Singles nation: Why so many Americans are unmarried - Page 3

*BubblyShell22* · 07-05-2015, 08:01 AM

Yes, people do tend to rush into marriage because they don't know the logistics of it, but as you said, your parents are still married and they got married at 25. It just depends on the compatibility of the couple and how they deal with each other once they're married. As I said before, another factor is whether they live together before they're married. This is happening more often than it used to, but there are people who still believe in waiting before marriage to live together and to have sex because they feel it's the right thing to do. And while that's fine, that could pose a problem as they don't live together before then and don't really know how it would work if they don't try it beforehand.

Look at my parents. They didn't live together before they were married and now they can't stand each other. I told Mom that if she would have lived with him before they got married, she would have had a better chance of knowing what she was getting into and could have gotten out of it.

*shuriken* · 07-08-2015, 12:17 AM

I totally want to get married. Have a wedding with an open bar and have food that includes various cuts of meat (with an eggplant option for the veggie lovers), tiny onions and pillowy mounds of mashed potatoes.

But Yes the older I get the more I see it happening.

**Jester** · 07-08-2015, 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by shuriken

I totally want to get married. Have a wedding with an open bar and have food that includes various cuts of meat (with an eggplant option for the veggie lovers), tiny onions and pillowy mounds of mashed potatoes.

But Yes the older I get the more I see it happening.

*BubblyShell22* · 07-08-2015, 08:35 AM

Just seeing that makes me crave mashed potatoes.

But, nah, I don't want any of that stuff. Even if I DID want to get married, I'd want it to be at a courthouse and just a simple little affair with no fan fare or anything. I'm just not a flashy person. And I wouldn't want to wear some wedding dress either. Give me slacks and a nice shirt and I'd be happy in that.

*shuriken* · 07-09-2015, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Jester

But yes, that's what I want. And yeah to signify a union with someone I'd like to share everything with. But mostly ya know food.

*MsMarvelDuckie* · 07-10-2015, 01:27 AM

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Originally Posted by BubblyShell22

Just seeing that makes me crave mashed potatoes.

But, nah, I don't want any of that stuff. Even if I DID want to get married, I'd want it to be at a courthouse and just a simple little affair with no fan fare or anything. I'm just not a flashy person. And I wouldn't want to wear some wedding dress either. Give me slacks and a nice shirt and I'd be happy in that.

Sounds like my "legal" wedding. It was in my grandmother's front yard, and we were dressed in our Sunday church clothes, married by a retired JOP, with a bouquet of wildflowers from grandma's pasture. The cake was a 15$ one from Wal-Mart, and the ceremony consisted of me, him, my mom and grandma, one of grandma's friends and her son, the wife of the JOP (he was an elder at the church we went to then), three cousins, his mom and one of her friends, and my uncle and his ex. That was it. Neither his dad nor mine was there. (His had the excuse of having to work and not being able to get out of it. Mine just didn't want to go.)

*Mayhem* · 07-10-2015, 03:53 AM

The wedding I went to in Mississippi (no, it wasn't brother and sister!

) last year was a reasonably similar affair MsD. There were about 40 of us, so there were friends and family. But it was a small, quiet church about five miles from where they lived (we all just about fit in!), the reception was immediately next door in a small hall, with some drinks and food, and a good time was had. Nothing extravagant, nothing flashy. Apart from the ubiquitous defacing of the couple's car that they were gonna drive away in onto their honeymoon heh. Needless to say, as the only non-American there, I got a bit more attention than most. Well, me and the two guys from New York, with the obvious "Yankee" accents heh.

*ssjup81* · 08-08-2015, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by CyberCubed

I think the problem is a lot of people marry after only knowing someone for like 2 years or so. I would definitely be with someone at least 5-10 years before ever choosing to marry. You have to know if you can live together and tolerate each other for 5+ years before that.

Then again my parents got married at the age of 25...and they're still together today nearly 30 years later so go figure.

Late, but I also think this is a good idea. My parents were together 6 years before they married and had me. This year is the 40th anniversary of their first meeting.

07-05-2015, 08:01 AM	#41
BubblyShell22 Leo-holic Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 16,912	Yes, people do tend to rush into marriage because they don't know the logistics of it, but as you said, your parents are still married and they got married at 25. It just depends on the compatibility of the couple and how they deal with each other once they're married. As I said before, another factor is whether they live together before they're married. This is happening more often than it used to, but there are people who still believe in waiting before marriage to live together and to have sex because they feel it's the right thing to do. And while that's fine, that could pose a problem as they don't live together before then and don't really know how it would work if they don't try it beforehand. Look at my parents. They didn't live together before they were married and now they can't stand each other. I told Mom that if she would have lived with him before they got married, she would have had a better chance of knowing what she was getting into and could have gotten out of it. __________________ "A warrior who never fails, never learns."-The Ancient One. "Embrace your inner a**holiness."-Mr. Anderson.

07-08-2015, 12:17 AM	#42
shuriken Second City Shinobi Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Chi-town Posts: 4,182	I totally want to get married. Have a wedding with an open bar and have food that includes various cuts of meat (with an eggplant option for the veggie lovers), tiny onions and pillowy mounds of mashed potatoes. But Yes the older I get the more I see it happening. __________________ Some things are better left unsaid. This isn't one of them

07-08-2015, 08:35 AM	#44
BubblyShell22 Leo-holic Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 16,912	Just seeing that makes me crave mashed potatoes. But, nah, I don't want any of that stuff. Even if I DID want to get married, I'd want it to be at a courthouse and just a simple little affair with no fan fare or anything. I'm just not a flashy person. And I wouldn't want to wear some wedding dress either. Give me slacks and a nice shirt and I'd be happy in that. __________________ "A warrior who never fails, never learns."-The Ancient One. "Embrace your inner a**holiness."-Mr. Anderson.

07-10-2015, 03:53 AM	#47
Mayhem Foot Elite Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: London, England Posts: 4,085	The wedding I went to in Mississippi (no, it wasn't brother and sister! ) last year was a reasonably similar affair MsD. There were about 40 of us, so there were friends and family. But it was a small, quiet church about five miles from where they lived (we all just about fit in!), the reception was immediately next door in a small hall, with some drinks and food, and a good time was had. Nothing extravagant, nothing flashy. Apart from the ubiquitous defacing of the couple's car that they were gonna drive away in onto their honeymoon heh. Needless to say, as the only non-American there, I got a bit more attention than most. Well, me and the two guys from New York, with the obvious "Yankee" accents heh. __________________ Lie with passion and be forever damned...