My Tinder Strategy

[BubblyShell22]

My apologies if it seemed insensitive, but that's how I see it. You may meet the person eventually when you're able to, but before that, all you're doing is talking via computer. I just don't really like the idea of online dating and would never do it myself. If my relationship doesn't work out with my BF, I'm just going to stay single for the rest of my life rather than waste time trying to find someone over the Internet. If it works for other people, that's great and congrats to those who have made it work. It's just not something I like the idea of. Hell, my cousin found her husband online, but she got lucky in that department though I was worried about it at first.

I agree that you can't be too careful with dating either way, but to me, at least if you meet someone first, you can get a sense of whether they're trustworthy or not whereas with online dating, it's really hard to tell if you're getting someone who says who they say they are. Anyone can fool you online which is why I'm not a fan of online dating.

You can call me insensitive all you want, but I'm just a realist when it comes to these things.

[Powder]

Online dating does not = talking on a computer.

Online dating = Say hello in a message, if there's chemistry, you move to a phone call.

You can't trust someone just because you met them in real life. That's complete BS. People are liars. You're not a realist, you're a conservative worrywart who's let mainstream media propaganda dictate your social life.

[CyberCubed]

Keep in mind online dating isn't just typing texts to each other anymore.

Now with webcams you actually have video chat with the people, you actually see what they look like, and its like talking face to face in real life. Some of you are acting like you have no clue what the person looks like on the internet.

You guys do realize we're not in 1995 anymore, right? Video chatting exists.

[Powder]

Originally Posted by CyberCubed

Some of you

You guys

You mean BubblyShell22. There is one person arguing against it.

[BubblyShell22]

I"m just saying that it's not something I'd personally do myself. If others want to do it that's fine. I agree that there is video chat and ways to still meet people like that, but even then I'd still want to be more cautious about things. Call me a worrywart all you want, I just feel it's better to be safe than sorry since you never know who could scam you with these things. It's just my opinion, and that's it.

DB, I wish you luck and hope you be careful about these things.

When I first heard the word Tinder, I thought it was a brand of chocolate not a dating site.

And, Powder, I'm not a conservative. I don't classify myself that way or a liberal either. I'm just cautious, that's all.

[Cipher]

I've been having fun with this as a sort of time-killer for the past few weeks. I get a fair amount of matches, but I'm terrible at actually striking up conversations on it. I actually wish girls would be a little more proactive in doing that, but that's not the culture, so I understand.

I also have something going on right now so that I'm not horribly desperate for the touch of a woman, but if I was, I'd probably use it a little more seriously.

It's fun, though; most single twenty-somethings I know have a profile at least to play around with. If you meet someone through it, power to you.

Well the thing with this app is they go off looks alone, so...actually yeah, he's never gonna meet anyone.

I actually don't swipe right in most cases unless they actually seem like someone I'd want to talk to, which at least includes a glance at whatever their tagline is and common interests.

[BubblyShell22]

Well, maybe girls are a little shy about these types of things if they've never done it before and want to be cautious about it. Don't sweat it and just keep on trying if you want to find that match. I can understand people wanting to be careful about these things because you just never know what can happen with this type of stuff. All I'm saying is just be careful and don't rush anything. I just don't want anyone on here getting hurt or scammed, that's all.

[Powder]

Originally Posted by BubblyShell22

And, Powder, I'm not a conservative. I don't classify myself that way or a liberal either. I'm just cautious, that's all.

The term conservative existed prior to the political sect-

"A person who is averse to change and holds to traditional values and attitudes"

[Peanut]

Don't you know relationships you make online may not end well!? Completely unlike every relationship you make in real life, which always turn out SWIMMINGLY!

Online dating is for chumps! GO OUTSIDE, NERDS!

[CyberCubed]

Online dating is a lot safer then walking into a bar and picking up some random girl who has been sitting there every week. Half those girls are "party girls" who have probably had more men inside them than your average girl on the internet.

The girls who probably do try dating on the internet are likely shyer or more withdrawn girls who don't do the bar/party scene and want to meet someone. Of course this isn't always true, but it seems more likely.

After you finish College it gets harder to meet new girls when you're single. Unless you manage to get lucky with one of your co-workers, but that tends to be rare.

[BubblyShell22]

Powder, I already said I'm not arguing about this anymore, and I was talking about myself personally not doing online dating. I don't care what any of you other people do. I already said this before. Now leave me alone. I've got enough sh*t on my plate now and don't need this drama. Drop it.

And you don't have to necessarily meet people in a bar. You can meet people anywhere you go. But whatever.

[CyberCubed]

Originally Posted by BubblyShell22

And you don't have to necessarily meet people in a bar. You can meet people anywhere you go. But whatever.

90% of the time those people are either married or already in a relationship. Or simply not interested.

[Storm Wolf]

I think online dating is great and not just because I met my husband here. It gives you the chance to experience something new without having to move across states or even countries.

For example in KROW's small town I think everyone I know is somehow related here. Kinda off putting. I'd be worried I was somehow dating a relative. Haha!

I think it adds a wider scope of diversity in your choices.

Sure there are "catfish" on the internet but I feel people are more honest when it comes to personality and ideals because if someone doesn't like you....you move on to the next person....there are plenty of choices on the internet.

I liked the fact that when KROW and I met looks were not a factor. It was all personality and getting a feel of who each other were. I know many people think that this sort of "mushy" stuff doesn't exist but I did very much fall in love with his being or his soul (if you believe in that sort of thing). We traded emails, snail mail, and phone calls for quite sometime before we traded pictures (I still have them too!) and a little over a year before we physically met.

No it's not for everyone....some people are just old fashioned and that's fine, too, but to say that internet dating isn't successful is wrong.

BTW, the best way to meet someone is OBVIOUSLY through The Technodrome. Hell, who doesn't love a bunch of loud "mouthed" and opinionated TMNT fans?




GAH! I kid, I kid!

[discordiatookie]

Don't know much about tinder, but you can put me firmly in the camp of being a fan of online dating. One've my best friends met his wife online, and although I had met my wife a couple of times on nights out (through friends of friends) we got to know each other through Facebook and texting...