When are you supposed to feel like an adult?

[CyberCubed]

This may sound silly, but I'm being serious.

I'm in my mid-20's now and I still feel no different than what I was like back in High School. I've graduated College and have a full-time job, yet I don't feel like an, "adult" whatsoever.

I remember when I was in High School thinking I'd be totally different when I hit my 20's and especially mid-20's...yet I feel virtually no different and I still like almost all the same things I did when I was like 17.

Seriously, WTF? I guess after you get married and have your own kid you tend to feel like an adult, and that hasn't happened to me yet. Anyone here with kids can say that made you feel different?

[zodiac brave]

i dont feel any different either. but im going to be 29 in 2 weeks. erm...i dont think theres a moment where you feel a switch into adulthood, man. no 2nd puberty or anything...you're just you, but older. waiting for some sign to let you know you're an adult is pointless. you just are.

[gobo]

Being an adult means you've lived at least 18 years. Feeling like an adult is what you get to after you stop feeling like a kid. The more responsibilities you have, the more adult you should feel.

[Eiko]

I have 2 boys I'm a kid most of the time around them having fun but i become an adult when i need to be. just be yourself no need to worry if you still do kid stuff. As i say to my kids dont be in a hurry to grow up.

[Master Splinter]

Originally Posted by CyberCubed

This may sound silly, but I'm being serious.

I'm in my mid-20's now and I still feel no different than what I was like back in High School. I've graduated College and have a full-time job, yet I don't feel like an, "adult" whatsoever.

I remember when I was in High School thinking I'd be totally different when I hit my 20's and especially mid-20's...yet I feel virtually no different and I still like almost all the same things I did when I was like 17.

Seriously, WTF? I guess after you get married and have your own kid you tend to feel like an adult, and that hasn't happened to me yet. Anyone here with kids can say that made you feel different?

It sounds like you are waiting for your Saturn Return. Here is another explanation as well.

The thing about it all though is that you are the only one who can change yourself. I believe that if the time comes and you realize where you are in life and if you desire change then that is the best time to accept and make that change happen, if you miss this opportunity I believe you will always be the same, meaning changing yourself will become more difficult.

Saturn is coming back around in my life here soon and it has got me thinking a lot about my future, the future of the things I do, the projects I am involved in, etc.

Check it out, even if you don't believe in this sort of stuff it is definitely interesting to read.

-ms

[Luzmagica]

my two cents:

In my opinion we belong to the luckiest generation, we can keep the majority despite the responsibilities, our way of life (internal/mind) without major changes.
The rest is a social convention .... you can be married, have children and feel like same child/person deep inside; other generations were not so lucky because it was apparently not frowned upon (social convention) for an adult.

I mean....your soul, your spirit can grow but not grow old....

[pannoni1]

To me, its when you can responsibly follow all of the laws and have good social skills without the assistance of stuff that you learned as a child. You don't have to be married, have kids, or even live separately from your parents and not be considered "adult". Its just a choice of lifestyle. I live in a large house and treat my bedroom area like a studio apartment, and I own a share in another house with my father.

[Hannah]

as far as i'm concerned, adulthood is owning a house and i can't even fathom ever having my **** together enough to do that so no adulthood for me

[Cipher]

I've come to the conclusion that most people never feel like adults, and, even at their most successful, view their lives with a sense of childish disconnect and wonder, constantly amazed by the things they've done and have.

You don't grow up; you just get old.

[CyberCubed]

Originally Posted by Cipher

I've come to the conclusion that most people never feel like adults, and, even at their most successful, view their lives with a sense of childish disconnect and wonder, constantly amazed by the things they've done and have.

You don't grow up; you just get old.

I've always wondered if its just the fact that our generation grew up with more "fandom stuff" than our parents that we grew up slower. So many adults still like watching cartoons, reading comics and playing videogames, that our interest in "fandom" makes us still feel younger.

My father is a big Star Trek fan, but that remains his only fandom. He never got into videogames besides playing Super Mario Bros. 1 with me on the NES when I was 5.

I think there was a study saying the average videogame player is now 35 years old, when back in the 90's videogames were viewed as, "just for kids," and so forth.

I wonder if this is the case.

[BubblyShell22]

I think it's subjective to the person. What makes one feel like an adult may not be the same for everyone. I know when I started working in college, I felt like an adult because I was earning my own money and using it for practical purposes such as buying lunch. It felt good that I didn't have to ask my dad for money all the time once I got the job (except during those first pay periods where we didn't get paid right away). After I graduated and the economy fell flat, I began to really question whether I'd ever feel like an adult. I still live with my parents, and maybe when I move out, I'll really feel like a true adult.

With the prospect of getting my tutoring job, I know I'll feel like an adult again because I'll be working and earning my own money. It just depends on the person.

[Katie]

When you move out of your parent's house for good. When you stop needing someone to take care of you......when you sacrifice your own wants to provide for someone else....That's when you're an adult.

Living at home.....nope still a kid. Someone is providing for you whether you think so or not.

Mom and dad paying you rent? Still a kid.

Mom and dad paying your rent even if you have a job....or live at home...all so you can buy toys and junk? Definitely still a kid.

[TheCanadiandrome]

I think I'll feel like an adult when I'm my parents ages, in the 60s range lol

It's like the old saying "only as old as you feel"

[zkarlette]

Originally Posted by TheCanadiandrome

I think I'll feel like an adult when I'm my parents ages, in the 60s range lol

It's like the old saying "only as old as you feel"

That's true, also there is a big difference between being responsible and acting old.

[Cipher]

Originally Posted by Katie

When you move out of your parent's house for good. When you stop needing someone to take care of you......when you sacrifice your own wants to provide for someone else....That's when you're an adult.

Right, but I don't know about "feeling like an adult." Those things don't constitute a fundamental shift in the way you feel about yourself and view the world.

I'm out of my parents' house, living with my fiancee on my own salary now. I'm planning for the future of my career and education. I have a professional job. I certainly call myself an adult. But I think a lot of people can identify with making those steps and not feeling any different. I don't. I don't know any one who does. And I don't see that changing in ten years', twenty years' or thirty years' time.

[TheCanadiandrome]

Originally Posted by zkarlette

That's true, also there is a big difference between being responsible and acting old.

Yes indeed there is

[CyberCubed]

I wonder if it has to do with this generation too. 30 year olds now act like 20 year olds. People are saying "the 30's are the new 20's." and so forth.

It actually surprises me. Some of my co-workers are in their early and mid-30's and they act like 22 year old College students. You would seriously not be able to tell the difference just by the way they act and talk about, even though most of them are married and have kids.

[zodiac brave]

there's this...I'd heard the term TWITT bandied about for the past few years.

Teens Well Into Their Thirties.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...its-shes-.html

[TheCanadiandrome]

Originally Posted by CyberCubed

I wonder if it has to do with this generation too. 30 year olds now act like 20 year olds. People are saying "the 30's are the new 20's." and so forth.

It actually surprises me. Some of my co-workers are in their early and mid-30's and they act like 22 year old College students. You would seriously not be able to tell the difference just by the way they act and talk about, even though most of them are married and have kids.

I'm in my late 20s and I act like a teen lol

[Mzx10484]

Never. In many areas. I can be happy like a kid, especially when it's about guitars, music, Turtles... But I have a good sense, a good reason, which I would call "a result of growing up".