What Grinds Your Gears? :)

[CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy]

This is why we need separate threads: "Gripes & Complaints" for minor beefs and "My World Is Falling Apart" for when people need some serious encouragement and support.

I hardly ever check this thread because it's always "the room is too cold and I don't have a jacket" or "my sister spilled nail polish on my favorite shirt" crap and the real grinds--the S hits the F level stuff--goes unnoticed by some of us.

Or start separate threads.

Netkeeper, my advice (which is worth the price of free pretzel samples at the mall) is this:

#1. Distract yourself if you can when the depression or anxiety hits. Watch your favorite movie or show, read a favorite book, treat yourself to some cocoa or coffee. Pamper yo'self.

#2. When you're feeling better and your head isn't spinning, look into finding an alternate line of communication. I checked Google Hangouts and I don't see a live support option like PC suggested. Figure out your escape route BEFORE you need it.

#3. Show your therapist this thread. You feel differently when you're out of the anxiety, but you need her to KNOW what you felt THEN. Let her read through this.

If you want further advice or just want to tell me why my suggestions are crap, let's PM and take it to email if need be.

Hang in there, bro.

[Netkeeper]

i posted in the DF too. i think i did that first, but i can't remember. usually i pick there instead of on the boards.

[CylonsKlingonsDaleksOhMy]

Originally Posted by Netkeeper

i posted in the DF too. i think i did that first, but i can't remember. usually i pick there instead of on the boards.

Sorry, man... it's so dead there, I check maybe once a week if there's not an active conversation.

[Netkeeper]

probably because i spent a long while not even being able to post anything there. i kept convincing myself it was pointless to post anywhere.

[Katie]

Going into a petstore and seeing the sad, dying siamese fighting fish in their cold, dirty cups. I want to buy all of them and give them nice warm clean aquariums with plants and good food...but they will just be replaced by more sad sick cold dying siamese fighting fish.

I get so much peace, happiness, and stress relief taking care of the ones I do have...I just feel awful for the ones I can't save.

This is why I can't volunteer at animal shelters either. I'd need to buy a farm to house all the dogs I couldn't leave behind.

[Utrommaniac]

Get involved with a rescue group and foster? I did that with cats for about two and a half years before I had to stop, so I could go to school in Waco.


I've been having terrible trouble falling asleep at night, no matter what time I try. This ultimately cuts me close to being late for my 8 AM classes...or actually being late. And yet if I decide to take a nap during the day because of how tired I am, I fall asleep just fine. And I'm not quite sure what is making the difference.

[Netkeeper]

Originally Posted by Katie

This is why I can't volunteer at animal shelters either. I'd need to buy a farm to house all the dogs I couldn't leave behind.

This is me exactly. I feel this.

[IndigoErth]

Originally Posted by Katie

Going into a petstore and seeing the sad, dying siamese fighting fish in their cold, dirty cups. I want to buy all of them and give them nice warm clean aquariums with plants and good food...but they will just be replaced by more sad sick cold dying siamese fighting fish.

I get so much peace, happiness, and stress relief taking care of the ones I do have...I just feel awful for the ones I can't save.

This is why I can't volunteer at animal shelters either. I'd need to buy a farm to house all the dogs I couldn't leave behind.

That's why places like Walmart makes me sad since they don't care for them as well as they should. Fish are treated too much like easily replaced decorations and not enough like pets, and I see them and tend to quietly say I'm sorry to them that I can't just take them all home. These tiny little things, they're just babies still and too many doomed to die in the store or end up in some fishbowl they won't live too much longer in either. A cheap price put on a tiny life that won't get to last long.

[Netkeeper]

And you're exactly right with the reasoning, too. They think of them more as pieces to their decoration [the decoration being the aquarium or whatnot they tend to live in, usually] than animals to care for.

[Katie]

Thank God my Wal-Marts don't sell fish. I try REALLY hard not to look at them but if I do, I always end up taking someone home. I have an especially soft spot for the girs as no one ever buys them.

I have 13 fighting fish. All with nice happy warm tanks. And a 55 gallon community. And a herd of red cherry shrimp. Fish are good stress relief I find. For me at least.

[IndigoErth]

Yeah, they are. And, depending on species maybe, some can be just as happy to see you as any pup. Not a big dog person, so it's nice to have a similar joy toward your presence, but contained within a tank rather than bounding all over the house. Heck... while she hasn't done it for quite a while, my oranda even used to turn in a circle the way some excited dogs might. Sometimes try to rest her face in my hand when I'm cleaning the tank and otherwise seek out interaction. (Seriously, you're a fish? lol) Orandas are definitely water puppies.



Grind... Made sure to get that coupon in my purse and then... forgot to use it. >.>

[thundermaster612]

What sort of a fish is Fishface?

[Powder]

Keep it relevant, Mewtwo.

[Papenbrook]

People are distorting the feminist movement.

Feminists believe in gender equality, not female supremacy.

I don't understand why people can't fathom that.

[Utrommaniac]

Because there are "feminists" themselves who are doing that. Don't target the general population that doesn't understand. Target the people within the movement that doesn't understand. It's not coming from outside. It's coming from within.

[plastroncafe]

Originally Posted by Utrommaniac

Because there are "feminists" themselves who are doing that. Don't target the general population that doesn't understand. Target the people within the movement that doesn't understand. It's not coming from outside. It's coming from within.

As someone working within the movement, and as an ex-misogynist myself, I'd say it's a combination of both.

Whether its intention or not, there is a vocal minority within the movement that is seeking a level of supremacy. There are Trans-exclusionary Radical Feminists, who don't view trans*women as being...well women. Then there's the public face of Feminism which has a nasty habit of excluding the voices of anyone that isn't white and well off financially. There's overall Western Feminism which gives more credence to their own agendas, which has a long history of being overly paternal with women from other parts of the world.

[thundermaster612]

Originally Posted by Powder

Keep it relevant, Mewtwo.

I am not Mewtwo, chili sauce

[MsMarvelDuckie]

Originally Posted by Katie

Thank God my Wal-Marts don't sell fish. I try REALLY hard not to look at them but if I do, I always end up taking someone home. I have an especially soft spot for the girs as no one ever buys them.

I have 13 fighting fish. All with nice happy warm tanks. And a 55 gallon community. And a herd of red cherry shrimp. Fish are good stress relief I find. For me at least.

Wow. That sounds like me back in high school. I had over a dozen myself, both males and females. Of course, I was trying to breed them, and my local pets stores were very good about keeping their containers clean and the fish were all quite healthy. Had to give it up when I moved away from home because of lack of space for it. But I would love to have room to start raising them again.


My grind is that I was without net for two days- and this was on my days off from work after a really hard and frustrating week of going bonkers because of an inspection coming up during the week- we had it on Wednesday, though I don't see why it was such a big deal to begin with, as it was just one lady standing around in various parts of the store talking to the owners' area manager, and then they stood outside to time the drive-through for a while, and that was it. And they didn't even start when they said they would, so it kept everyone on eggshells ALL DAY, without any breaks, and we were understaffed to boot. Basically, that entire day was a big pile of suck. And then we had a power outage during the last big storm Thursday night, and my computer decided it couldn't connect to my phone to tether my net on my days off! And just when I really NEEDED it, too- because my hubby's phone has completely conked out and I needed to order him a new one. had to do it using my phone, and I HATE ordering on Amazon from my phone, as it's more of a pain with the small screen and keypad.

[Powder]

My f**king fence fell down. I have a dog, so this is a big problem, & one that nobody living here can afford to fix. The universe rails against us once again. Can't even do sh*t about it in the now because of severe weather. Good lord.

[Cure]

Sucks, homie. I feel ya about the dog thing. I get mad paranoid about my cats escaping, too.

Not that you're mad paranoid, that's not what I mean.