What Grinds Your Gears? :)

[Coola Yagami]

Originally Posted by Andrew NDB

Yeah. Been there. "Believe all women" my eye. She'll probably be overly apologetic in a few. You shouldn't give in but you will (I did).

In his situation, he has no choice but to. He has nowhere else to live. Her family holds all the cards. Then you gotta remember the dog and what will happen to her.

His wife is crazy and gets very nasty at times. I mean I'm sure you read all the posts before everything **** blows up at that house. Between the killer heat where they live and her yelling at him over any little insignificant thing, it's obvious he'd eventually yell back.

It sucks how men are expected to take all the **** but they can't so much as yell 'OMG JUST STFU ALREADY' without the risk of restraining order or other such nonsense.

I've had arguments before, but I'm lucky all I ever got was either the silent treatment or sleeping on the couch. But I'd rather take that over what Leo is dealing with any day. The whole situation pisses me off.

[IndigoErth]

Originally Posted by Leo656

My wife didn't like that I yelled at her. Went to the cops, filed a false report, and got a Temporary Restraining Order. I'm at the police station waiting for a ride.

I might never get to go home or see my dog again.

Wtf. Yet if the father in law acts up they throw their hands up and do nothing. What the actual hell. Guess she'll have lots of fun if they ever figure out she lied!

Hope you're okay and safe.

[Andrew NDB]

Originally Posted by Coola Yagami

In his situation, he has no choice but to. He has nowhere else to live. Her family holds all the cards. Then you gotta remember the dog and what will happen to her.

He will hate to read this (especially now) and I already know he'll point to my living comfortably and so on (I don't, really, and I work in a pretty horrifying field), but no. He doesn't have to. He's not like a elderly man. Weathered a little, yes? I guess? There is stuff he can do if he really wants to. Stuff I wish I'd have done and absolutely could have and did to some extent, just much later than I should have. Doesn't change the fact that instances like these f***ing suck.

Just leave. GO. Get out of that, Leo. Don't let a significant other trap you with the care of some pet or something. Look at it as the dog is collateral damage of you being actually happy. Small price to pay. If you don't like my boating idea then show up at some temp agencies at 4 AM for a few weeks. Save up like 5 Gs. I did that way back and it was horrible but I built a moderate life out of it and I don't think the general model of that has changed since then. Move to like Idaho. You'll be fine. People will love you there and cost of living is way, way less and you'll find someone you'd wish you'd have met 15 years ago probably pretty quick. One of my good friends just did this and by god, I'm not an envious man but some of what he's doing makes me wonder if I've got that left in me. And you seem like a personable guy so I suspect those ladies would eat you alive. Hell, if you need a few weeks to get your bearings, you can probably stay on my couch here while you work up enough money to do so.

Look at it this way: you're like, what, 40 something? Do you really want to let this ride another 5, 10 years? Do you think you'll have the same options available at 50? 60? You won't. This is it. Last chance. Make your choice. After this it will be just woulda coulda territory because it's too late.

[Coola Yagami]

Originally Posted by IndigoErth

Wtf. Yet if the father in law acts up they throw their hands up and do nothing. What the actual hell. Guess she'll have lots of fun if they ever figure out she lied!

Hope you're okay and safe.

The silence is disturbing. I mean he mentioned 'waiting for a ride' but given what we know of him... a ride where? To pick up his stuff and what then?

I'm really worried about the guy and I know given the situation, we might not be able to hear from him for a while.

[Coola Yagami]

Originally Posted by Andrew NDB

He will hate to read this (especially now) and I already know he'll point to my living comfortably and so on, but no. He doesn't have to. He's not like a elderly man. There is stuff he can do if he really wants to. Stuff I wish I'd have done and absolutely could have and did to some extent, just much later than I did.

All that involves capital though. Like even a small studio apartment that allows dogs would probably cost quite a bit for his limited income. Anywhere between 600-800 a month it looks like. And most likely in the bad parts of town, which will just add to his problems. All things considered it sounded like he lived in a safe part of town.

[Andrew NDB]

Originally Posted by Coola Yagami

All that involves capital though. Like even a small studio apartment that allows dogs would probably cost quite a bit for his limited income. Anywhere between 600-800 a month it looks like. And most likely in the bad parts of town, which will just add to his problems. All things considered it sounded like he lived in a safe part of town.

Well, the sad part is he has to let go of the dog. It's like a tether. Don't let it be a crutch, though. I'm sure there are many places in New Jersey as there are here in WA where people are lined up for eager dog adoptions by super great prospective owners. I know this, because for a while we did a dog rescue thing here until it became crazy (6 dog rescues barking downstairs and I couldn't sleep at all, meanwhile, the wife is fine, fast asleep from her PTSD meds), and oh man, the most loving and endearing people came in the door to adopt these f***ed up dogs. Usually really old people. And god bless them. For me, the wife thinks that every new cat we add adds another layer of "oh, he's stuck with me"... well, no. Fortunately we're pretty drama free and it's mostly fine.

[Leo656]

No, losing Zoe isn't an option. I'm hoping against hope she doesn't go too far and make her leave over this. She does love the dog, but she's unpredictable.

Anyway. My ex-tag partner got me a couch where he's staying, tonight. Tomorrow is tomorrow. We'll see. Calling the court Monday.

It's a complicated situation, I'm actually dealing with other unrelated court sh*t and they've actually been great at helping me with that. We just went the other day and I'm actually supposed to get documents mailed there this week. So this is a complication I don't need.

It was stupid, I'd actually just made us lunch and everything was fine. I was talking to Cylons on FB and she came in talking to me about something, and it was kind of going on and on so I told her I was in the middle of talking to someone and at least let me say bye and all that. She decided to make it a fight and we ended up yelling at each other. What pushed it over was at one point every time I started to talk she just yelled over me, so I started yelling about for 22 years she's been interrupting me and talking over me and never letting me say anything and I was sick of it. Then we just started saying the usual sh*t you say to hurt each others feelings.

She went downstairs and I stayed upstairs for a while. Went down, fed Zoe, did the dishes. Cops came, talked for a while, everybody seemed calm, they said I was fine and to go relax. Went upstairs, she came up for a minute, mumbled something, and left. Ate dinner, there was a whole situation about the neighbors horses getting out - a story for another day I guess - and then the cops came back and said I had to leave.

I guess she felt particularly spiteful today. Like she threatens this kinda sh*t but I mean, this was nothing, it was like 5 minutes of yelling and that was that.

So yeah, pretty in shock. Thanks for support. Not sure what will happen. One day at a time I guess.

[Coola Yagami]

Can people like .... Remove restraining orders? Like what's the protocol for like 'lmao naw I was just pissed, he can come back now'.

Cause eventually she'll miss him, if at the very least cause she won't have anyone to yell at.

Only silver lining is at least you'll have peace and quiet.

[Leo656]

The judge can dissolve it. We'll see in a week.

I'm at another friend's place at least for tonight. One day at a time.

Apparently the dog will be okay.

[IndigoErth]

Real cute microwave, yeah you go and partly die on us and just become a cold lit up box to spin food in a circle for no damn reason.

[Hamato Yoshi]

Maybe Vince McMahon bribed Satan

"Move to like Idaho"

Reminds me of Joey Diaz' crazy antics , hehe.......

[Leo656]

So it more belongs in the "What Made You Happy" thread but since it's an update to last week's post I'll get into it here, briefly.

The week was what it was, lots of phone calls and scrambling to survive. One night was ESPECIALLY awful, and I had legit fears for my life and safety, but then after that things immediately pinballed the other way, and from Friday through Monday morning was actually fantastic. Got to spend time with an old friend I hadn't seen in many years, met his family for the first time, had a pool party/barbecue... great times, much needed.

The one good thing about the week was reconnecting with a lot of people I used to be really close with and fell out of regular contact with. Hopefully we can maintain going forward because I feel bad about having lost touch.

So anyway, court was Monday, my sister had the day off work so she was able to get me there and stayed with me to make sure I could get wherever I needed to go after. Ended up being there all day until like 3pm. When they broke for lunch, I asked the court officer if she was sure my case would be heard that day, and she said that my wife had called the court several times asking them to drop the whole thing. This was a bit of a surprise, but the court was like "We can't get her on the phone at the moment and she says she can't be here in person, so that's the hold-up." Turns out the car had a flat tire, and her Dad the asshole is the one who'd be able to fix it, IF he wasn't currently locked up in a rehab center his own self for being a dummy. So she legit couldn't get to court. She started texting me on my phone even, like "Show them this so they'll f*cking drop it, I can't get there."

So finally they bring me in to see the judge, and he finally gets through to her on the phone and puts her on speaker. She has no idea I'm there, and she says a lot of very kind and understanding things explaining why she wants it dropped. "I had no idea this would ruin his life if it sticks, I didn't know he'd have trouble getting jobs or a place to live, that's not what I want. Plus he REALLY needs to be with our dog, and she's incredibly depressed without him... I just want the whole thing dropped." So the judge asked her if she was sure, that she knows if anything happens she'd have to file a new report because this one is dissolved, she said yes. So they had me wait in the hall until they brought me a piece of paper saying the matter was done, then my sister brought me home.

Zoe was over the moon, and apparently she's a ton more happy and playful than she'd been all week. Like, my wife said Zoe's barely been affectionate with her but since I've been home she's been all over her, like "THANK YOU for bringing Daddy home!"

When I got home I got us some chicken bacon ranch pizza and we just talked for a while. It's kinda like the whole thing never happened, which is how it usually goes. Just grateful to put it all to bed and move forward.

Her Dad's in Princeton House rehab center and violating the f*ck out of the TRO they put on him, though. Calling his wife constantly to whine and make threats, says he's starving himself and won't eat, "I don't deserve to be here" and all that sh*t. If she wanted to his wife could put him in jail for over a year with this; instead she brought him clothes yesterday.

I'm sure that will blow over, too - nobody wants to lose the house - but man, he is SUCH an asshole and he does it all to himself. ALL he has to do is quit drinking, and make no mistake, for all the talk of it being some incurable "disease", I've had enough "addicts" confess to me out loud that it's all bullsh*t to believe them. It's just selfishness, not caring who you hurt or annoy or inconvenience, and people making excuses and enabling you because you are "helpless" to change. One of them once told me it's just like being a kid again, you get to be a total f*ck-up and nobody can scold or punish you because you "don't know any better". So you can see why so may "addicts" are resistant to get better.

But for now my own difficulties are over with, and that's a huge relief. Thanks to anyone who was thinking of me or sending positive vibes. Hopefully things stay smooth going forward.

[DarkFell]

Good news: My lump was removed and it wasn't cancerous.

Bad news: Currently dealing with an infection within the incision area.

The healing is coming along.. just very slowly. Also, my coworkers at my current job aren't doing very much to help me out.

[IndigoErth]

Grats on the good news! Hope the infection clears soon!



Grind... anyone have Acme or other Albertson's-owned stores that carry the Signature Select store brand? Where the hell is the ice cream?

So hot out and been wanting that damn cookie dough for weeks now, just checked back again and it's still just as wiped out as when I last looked. Tried some cookie/brownie one of one of those overpriced brands early this year and the store brand is superior on the chunks of the good stuff in it, or at least was when I tried it last year.

[IndigoErth]

And I thought the normal wet acid burp that everyone experiences once in a while (esp when you get it into your lungs a little and burns a bit) was bad... holy hell, just learned that doing that after having eaten something with buffalo sauce (a few hours ago) will set your entire throat on fire and seem to keep up if you dare cough on impulse to want to clear it and a drink wasn't helping at all. (A little cup of shredded cheese seems to have helped.) I may have to pass on buying that buffalo "wings" cauliflower next time.

[Andrew NDB]

Originally Posted by IndigoErth

And I thought the normal wet acid burp that everyone experiences once in a while (esp when you get it into your lungs a little and burns a bit) was bad... holy hell, just learned that doing that after having eaten something with buffalo sauce will set your entire throat on fire and seem to keep up if you dare cough on impulse to want to clear it. (A little cup of shredded cheese seems to have helped.)

A bile burp, yeah. I try to not burp if there feels like there's any risk of that by the same token you should avoid trying to fart if there's any danger of anything "near the surface."

[IndigoErth]

Annoyed at wasting money on getting the the wrong store brand version of Metamucil.

Maybe it's my own fault for not paying enough attention to the label when I wasn't taking my time and trying to reach the stuff past other people to begin with, but why on Earth would they change the unflavored version to an orange and white container like the orange flavored one is?? An old image online shows it as a light green and white container, so it definitely changed at some point.

I figured I'd try to make do, it isn't the big container at least (they were out of it and part of the cause of this mishap in the first place), but I don't think this is gonna work... It's bad enough this crap thickens up faster than the orange flavored one for some reason -- which shouldn't be any different because the directions are the same!? -- but even having tried using half as much today, so it didn't thicken up so fast, the flavor of this "unflavored" version combined with the grittier texture of the store brand (which I can tolerate with the orange flavor) tasted like trying to drink PUREED CARDBOARD. Which tried to set off my gag reflex and almost threw it back up. Fun!


Not sure I can return it at this point, so to not totally waste this crap... does anyone use the unflavored kind IN anything? Looks like some people might use it in baked stuff, but really don't want to ruin a whole boxed mix or all the effort of making something from scratch if it's terrible.

[Cowabung-Gal]

Haha…this reminds me of my last trip to Florida.

There was a really good buffet in this Hard Rock hotel and below that was a casino. We ate a good meal before we tried out the slot machines. Unfortunately, I ate a little too much. Okay, scratch that. I ate way too much. So much that I ended up throwing up in my mouth.

I started panicking and asked around for help since the bathroom was nowhere in sight. All I really needed was a bottle of water to wash it all down. Thankfully, one of the employees quickly took me to a bar downstairs where they could give me a free water. As we went down the escalator, he asked me, “Rough night?”

I immediately knew what he meant by that: he thought I threw up because I had too much to drink. But all I did was reply, “Yeah.”

[NeonTurtledude]

I recently found out that an actress/musician I used to like, who once sent me a card, made a social media post where she said she supports someone known for spreading very harmful rhetoric and hatred towards a community I'm apart of, it stung a bit, while I've decided to unfollow her and just move on with my life, I used to sometimes talk to this person, so the change was quite sudden.

other than that, it's mostly wrist pain that's been bugging me (I'm currently working on some 2003 ninja turtle art that'll be used for a zine project for my course) so I'm trying to stay on task, but then if use my right wrist too much it starts to mildly strain, I've tried to take breaks to watch tv and films to relax it but I don't want it to distract me from finishing the project.

[Coola Yagami]

Originally Posted by NeonTurtledude

I recently found out that an actress/musician I used to like, who once sent me a card, made a social media post where she said she supports someone known for spreading very harmful rhetoric and hatred towards a community I'm apart of, it stung a bit, while I've decided to unfollow her and just move on with my life, I used to sometimes talk to this person, so the change was quite sudden.

other than that, it's mostly wrist pain that's been bugging me (I'm currently working on some 2003 ninja turtle art that'll be used for a zine project for my course) so I'm trying to stay on task, but then if use my right wrist too much it starts to mildly strain, I've tried to take breaks to watch tv and films to relax it but I don't want it to distract me from finishing the project.

I don't know what they're called, but they sell these wrist-guard type things in pharmacies, they help keep your hand steady to avoid it getting into that painful position.

Since I work with computers there are times when all the mouse-clicking hurts my wrist, so I put that brace for a week or so til it calms down and eventually the pain goes away.

I don't think it's outright carpal tunnel since it goes away for months, even years (as in I can't even remember the last time I had it, maybe back in the office days, and everyone I've talked to describes it as once you have it the pain never goes away until you have it dealt with) but it does help if you feel you don't have the time to leave your wrist to heal up due to your project.