What Grinds Your Gears? :) - Page 64

*snake* · 02-04-2014, 03:51 PM

I'm pretty much trying to avoid him and send him the message that we should separate.

*BubblyShell22* · 02-04-2014, 04:10 PM

Good for you, Snake. You don't need people like that dragging you down when you can have better friends than him.

*blindturtle02* · 02-04-2014, 04:27 PM

I second that. Don't let him guilt trip ya into sticking around. Some people are very very good at that sort of thing. Especially when they know you're a really nice person.

*Zany Orange Dude* · 02-04-2014, 04:48 PM

The way my ex broke up with me. It was over the winter break. He used to call me everyday, but our phone conversations had been getting dull and I could tell we were both half-hearted about the relationship. I had planned on breaking up with him in person (because last time I broke up with him over the phone and I had been told by both he and friends that I should have done it face to face). But one day he just stopped calling. Three week pass and school starts up again. Everyday we have an art class together and we both just acts like the other doesn't exist. I can understand that he wants to break up, but at least have the balls to actually come to me and break up! Especially after you said, "Next time come face to face and we can talk it out." Well he sure as hell didn't do that!

*TurtleTitan97* · 02-04-2014, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Zany Orange Dude

The way my ex broke up with me. It was over the winter break. He used to call me everyday, but our phone conversations had been getting dull and I could tell we were both half-hearted about the relationship. I had planned on breaking up with him in person (because last time I broke up with him over the phone and I had been told by both he and friends that I should have done it face to face). But one day he just stopped calling. Three week pass and school starts up again. Everyday we have an art class together and we both just acts like the other doesn't exist. I can understand that he wants to break up, but at least have the balls to actually come to me and break up! Especially after you said, "Next time come face to face and we can talk it out." Well he sure as hell didn't do that!

I'm sorry to hear that, Zany.

That really bites.

*Zany Orange Dude* · 02-04-2014, 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by TurtleTitan97

I'm sorry to hear that, Zany.

That really bites.

Yeah it does. Not only that but we had this date scheduled about a week before he just stopped calling (only our 2nd date out of the FOUR months we had been together and I had to push for him to take me out!) but it got rained out so I told him we would reschedule it, he just needed to pick a date. He told me he would....and he never did. Never even brought it up again. Honestly...I just feel used. I feel like he was just all words and didn't mean any of it...

*Sage Ninja* · 02-04-2014, 05:33 PM

people who don't clean off the top of their cars when it snows and then go on the highway where the wind blows it off right onto cars behind them blinding them and possiably damaging their cars.

The fact that I signed up for a very early morning class this semester and the weather has not cooperated since day one.

bills and my inablity to stay on top of them or even save money...

My twenties are zipping right by...

I'm not doing well with any of my interpersonal relationships lately. It's getting to the point where I just don't enjoy being around people any more. It's getting way to emotionally exhausting and I'm tired of guessing everyone mood and acting accordingly while ignoring how I feel. right before classes started up again I realized that I don't even go out any more, not even by myself. I don't know why but I find I get incrediably depressed between school breaks.

*blindturtle02* · 02-04-2014, 07:02 PM

I'm sorry too Zany. I have a cousin who's going through the exact same thing and it's quite difficult to watch. People who use other like that also grind my gears.

Agree with ya on pretty much everything, Sage! No matter how much I pay a month, the bills just seem to keep piling up. My fiancé has lones she's paying off from college and all that. And groceries seem to be getting more expensive per month. One's 20's also tend to fly by extremely fast. I spent a good chunk of mine in relationships with the same types of folks described by Zany, actually. As for early morning classes and snow, due to my not being able to see and a freakish early March snowstorm, actually got lost on campus one early morning. The sidewalk was covered with ice and all my usual landmarks were covered but worrywart that I am, I still thought we were having class and didn't want to arrive late. It was hot the day before and no one knew anything was coming. So I have a love/hate relationship with snow and ice. I now know how Luke Skywalker felt when he was stumbling around on Hoth at the beginning of Empire. haha No Forceghost showed up telling me to go learn from Yoda, the Jedi Master who instructed him, so that worked out alright.

Dawnatello Turtle Chick · 02-04-2014, 09:36 PM

Sorry to hear about that Zany, sometimes people just don't know how to handle relationships so they act like a jerk... but then sometimes they just are a jerk and better to find out now than later. And bills, I don't even want to go there. It just seems to be a black hole- just utter the words "Oh, it looks like we will have a little money left over on this paycheck" and then you need new tires or someone has to go to the Dr. It never ends...

But what really grinds my gears right now is that when we were just over in Fort Worth last week I saw the issue TMNT #30 sitting at 2 or more comic book shops we looked at (as well as my Ghostbusters titles & the new Utrom micro) and I didn't pick them up because I have them on my subscription list through heavyink.com. Just checked their website to see why I haven't gotten them yet and come to find out that #30 is running late from publisher- but yet it's on stands everywhere else. I could've been reading all my fav comics but now I'm just waiting to see if they decide to get it in or not.... Thinking of changing subscription services... Any suggestions?

~~Leo656~~ · 02-04-2014, 09:58 PM

For what it's worth... this is my go-to song for when I feel like people are screwing with my emotions. Never fails to pick me right up.

I often wonder why I find dark music so uplifting.

EDIT: This one's a little more upbeat.

*blindturtle02* · 02-05-2014, 07:09 AM

Nice one's Leo. Yeah, I tend to burry my nose in a book or do the music thing when dealing with folks like that. Well, after I've attempted to mend fences. Then there are times when they're not worth it at all. People who enjoy toying with others' emotions have often seemed to have none of their own, to me anyway. That or they enjoy watching people suffer. Pretty pathetic and rather disturbing.

Yeah Dawnatello, hate seeing something I really want on store shelves and having to wait for it. That happened with my Ninja Tribunal season set preorder from TMNT 2k3 a few years ago. They hadn't even shipped the DVD and it was 2 or so weeks after its release date, so I remember canceling the order and running to Target to pick it up. Getting Superhero related titles on DVD the day they're released is my equivalent of comicbook day, if that makes sense. Like the song says, the waiting is the hardest part.

*BubblyShell22* · 02-05-2014, 03:48 PM

ZOD, sorry about what happened to you. He's nothing but a coward if he can't tell you to your face how he feels and keeps giving mixed signals. Nothing good can come from that. The best thing you can do is surround yourself with people who are awesome and leave it at that. You'll find the right one someday, and even if you don't, that's okay. Just don't rush into another relationship too fast and give yourself time to heal from this one.

BT, I hate snow and ice too. Totally ticks me off, which is why I can't go out and get the mail anymore. Plus, the drift in front of our house is totally huge! We can't see the bottom of our maple tree, that's how big it is. We even have a drift in the backyard, even though we never usually have a drift there. Really sick of winter.

RaphAndDonnie · 02-05-2014, 04:40 PM

The fact that my boyfriend (who's an FTM transman) and i can't hold hands like every other couple at my school because apparently the staff doesn't condone same sex couples, really burns me up

There's also the fact that not everyone knows he's trans so I have to be careful of who I call him a guy in front of.

*Zany Orange Dude* · 02-05-2014, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by RaphAndDonnie

The fact that my boyfriend (who's an FTM transman) and i can't hold hands like every other couple at my school because apparently the staff doesn't condone same sex couples, really burns me up

There's also the fact that not everyone knows he's trans so I have to be careful of who I call him a guy in front of.

Ooooo! That is a pain!

*blindturtle02* · 02-05-2014, 05:08 PM

I agree. Not cool at all. Best of luck to you guys, RaphAndDonnie.

*Refractive Reflections* · 02-05-2014, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by snake

Negative people who think making jokes about 9/11 and Satanism is "funny" and they don't really mean to offend anybody. A fine line exists between a joke and touchy matters like racial steryotypes. I'm friends with an a**hole like this and he just pisses me off with this. He's a good guy and all but what he says is just terrible. I call him up and talk to him for awhile about three or four times a week. He rants about girls in our class, getting mad about them being offended because he called them stupid, we talk about tmnt, he rants some more, end call.

I've told him time and time again to stop being so negative and it really puts a strain on our friendship. He shrugs it off and tells me to deal with it. Everyone makes fun of him becuase he thinks he's all that and at the fact that he doesn't care about hygiene at all. He smells like a pile of crap and whenever I bring it up that he should maybe shower or use body wash, he says "maybe it's you that smell". Every time I bring up something he should improve on he shrugs it off. Next he starts making jokes about blacks and Mexicans. This I cannot stand. Living in an area with many Mexican people as well as African Americans, I think most are nice people and more positive then most "white" people I know. He treats Mexicans like animals, and blacks like the steriotypical "rapper". I have a sense of humor, and I don't mind poking fun at America and other country's, but what this guys says is insane! He puts this up on his instagram "Hail Satan, 666". He says he was just joking but not people are offended by that.

/End rant

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Originally Posted by snake

I'm pretty much trying to avoid him and send him the message that we should separate.

As BubblyShell and blindturtle02 have stated, just cut ties with him. Friends shouldn't be creating so much drama, there's already enough stress in dealing with school, family, and homework I'm sure. Don't make the split abrupt, just casually avoid (which it seems you are doing) and spend less and less time around him.

You need friends that are uplifting, not bothering and aggravating you because of their reckless insensitivity.

Peanut · 02-05-2014, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by snake

Living in an area with many Mexican people as well as African Americans, I think most are nice people and more positive then most "white" people I know.

The irony is suffocating.

*BubblyShell22* · 02-06-2014, 09:20 AM

Sorry about that trouble, RAD. That sucks, and they should ban it for everyone and not just you. I know at my high school, you couldn't hug, kiss, or even hold hands without a note from your minister, your parents, and the school. Pretty crazy. But in college, it gets better.

*Whatswiththeheadbands?* · 02-07-2014, 12:40 PM

People who care more about making money than pleasing their customers/viewers. It always comes across as a lazy way of doing something, and makes them look desperate. Making money is fine and all, but the interest of the customer or viewers should come first, not the money.

EDIT: But at least because of that, we got one of Pink Floyd's best albums, so it's not all bad.

Wingnut · 02-07-2014, 01:13 PM

I am pissed about winter in general, but people who drive INSANELY fast on black ice/snow covered roads are testing my sanity lately.

If it was sunny and 70 these people wouldn't even approach the speed limit but when the roads freeze over, all of a sudden, they get the need for speed.

02-04-2014, 04:10 PM	#1262
BubblyShell22 Leo-holic Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 16,912	Good for you, Snake. You don't need people like that dragging you down when you can have better friends than him. __________________ "A warrior who never fails, never learns."-The Ancient One. "Embrace your inner a**holiness."-Mr. Anderson.

02-04-2014, 04:27 PM	#1263
blindturtle02 Foot Elite Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Tx Posts: 2,627	I second that. Don't let him guilt trip ya into sticking around. Some people are very very good at that sort of thing. Especially when they know you're a really nice person. __________________ Please don't remove my nice hat and wack me in the butt with it.

02-04-2014, 04:48 PM	#1264
Zany Orange Dude The Little Nerdy Teacher Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: At my desk reading comics and writing lesson plans Posts: 2,292	The way my ex broke up with me. It was over the winter break. He used to call me everyday, but our phone conversations had been getting dull and I could tell we were both half-hearted about the relationship. I had planned on breaking up with him in person (because last time I broke up with him over the phone and I had been told by both he and friends that I should have done it face to face). But one day he just stopped calling. Three week pass and school starts up again. Everyday we have an art class together and we both just acts like the other doesn't exist. I can understand that he wants to break up, but at least have the balls to actually come to me and break up! Especially after you said, "Next time come face to face and we can talk it out." Well he sure as hell didn't do that! __________________

02-04-2014, 05:33 PM	#1267
Sage Ninja Band of the Hawk Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: USA Posts: 3,926	people who don't clean off the top of their cars when it snows and then go on the highway where the wind blows it off right onto cars behind them blinding them and possiably damaging their cars. The fact that I signed up for a very early morning class this semester and the weather has not cooperated since day one. bills and my inablity to stay on top of them or even save money... My twenties are zipping right by... I'm not doing well with any of my interpersonal relationships lately. It's getting to the point where I just don't enjoy being around people any more. It's getting way to emotionally exhausting and I'm tired of guessing everyone mood and acting accordingly while ignoring how I feel. right before classes started up again I realized that I don't even go out any more, not even by myself. I don't know why but I find I get incrediably depressed between school breaks. __________________ Cassandra: You won't fight me, but will you fight--for him! Cassandra's Revenge ~Tangled the Series ________________________________ http://frankviola.org/2012/01/30/godsviewofawoman/ _______________________________ http://nox-artemis.tumblr.com/post/4...k-and-feminism

02-04-2014, 07:02 PM	#1268
blindturtle02 Foot Elite Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Tx Posts: 2,627	I'm sorry too Zany. I have a cousin who's going through the exact same thing and it's quite difficult to watch. People who use other like that also grind my gears. Agree with ya on pretty much everything, Sage! No matter how much I pay a month, the bills just seem to keep piling up. My fiancé has lones she's paying off from college and all that. And groceries seem to be getting more expensive per month. One's 20's also tend to fly by extremely fast. I spent a good chunk of mine in relationships with the same types of folks described by Zany, actually. As for early morning classes and snow, due to my not being able to see and a freakish early March snowstorm, actually got lost on campus one early morning. The sidewalk was covered with ice and all my usual landmarks were covered but worrywart that I am, I still thought we were having class and didn't want to arrive late. It was hot the day before and no one knew anything was coming. So I have a love/hate relationship with snow and ice. I now know how Luke Skywalker felt when he was stumbling around on Hoth at the beginning of Empire. haha No Forceghost showed up telling me to go learn from Yoda, the Jedi Master who instructed him, so that worked out alright. __________________ Please don't remove my nice hat and wack me in the butt with it. Last edited by blindturtle02; 02-04-2014 at 07:12 PM.

02-04-2014, 03:51 PM	#1261
snake Disgusting Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Outer Heaven Posts: 12,231	I'm pretty much trying to avoid him and send him the message that we should separate.

02-04-2014, 09:36 PM	#1269
Dawnatello Turtle Chick Mad Scientist Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Mineral Wells, TX Posts: 1,178	Sorry to hear about that Zany, sometimes people just don't know how to handle relationships so they act like a jerk... but then sometimes they just are a jerk and better to find out now than later. And bills, I don't even want to go there. It just seems to be a black hole- just utter the words "Oh, it looks like we will have a little money left over on this paycheck" and then you need new tires or someone has to go to the Dr. It never ends... But what really grinds my gears right now is that when we were just over in Fort Worth last week I saw the issue TMNT #30 sitting at 2 or more comic book shops we looked at (as well as my Ghostbusters titles & the new Utrom micro) and I didn't pick them up because I have them on my subscription list through heavyink.com. Just checked their website to see why I haven't gotten them yet and come to find out that #30 is running late from publisher- but yet it's on stands everywhere else. I could've been reading all my fav comics but now I'm just waiting to see if they decide to get it in or not.... Thinking of changing subscription services... Any suggestions? __________________ These are here-->[IMG][/IMG]<---and here.

02-04-2014, 09:58 PM	#1270
~~Leo656~~ Banned Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: nWo Country Posts: 27,703	For what it's worth... this is my go-to song for when I feel like people are screwing with my emotions. Never fails to pick me right up. I often wonder why I find dark music so uplifting. EDIT: This one's a little more upbeat. Last edited by Leo656; 02-04-2014 at 10:12 PM.

02-05-2014, 07:09 AM	#1271
blindturtle02 Foot Elite Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Tx Posts: 2,627	Nice one's Leo. Yeah, I tend to burry my nose in a book or do the music thing when dealing with folks like that. Well, after I've attempted to mend fences. Then there are times when they're not worth it at all. People who enjoy toying with others' emotions have often seemed to have none of their own, to me anyway. That or they enjoy watching people suffer. Pretty pathetic and rather disturbing. Yeah Dawnatello, hate seeing something I really want on store shelves and having to wait for it. That happened with my Ninja Tribunal season set preorder from TMNT 2k3 a few years ago. They hadn't even shipped the DVD and it was 2 or so weeks after its release date, so I remember canceling the order and running to Target to pick it up. Getting Superhero related titles on DVD the day they're released is my equivalent of comicbook day, if that makes sense. Like the song says, the waiting is the hardest part. __________________ Please don't remove my nice hat and wack me in the butt with it.

02-05-2014, 03:48 PM	#1272
BubblyShell22 Leo-holic Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 16,912	ZOD, sorry about what happened to you. He's nothing but a coward if he can't tell you to your face how he feels and keeps giving mixed signals. Nothing good can come from that. The best thing you can do is surround yourself with people who are awesome and leave it at that. You'll find the right one someday, and even if you don't, that's okay. Just don't rush into another relationship too fast and give yourself time to heal from this one. BT, I hate snow and ice too. Totally ticks me off, which is why I can't go out and get the mail anymore. Plus, the drift in front of our house is totally huge! We can't see the bottom of our maple tree, that's how big it is. We even have a drift in the backyard, even though we never usually have a drift there. Really sick of winter. __________________ "A warrior who never fails, never learns."-The Ancient One. "Embrace your inner a**holiness."-Mr. Anderson.

02-05-2014, 05:08 PM	#1275
blindturtle02 Foot Elite Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Tx Posts: 2,627	I agree. Not cool at all. Best of luck to you guys, RaphAndDonnie. __________________ Please don't remove my nice hat and wack me in the butt with it.

02-06-2014, 09:20 AM	#1278
BubblyShell22 Leo-holic Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 16,912	Sorry about that trouble, RAD. That sucks, and they should ban it for everyone and not just you. I know at my high school, you couldn't hug, kiss, or even hold hands without a note from your minister, your parents, and the school. Pretty crazy. But in college, it gets better. __________________ "A warrior who never fails, never learns."-The Ancient One. "Embrace your inner a**holiness."-Mr. Anderson.

02-07-2014, 12:40 PM	#1279
Whatswiththeheadbands? The Weed of Crime Join Date: May 2013 Location: The Shadow's Sanctum Posts: 3,007	People who care more about making money than pleasing their customers/viewers. It always comes across as a lazy way of doing something, and makes them look desperate. Making money is fine and all, but the interest of the customer or viewers should come first, not the money. EDIT: But at least because of that, we got one of Pink Floyd's best albums, so it's not all bad. __________________ Who knows what Evil lurks in the hearts of Men? The Shadow knows... Last edited by Whatswiththeheadbands?; 02-07-2014 at 01:28 PM.

02-07-2014, 01:13 PM	#1280
Wingnut Mad Scientist Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Pao Pao Café Posts: 1,264	I am pissed about winter in general, but people who drive INSANELY fast on black ice/snow covered roads are testing my sanity lately. If it was sunny and 70 these people wouldn't even approach the speed limit but when the roads freeze over, all of a sudden, they get the need for speed. __________________ "I'll be what I wanna do."