Epidemic Growth of PORN!!!

[Candy Kappa]

This is a fairly simple thread with the article.

Children that seek porn before they are sexually matured do it not because the are too early sexual influenced. They do it because it's a nono and that's the whole thrill, looking for things they are not allowed to look at, R rated movies, slasher flicks, porn, adult magazines and swearing. half of the fun with stealing apples or strawberries from the neighbor is the act it's self, or the running from the neighbor not to get caught.

control your child's internet use, put in filters. Most browsers already have a search filter to begin with, making porn harder to "accidentally find". Control the child's Internet hours. Internet isn't some awesome divine power you can't control, just pull the plug and say no when the *cough* brat *cough* --- I mean innocent angel want more time.

Afraid that the child is broken after seeing porn? fret not. Talk to them Children ain't stupid, sex is a natural thing and shouldn't be alienated. When the kid is old enough (somewhere between 11-13 I guess) tell them about sex, do not trust that school will take care of it. It's a parents job NOT school, you never know who at school will teach sex ed, it might be some religious extremist scarring your child for life.

I should know, I got the worst teacher ever and got told extreme religious propaganda containing details as genitalia pieces would rot and fall off, rubbing yourself would cause sickness and sex before marriage could cause infections. I think I went in more detail in an other thread, but I've never been so scared before.

Tell your children that porn is a fantasy, make-believe just like in the movies (no one really dies in a movie). And are not for real, you don't have to go trough every genre of porn, just keep it simple. And let your child watch animal planet or if you don't have the channel let then watch animal programs on TV, let them know that sex is not some evil thing created by man.

Depending on age, around 15-16 i guess. (legal to have sex in Norway is age 16) parents might want to talk about sexual pressure and the overused play on sex in media, learn them that they have every right to say no if there is something they don't want to do or feel uncomfortable with. And teach about how important protection is.

And if a person can't see the difference between porn and reality, that person got some mental issues.

and if you have a partner adventurous enough to test things seen in porn movies, hooray for you. You lucky b*stard


this post ended up longer then I had planned

[Katie]

the best thing to do with kids is be open about sex from the beginning. I'm not talking about sitting down with junior and watching your favorite porn flick....but you also shouldn't avoid the subject all together.

My parents did and it was freaking AWFUL to realize how little I knew when I started being attracted to guys and stuff. I never got into a bad situation, but probably could have EASILY ended up in one if I didn't know what was what...y'know?

Personally, I'm going to answer the questions my kids have. I'm pretty comfortable with sex and sexuality so I won't carry on the "awkward parent" problem my own parents had. (for the record, I learned about sex at a church camp...when I was 13. horrible to realize those kids knew stuff and I didn't. I'm still horrified.) I also will not wait until puberty to have "the talk" with them. I mean, Jesus. 10 year olds are getting knocked up these days. you gotta start young.


And also, I gotta put a thought in on the porn vs, women thing...

I've watched porn. I've never considered myself an object or possession.
I've watched porn with boyfriends and even gone to titty bars with them. hilarious.
I personally find porn hilarious. the situations are goofy, so whatever. Strippers are nasty...I never felt intimidated or threatened by them. Internet porn ranges from goofy to down right disgusting.....but whatever.
No boyfriend I've ever had has ever objectified me, and if he did, he'd be out of my life so fast he wouldn't know what hit him.
Other guys who look at me like an object....sad. They couldn't have me anyway.

[Candy Kappa]

I like the Penn and Teller's bullsh*t episode "War on Porn".

But be careful if you want to see it and are weak of heart, they use every excuse to show nudity onscreen... and this episode, well it's graphic

[Leogeddon]

Originally Posted by Katie

the best thing to do with kids is be open about sex from the beginning. I'm not talking about sitting down with junior and watching your favorite porn flick....but you also shouldn't avoid the subject all together.

This goes with everything, teaching your kids what you know about a lot of things will result in less problems around the place, this goes for sex+porn, guns, and even when it comes down to things such as which car to buy and why, but one must understand to allow their children freedom to grow and decide what they do with the information they are given. There are things one must supervision their children over but all in all, pretty much EVERYTHING you teach your child will help them have a better understanding. This gives the child more trust in you when it comes to being a role model or a teacher and it also shows your child that you respect them instead of only "rule" them. This also builds friendships in the family as well between parent and child.