An age thing

[Katie]

Originally Posted by gobo

The first rule of gentlemen's ettiquette says not to ask a lady how old she is. Instead, ask how young she is.

Hehehe and it's a good one. Age really does not matter in the grand scheme of things. It's more how you feel and act than about a number. That's why I could care less how old someone is if we connect.

anyway....since i feel (and look) about 22, That is generally what I tell people...and why I was so surprised to get graded below that....and as Ben reminded me, I did use my real age when introducing myself (well actually I think I used what i was going to be at my next birthday) So if you are curious and don't already know my chronological age...it's out there

[KROW]

Originally Posted by gobo

The first rule of gentlemen's ettiquette says not to ask a lady how old she is. Instead, ask how young she is.

"All the good ones end in 'O'"
Sorry. I couldn't resist.

That's what my last name ends with.

And if you really want to get some brownie points, compliment her mother by referring to her as her sister. Of course, the approach counts, too.

[OA]

Originally Posted by KROW

And if you really want to get some brownie points, compliment her mother by referring to her as her sister.

Ah yes...can never go wrong with that approach...

[XERO]

So do we refer to her sister as her mother, then?

And what the shell is a Zeno?

Sounds too much like Keno.

[KROW]

Originally Posted by Benvenuto

So do we refer to her sister as her mother, then?

No, you have to regard her sister as royalty, and her friends like gold. Anything different and you're risking horrible rumors. Of course, it all depends on the personality of the family.

Oh, and we'll not get into how to act near the father; that's a whole new thread in and of itself.

[Sewer Bull]

Originally Posted by KROW

Oh, and we'll not get into how to act near the father; that's a whole new thread in and of itself.

Preach on, Sensei Krow, preach on.

[KROW]

Originally Posted by Sewer Bull

Preach on, Sensei Krow, preach on.

Do you really want to hear it?

A father is very protective of his daughter. It's this ingrown thing that they have. It probably stems from this belief, call it cro-magnon if you like, that girls are weaker than boys and must be cared for and protected no matter what. This way of thinking leads them to need to dictate the life of their daughter, wanting what's best for them and actually believing they know exactly that.

Usually, whenever a girl gets interested in a boy, she doesn't even have to have him over; just mentioning it gets him into this sensory mode (like a spider-sense, for lack of a better term). This alarm goes off and from that day on, he's on the lookout for anything that he thinks might take the virtue of his precious child away. The funny thing is, as innocent as he thinks his daughter is, she might not really be so innocent.

In any case, this underlying instinct causes the father to get neurotic and overprotective, doing more harm than good. He begins to mistrust his child, and lose his temper at little things, all the time denying his true behavior. Also, this behavior could trigger several memories of when he was younger and became wild with a girl, definitely not wanting whatever he did to happen to his daughter. This then causes him to immediately become suspicious of the boy, and his mind fills with nasty images and scenarios, which makes him very uncomfortable and in turn results in assumptions of the boy.

So, being the love interest of a girl with a father like that takes a lot of precautionary measure. It's better to just be on the safe side and assume the father is one of those overprotecting ogres. Chances are, he might be. Some of the time, the father is a great guy who accepts you and trusts his daughter to do the right thing in all situations. Mostly, though, this won't be the case.

When visiting the girl's parents, simply take a deep breath, count to 10 (or backwards from 10, or whatever stress-relieving technique is good for you), and get it over with. Dealing with a girl's father can be very tricky. First, treat him with respect. He's the big dog in the yard, so sit and stay and speak when spoken to. Be honest; if he asks you what your plans are for the future (like careers and what-not), simply say what your interests are. If he disagrees, agree with him. Tell him that he may be right about it and that you'll think on it, that perhaps a change will be for the better. Basically, this is humoring him. Secretly, you aren't giving up on being a rock star or an artist, but you don't need to tell him that.

Small talk is good, but usually only if he starts it. Be courteous and listen intently. If you don't know what he's talking about, simply say that you need clarifcation and praise him for his knowledge. Men are a proud species, after all.

With luck, you'll get over just fine and your relationship with his daughter won't be so rocky. And hey, if you break up with her, you just might make a new friend in her father, which could be a catalyst to get back together with her.

Good luck out there, and remember to think with your head, not your undercarriage.

[XERO]

Whoa... too much yellow...

Great advice, KROW.

Plus the fact that when I become a father, I'll be doing the exact same thing.

As the world turns, huh?

[OA]

Originally Posted by KROW

and remember to think with your head, not your undercarriage.

dang it...

[jeff the cheff]

I got carded going into a chuck e. cheese once...apparantly you have to be 18.

I only went in cause I heard that you have to be 18 and I thought it was the funniest thing in the world

[Lady Venus]

Ppl think I lying if I tell them that I'm 24. They no you're not your 16.

[OA]

Originally Posted by jeff the cheff

I got carded going into a chuck e. cheese once...apparantly you have to be 18.

I only went in cause I heard that you have to be 18 and I thought it was the funniest thing in the world

Yea, the occasional times I buy lotto tickets, I ALWAYS get carded (have to be 1...im turnin 24 in August...