The New Café

[愛]

I just think he found out Cortana is single, and wants to ask her out on a DATE!

[Katie]

Go man! GO!

[Zog the Equalizer]

Originally Posted by Ecto Jedi

Then don't drink.

I dont drink and neither do any of my friends, but its okay now anyway. We found a ride my mom is okay with

[Bigfoot]

I'm glad you found a ride to the concert that your mom is happy with.
And I hope you have gotten comfortable with your contact lenses.

Can we get on a turtle topic now?

Is everyone else having a hard time finding the movie Shredder?
How many characters are in the TMNT movie mini set?
So far I have:
Mike
Don
Raph
Leo
Splinter
Vampire Succubor
Gato
Max Winters
Aguila
Foot Ninja
Can you use the UPCs from the mini figs for the mail-in Bigfoot figure?

[Ecto Jedi]

Originally Posted by Bigfoot

I'm glad you found a ride to the concert that your mom is happy with.
And I hope you have gotten comfortable with your contact lenses.

Can we get on a turtle topic now?

Umm...The "General Discussion" section is expressly reserved for non-Turtle topics.

Hence the name.

[GK Punk]

Originally Posted by Bigfoot

I'm glad you found a ride to the concert that your mom is happy with.
And I hope you have gotten comfortable with your contact lenses.

Can we get on a turtle topic now?

Is everyone else having a hard time finding the movie Shredder?
How many characters are in the TMNT movie mini set?
So far I have:
Mike
Don
Raph
Leo
Splinter
Vampire Succubor
Gato
Max Winters
Aguila
Foot Ninja
Can you use the UPCs from the mini figs for the mail-in Bigfoot figure?

This isn't a TMNT section. This is for off-topic conversation. Please read the forum descriptions to find the appropriate section for the discussions you are looking for.

[Katie]

so, I finally talked to one of my friends about all that was going on (to recap, I have been left out of ALOT of group activities where all my friends were invited except me) She just avoided answering my questions. I feel pretty stupid.

I've been having a pretty bad couple of days. I kind of buddied up to this other girl at work because I was tired of sitting around and moping about the other group of friends. I thought she would make a better friend because she is younger than those guys are, a newly wed, and her husband is in the army and deployed, so I don't feel like a third wheel because he is there. It was all good until she started talking about how they just decided to start having babies when he gets back....that is pretty much the kiss of death for all my friendships. once that baby comes it is all over. Everything that we talk about will be about the baby...or about the husband and the baby...or....you get my picture. And I have nothing to add to those conversations because I am not a mother.

I try REALLY hard to just grin and bear it for as long as I can. I don't want to lose friends. I have come to accept that I will never be married and I will never have children. But eventually, they all disappear and I am left alone again.

I'm feeling really bad...I mean REALLY bad. I haven't been this depressed in a very long time. I dreamed last night that when I died, no one even knew who I was because all my family had died long ago. so they dumped me in this grave and called me Jane Doe.

I don't wanna feel like this

[Jo Dawn]

Horrrrrmones. They make me dream things like that, too.

Hah. Babies are a kiss of death to MOST friendships, except the absolute closest. And even then some. Moms will be friends with moms, that's all there is to it. Sad to hear, but totally true. Granted, there are exceptions.

S'why I'm happy that the few friends I have, save for one, are decidedly childless. The other would have them if she were married, but that's a whole other story.

Author Laurie Notaro has an excellently funny passage on this very subject in her one book. I'll have to find a link or something when I'm not here at school.

As you get older, you'll find more people who are Childless By Choice, and it'll be easier to be friends with them. Though I completely understand the feeling bad thing about being left out: That's the story of my life up til now!

It fades; you learn to be happy with the few true friends you will eventually find. And it may take awhile and seem hopeless... But it happens.

[Lady R. Santi]

As a mother of three I can honestly say that having babies does not mean the immediate and unavoidable end of friendships. And it is certainly not entirely the fault of the young parents that a friendship ends. They don't simply stop caring about their friends but they are busy, yes. In fact, in most cases they feel hurt that they no longer are considered equals and guilty that they can't spend the time to "hang out" with their childless friends any longer. Effort has to be made on both sides to reconnect. New parents welcome and crave the get-away from baby talk, trust me! But still, there will be some. It's what's going on in their life. Just like you are bound to talk about your life with them. Personally I don't like hearing it any more than you like hearing about babies. I'm extremely jealous of childless folks' freedom and all the time they have on their hands.

There is still common ground though. Both sides need to find that. It can and should work. It will never be the same as it was but something is better than nothing.

I keep up with my childless high school friends. It just so happens that NONE of them have kids. And my husband is really close with his ex-college roomies, even the ones who don't have kids. Heck, I even tag along and party with them on occasion! It's our release from the stresses of parenthood. We need it.

[Buslady]

Babies not the kiss of death of friendships. I think it might even weed out the real friends in one's life. Those who are willing to accept the other's new baby are the real friend.

My best buddy stuck by my side when my kiddo was born, evne was more of a daddy to him than his own 'sperm donor'! Bryon changed my son's nappies, fed him, everything! Bryon's still my best bud...even tho we're rediculously busy and hardly see each other, but we somehow manage to get together sometimes.

[Swany]

The day started off so well.

Then just as I was leaving college my lecturer pulled me aside and asked my if the guys in my clas are bothering me (Theyre trying, but it not bothering me. Not yet anyway) He was all like "If it was me I'd be so angry, are you sure youre OK?" And I was, I am. But I'm worried now. A few months ago when I was still in highschool, a group of guys in my geography class treated me like sh*t for no reason. It only happened in the class, wee things at first. Throwing pens at me, telling me to "shut up" when ever I said anything, ridiculing everthing I said. And I ignored them. As you do. Eventually they humiliated me in front of the rest of the 6th years and I ended up in tears.

And now, I'm thinking maybe I should have said to Scott (my lecturer) that it was getting to me, just to stop it getting worse. I don't want to get in the same situation. But I also don't want to be a grass.

Also the bus driver drove past my stop, even though I was waiting to get off the bus. He slowed down for like a second then kept going.

I think I'll at least tell one of the lecturers that them calling me Meg is starting to annoy me. I usually ignore them till they call me by my real name anyway. (I really dont think its a nickname like my bro said, not the nice kind of nickname anyway)

[愛]

That kind of ridicule actually happens in schools? Damn. I thought that was just a myth, something to keep the nerds scared.

[raphael_is_cool]

Originally Posted by Swany

The day started off so well.

Then just as I was leaving college my lecturer pulled me aside and asked my if the guys in my clas are bothering me (Theyre trying, but it not bothering me. Not yet anyway) He was all like "If it was me I'd be so angry, are you sure youre OK?" And I was, I am. But I'm worried now. A few months ago when I was still in highschool, a group of guys in my geography class treated me like sh*t for no reason. It only happened in the class, wee things at first. Throwing pens at me, telling me to "shut up" when ever I said anything, ridiculing everthing I said. And I ignored them. As you do. Eventually they humiliated me in front of the rest of the 6th years and I ended up in tears.

And now, I'm thinking maybe I should have said to Scott (my lecturer) that it was getting to me, just to stop it getting worse. I don't want to get in the same situation. But I also don't want to be a grass.

Also the bus driver drove past my stop, even though I was waiting to get off the bus. He slowed down for like a second then kept going.

I think I'll at least tell one of the lecturers that them calling me Meg is starting to annoy me. I usually ignore them till they call me by my real name anyway. (I really dont think its a nickname like my bro said, not the nice kind of nickname anyway)

Wow. That sucks. The best thing to do is take a stand against it. Just show these guys that they can't push you around. It's obviously something to do with all that 'alpha male' stuff and 'exerting dominance' but I know that approach worked for me. Hard to believe it was over 5 years ago, wow...

Admittedly it was only two guys and they weren't big or anything, but they used to call me names and throw stuff at me. So, one day when they start again, I just turned to the mouthy one and started ridiculing him. I remember him being a bit shocked and not sure how to react and I knew he wouldn't want to get physical...so that's where I made sure the threats escalated too.

Fortunately he was smaller than me and his taunting was blatantly compensating for his own insecurities, so after that he laid off.

That's just my story, yours may be a little different. But the important thing is to have confidence in yourself. Don't make yourself look like a target and literally keep your head up.

[Cure]

Originally Posted by Ai

That kind of ridicule actually happens in schools? Damn. I thought that was just a myth, something to keep the nerds scared.

Yeah, that's why I've always thought High School shows and movies were weird. I understand that people get picked on in other areas, but for some reason it just never happened in my school. Yeah, we had fights and one gun incident, but as long you minded your own business, you were fine. I dunno, I guess it depends on the area.

[Jo Dawn]

I knew I was gonna get flack from the moms on this one, haha. I really couldn't explain;I was at school. Yeah, I know it's not on purpose, and yeah, I know alot of them are still friends with their babyless...

And as for teasing at school. Uh, yeah it still happens. I know I've told a few of you about MY experiences in school... You didn't believe me, then? Hehe.

[Katie]

hormones? maybe...... I didn't think about that


I know it isn't always the kiss of death....just in my experience it has been. My very best friend in the whole wide world just had a baby earlier this year (february) and I love her to death, but every time I call to see if she wants to go shopping and let dad handle things for an hour or two she won't go. I kinda gave up. And the set of girlfriends who have been snubbing me...all they do is talk about the kids (but they are all much older--35ish-- and it is kinda hard to relate much to them anyway). I usually sit there and laugh when appropriate at the cute thing junior did at pre school....and awwwwwww at the newest pictures. But try talking about that TV show we all watch for that one guy and it rapidly goes back to junior stacking the blocks in a perfect cube infront of the TV that night. I make the effort...I really do. Hell, I planned and executed a trip to Las Vegas for all us girls. The only rules were that I couldn't talk about my late fiance (who hadn't even been gone a year at that time) and they wouldn't talk about the kids. (their rules not mine) I didn't break....but they did. yeah, I may have some freedom the moms don't have.....but it just plain sucks to go out to eat downtown by yourself....or go to a really good weepy chick flick with no one to talk about it in the car with afterwords

I mean, I have a guy who I love to death...but sometimes I need a good girls night. I just don't wanna have it at Chuck E Cheese (which is the ONLY restaurant I have eaten at lately)

It's bigger than this issue though. I just feel so...completely and utterly unimportant to everything. And not having some girlfriends to lean on is really not helping me much. (ya know what I mean, some things you need to vent to your girls, not your boyfriend )

[Jo Dawn]

Originally Posted by Katie

hormones? maybe...... I didn't think about that

Oh yeah. I mean, every

Spoiler:

month when I'm highly hormonal, I have a dream that I'm pregnant. Every month. Usually more than one night, too. Mostly different situations, but often the same dream. It's always when I'm going into labor, too, that I wake up. Or into it, already.

Um *looks around* TMI? Sorry! Hehe

[Katie]

hahaha I've had that dream....only I give birth to a fully formed adult. CREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEPY.

It is that time. This just means it is time to adjust to the other brand of the pill again...yipeeee!!! The green box again!!! I will do that tonight and let ya know tomorrow if I stop feeling all bluish

[Dr. Doom]

Originally Posted by Jo Dawn

Oh yeah. I mean, every

Spoiler:

month when I'm highly hormonal, I have a dream that I'm pregnant. Every month. Usually more than one night, too. Mostly different situations, but often the same dream. It's always when I'm going into labor, too, that I wake up. Or into it, already.

Um *looks around* TMI? Sorry! Hehe

zomg teh spoilarz

[Katie]

damn hormones.


new box of pills yesterday evening






No more life crisis and messed up dreams











being a girl sucks sometimes.