Pre-school bans kids from using term "Best Friend"

[TurtleWA]

Originally Posted by Sumac

Apparently, if I understood it right, the logic behind this decision, is that kids might use "best friend" card to bully others ("You are not my best friend and won't invite you to the birthday party") and to make that all kids are "best friends" for everyone.

Apparently people who brought this idiotic idea forward, have a very lousy idea of how humans actually work.

Children still will socialize, they still will pick up most liked people amongst others. It's inevitable, it's like humanity works - you always have 1-2 special people who are above all others, so to speak. Trying to break this cycle, is basically denying children first steps in socialization.

Concentrating only negatives is hilarious and inept idiocy, which will lead towards more infantilizing children and making them even less prepared for the real world, where most don't give a **** about your personal feelings and not everyone want to be your friend.

I think it also could be about balance and not shutting people out. Refining those social skills. How often do those “1-2 special people” from childhood stay with you throughout your life. Often people can shelter themselves in a few close relationships and lose out by not being open to others.

I think it’s important to help kids recognize the traits that they find important in a friend. No matter what the term is. Although some terms facilitate the exploring better than others.