How many of you are diagnosed with aspergers/autism? - Page 2

*plastroncafe* · 07-02-2014, 10:53 AM

I consider it a kindness to assume someone is on the spectrum when they behave or exhibit a socially inappropriate behavior. Maybe it's something they can't help, and aren't aware that they're behavior is unacceptable. Giving them the benefit of that doubt gives me the opportunity to take a breath and not automatically downgrade that person to Jerk right off the bat.

I used to work with a guy who appeared to have NO concept of personal space, and for a good long while I used to think very poorly of him because of it. After we'd known each other a bit longer, all the while me thinking of him as a massive jerk, he told me that he's legally blind. So all those minor facial expressions and all that body language I was utilizing to display my displeasure at his behavior wasn't seen. The moment he told me he was blind I changed tactics, and when he was doing something I considered in appropriate I just up and told him, and our relationship got a whole lot better then.

*CyberCubed* · 07-02-2014, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Katie

I often think Cyber Cubed is on the spectrum too. Or at the very least extremely sheltered and sort of inexperienced with the real world. Lots of odd posts..

People are usually diagnosed with various disorders at an early age, such as when they're kids or teens, or by their latest their early to mid-20's. I'm in my late 20's, so if by now I haven't been diagnosed with anything, I most likely don't have anything.

I'm actually really glad I've never had depression, OCD, anxiety, aspie, etc. or anything of the sort. I feel like I'm lucky in that regard.

My only problem is I'm starting to lose my hair, but hey, that's the best kind of "problem" to have!

*plastroncafe* · 07-02-2014, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by CyberCubed

People are usually diagnosed with various disorders at an early age, such as when they're kids or teens, or by their latest their early to mid-20's. I'm in my late 20's, so if by now I haven't been diagnosed with anything, I most likely don't have anything.

Not entirely true, but let's go with that.

*snake* · 07-02-2014, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by CyberCubed

My only problem is I'm starting to lose my hair, but hey, that's the best kind of "problem" to have!

D-did you just make a joke?!?!?!

*Storm Eagle* · 07-02-2014, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by plastroncafe

I consider it a kindness to assume someone is on the spectrum when they behave or exhibit a socially inappropriate behavior. Maybe it's something they can't help, and aren't aware that they're behavior is unacceptable. Giving them the benefit of that doubt gives me the opportunity to take a breath and not automatically downgrade that person to Jerk right off the bat.

Maybe it's one thing to consider the possibility, but maybe you just shouldn't to say it out in the open to or about someone. I've had that done to me, and I didn't much care for it. It's just like the example I gave. I guess the aforementioned guy was only trying to understand my mannerisms, but his speculations were complete ass-pulls. People ought to be minding their own business as well.

At my previous job, three women just started raising Cain with me just because I sneezed. While they were ranting and raving, this one woman chimes in saying that you have to be patient with me, for it takes a long time for me to get things. Then they all agree. I didn't like that very much, because that suggests that I'm slow or something. They don't know me as well as they think they do. Besides, I can say the same thing about them since they've come off as closed-minded to me many times.

*BubblyShell22* · 07-02-2014, 05:03 PM

I had one friend in high school who was autistic and a friend in college who was autistic. The one in high school always got mad when he did something wrong and would hit himself and sometimes bite himself in elementary school. By high school things were better for him, but it was something that was a problem for a long time. My college friend didn't have anything like that, but she did tell me she had autism.

*pennydreadful* · 07-02-2014, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Katie

I often think Cyber Cubed is on the spectrum too. Or at the very least extremely sheltered and sort of inexperienced with the real world. Lots of odd posts.

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Originally Posted by Storm Eagle

I guess Cyber Cubed tends to come off strange to others, but I don't think it's right to go and speculate that he might be on the spectrum outright on here.

FWIW, I think Cubed is a nice enough guy but I think he does say stuff which he may not even necessarily mean, just to get people to bite.

My reasoning is that if he acted in real life the way he does online, someone would have throttled him a long time ago. The fact that he lives is proof that his online persona is mostly an act.

I was starting to take him seriously for a while there, and then I kind of had to reason my way to the logical conclusion.

arkangel · 07-02-2014, 06:41 PM

As a psychiatric nurse, I'm very happy that so many disorders are starting to get the level of attention they deserve and that we are starting to see a substantial decline in negative stigma as social awareness improves.
The DSM5 now uses the term Autistic Spectrum Disorder which includes Asperger's, as new studies have shown that it's not such a black or white diagnosis and there is a much wider range of variance than what was previously recognized. I think the word "spectrum" appropriately draws attention to this. To my knowledge, I don't have any family members that fall under this diagnosis but I did look after a young boy with Aspergers. I would accompany him to his Scouts meetings and other social activities. Extremely smart and kind young guy. He just required some guidance and support in social situations. Luckily we have more knowlege, awareness, and support now.
As for Cubed, I don't know what ya got brother. It's so rare and bizarre it defies classification.

I'm just kidding btw. Thanks for being such a good sport. I admire the fact that, like myself, you don't take yourself too seriously and don't offend easily. At the very least your posts provoke thoughtful discussion and you're not afraid to speak your mind, regardless of the popular public opinion. I respect that.

*CyberCubed* · 07-02-2014, 07:35 PM

You know its very interesting to see that a lot of people never understood why certain kids acted the way they did in school until people found out they were autistic or aspie. Instead teachers wrongly put these kids in "special ed" or remedial classes thinking they were just stupid rather than they couldn't help themselves.

Kids who were shy and kept to themselves, made weird motions, or weren't able to keep up with the schoolwork like other kids. There were always kids like this in my classes, but my teachers always treated them like they were just "stupid or slow" kids, rather than what they should have been treated like.

It's a real shame. Its good that the study and discovery of autism/aspergers is more widespread now. Kids in the 80's and early 90's did not have this luxury and I feel sorry for what they had to put up with in school.

It's a shame the kids from my generation (the mid 80's and 90's), didn't get this type of treatment. Looking back.

*Prowler* · 07-03-2014, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by CyberCubed

You know its very interesting to see that a lot of people never understood why certain kids acted the way they did in school until people found out they were autistic or aspie. Instead teachers wrongly put these kids in "special ed" or remedial classes thinking they were just stupid rather than they couldn't help themselves.

Kids who were shy and kept to themselves, made weird motions, or weren't able to keep up with the schoolwork like other kids. There were always kids like this in my classes, but my teachers always treated them like they were just "stupid or slow" kids, rather than what they should have been treated like.

It's a real shame. Its good that the study and discovery of autism/aspergers is more widespread now. Kids in the 80's and early 90's did not have this luxury and I feel sorry for what they had to put up with in school.

It's a shame the kids from my generation (the mid 80's and 90's), didn't get this type of treatment. Looking back.

Sure but, on the other hand, you see a lot of over-diagnosis nowadays. It seems like every time a kid acts different from his classmates, he gets diagnosed with some sort of disorder. I wonder if I'd be diagnosed with a disorder if I was a kid today, since I was kind of an awkward and shy kid.

*CyberCubed* · 07-03-2014, 06:49 PM

I had trouble pronouncing words with the letter R as a kid. Diagnoses? Who knows? Damn doctors diagnose people with anything nowadays.

*Prowler* · 07-03-2014, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by CyberCubed

I had trouble pronouncing words with the letter R as a kid. Diagnoses? Who knows? Damn doctors diagnose people with anything nowadays.

The pharmacy industry has to make money somehow, I guess.

*CyberCubed* · 07-03-2014, 07:23 PM

It is sad, because parents start treating their kids differently if they're diagnosed with something and it might not be true. Also imagine how a kid must feel to be told he's an aspie at like 8 and your parents to say, "Well you're not like other kids" and nonsense like that?

It seems nowadays if you act just slightly different than what's considered "normal" you're diagnosed with some sort of mental disorder.

Pretty glad I grew up in the mid 80's and early 90's before this became a common thing.

View Poll Results: Do you have autism/aspergers?
Yes, I'm an aspie myself	1	11.11%
No, but I have family members diagnosed with it	5	55.56%
I don't know, I've never been diagnosed, but I think I have it	3	33.33%
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07-02-2014, 05:03 PM	#26
BubblyShell22 Leo-holic Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 16,912	I had one friend in high school who was autistic and a friend in college who was autistic. The one in high school always got mad when he did something wrong and would hit himself and sometimes bite himself in elementary school. By high school things were better for him, but it was something that was a problem for a long time. My college friend didn't have anything like that, but she did tell me she had autism. __________________ "A warrior who never fails, never learns."-The Ancient One. "Embrace your inner a**holiness."-Mr. Anderson.

07-02-2014, 06:41 PM	#28
arkangel Hench Mutant Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 444	As a psychiatric nurse, I'm very happy that so many disorders are starting to get the level of attention they deserve and that we are starting to see a substantial decline in negative stigma as social awareness improves. The DSM5 now uses the term Autistic Spectrum Disorder which includes Asperger's, as new studies have shown that it's not such a black or white diagnosis and there is a much wider range of variance than what was previously recognized. I think the word "spectrum" appropriately draws attention to this. To my knowledge, I don't have any family members that fall under this diagnosis but I did look after a young boy with Aspergers. I would accompany him to his Scouts meetings and other social activities. Extremely smart and kind young guy. He just required some guidance and support in social situations. Luckily we have more knowlege, awareness, and support now. As for Cubed, I don't know what ya got brother. It's so rare and bizarre it defies classification. I'm just kidding btw. Thanks for being such a good sport. I admire the fact that, like myself, you don't take yourself too seriously and don't offend easily. At the very least your posts provoke thoughtful discussion and you're not afraid to speak your mind, regardless of the popular public opinion. I respect that.

07-02-2014, 07:35 PM	#29
CyberCubed Overlord Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 43,872	You know its very interesting to see that a lot of people never understood why certain kids acted the way they did in school until people found out they were autistic or aspie. Instead teachers wrongly put these kids in "special ed" or remedial classes thinking they were just stupid rather than they couldn't help themselves. Kids who were shy and kept to themselves, made weird motions, or weren't able to keep up with the schoolwork like other kids. There were always kids like this in my classes, but my teachers always treated them like they were just "stupid or slow" kids, rather than what they should have been treated like. It's a real shame. Its good that the study and discovery of autism/aspergers is more widespread now. Kids in the 80's and early 90's did not have this luxury and I feel sorry for what they had to put up with in school. It's a shame the kids from my generation (the mid 80's and 90's), didn't get this type of treatment. Looking back.

07-03-2014, 06:49 PM	#31
CyberCubed Overlord Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 43,872	I had trouble pronouncing words with the letter R as a kid. Diagnoses? Who knows? Damn doctors diagnose people with anything nowadays.

07-03-2014, 07:23 PM	#33
CyberCubed Overlord Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 43,872	It is sad, because parents start treating their kids differently if they're diagnosed with something and it might not be true. Also imagine how a kid must feel to be told he's an aspie at like 8 and your parents to say, "Well you're not like other kids" and nonsense like that? It seems nowadays if you act just slightly different than what's considered "normal" you're diagnosed with some sort of mental disorder. Pretty glad I grew up in the mid 80's and early 90's before this became a common thing.