02-28-2020, 06:56 PM

Wow, I think I finally found something good about my middle school -- that, bad as it was, it did not have that policy, thank god.

How do they even think that is okay? Are they really only looking at it from the angle of students feeling included and not disappointed? Kids can be terribly cruel, so what happens when the bully asks, only with the intention of trying to humiliate his/her target? The kid who is their target every single day isn't allowed to enjoy the dance on his/her own terms and is not allowed to avoid that person? I would have never gone to any school dances if mine was like that, hell no.

In addition to parents concerns about giving kids the message that they aren't allowed to say "no" and that they get no consent, that's also a bad message that also says that no one is allowed to tell them "no." So good job on continuing the trend of raising kids who can't tolerate disappointment and show them that it is "wrong" for them to have to feel it... You know, the kid who might then shoot up a school because someone, like a crush, told them no one day.

*Andrew NDB* · 02-28-2020, 08:27 PM

What if another dude asks your son to prom? He's stuck?

*oldmanwinters* · 02-28-2020, 08:33 PM

Rejection is an important life lesson.

**Jester** · 02-28-2020, 10:20 PM

But....no means no...unless someone asks you to a dance...then you caint say no...I guess you're in a turrible fix.

~~Sumac~~ · 02-29-2020, 04:56 AM

I wonder for how long this "law" existed and how often were rejected guys who put it in place.

*Voltron* · 02-29-2020, 08:43 AM

I never thought I'd see the day where you guys would argue for empowering women.

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What if another dude asks your son to prom? He's stuck?

Ah. There it is.

02-28-2020, 06:05 PM	#1
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02-28-2020, 08:27 PM	#4
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02-28-2020, 08:33 PM	#5
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02-28-2020, 10:20 PM	#6
Jester Rat-faced Dude-guy Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Arkansas Posts: 26,301	But....no means no...unless someone asks you to a dance...then you caint say no...I guess you're in a turrible fix. __________________ "Clearly, you're Ninja Turtling incorrectly." - Leo656

02-28-2020, 06:56 PM	#3
IndigoErth Team Blue Boy Join Date: Jun 2014 Location: U.S., East Coast Posts: 16,296	Wow, I think I finally found something good about my middle school -- that, bad as it was, it did not have that policy, thank god. How do they even think that is okay? Are they really only looking at it from the angle of students feeling included and not disappointed? Kids can be terribly cruel, so what happens when the bully asks, only with the intention of trying to humiliate his/her target? The kid who is their target every single day isn't allowed to enjoy the dance on his/her own terms and is not allowed to avoid that person? I would have never gone to any school dances if mine was like that, hell no. In addition to parents concerns about giving kids the message that they aren't allowed to say "no" and that they get no consent, that's also a bad message that also says that no one is allowed to tell them "no." So good job on continuing the trend of raising kids who can't tolerate disappointment and show them that it is "wrong" for them to have to feel it... You know, the kid who might then shoot up a school because someone, like a crush, told them no one day.

02-29-2020, 04:56 AM	#7
~~Sumac~~ Banned Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 6,129	I wonder for how long this "law" existed and how often were rejected guys who put it in place.