Stupid things done for love

[Voltron]

I find that, sooner or later, everyone does something embarrassing or dumb to impress the opposite sex.

For example, I have a dentist appointment tomorrow with a young, beautiful, super-intelligent doctor. Thus, I've been brushing, flossing, and using mouth wash five times a day.

I'm sure that'll make her pop the question as she's scraping plaque off my molars.

Hindsight being 20/20, what's the most embarrassing, pointless, or dumb thing YOU'VE done to get someone to notice you?

[Hannah]

Pretended to abandon my very strong political beliefs for the sake of an emotionally abusive and manipulative high school boyfriend.

I also stopped talking to one of the most important people in my life because it made said boyfriend uncomfortable.

Long story short: boys stink and I did stupid things for them in high school.

[Katie]

that's not because of love....it's because of terrible self esteem issues. If you are afraid that some guy won't like you if you talk to some one....or won't have sex with them before you're ready for that in a relationship...or whatever....that's a self esteem issue.

I think the silliest thing I've done for love is let a guy who was way less intelligent than I am think that he was the smartest guy I'd ever met. That relationship lasted all of three months before I got fed up. he still called me for months after I broke up with him because he "had never felt so good with a woman before". Poor guy. He's married to a brow beating harpy now.

[ToTheNines]

I played a lot of tennis with my ex and her family. Hatred every minute of it.

[愛]

I agree to go shopping. It's awfully boring, and there's never anywhere to sit down except for stores that sell shoes.

[Cure]

Tried long distance. Ugh.

[Hannah]

Originally Posted by Katie

that's not because of love....it's because of terrible self esteem issues. If you are afraid that some guy won't like you if you talk to some one....or won't have sex with them before you're ready for that in a relationship...or whatever....that's a self esteem issue.

Uh, no. I wasn't "afraid" of that happening, I was assured that it would and I genuinely thought I was in love, as much as a 14 year old can. Like I said, this guy was manipulative and abusive.

[Katie]

People who stay with "manipulative and abusive" people because they are assured that the relationship will end have self esteem issues. Specifically they have a hard time defining their value outside a relationship. I'm not talking out of my ass here, I volunteer at a battered women's shelter.

People who have a healthy image of themselves won't tolerate that kind of ******** and will leave. Immediately.

[ToTheNines]

I also had to see Bride Wars in theaters. What's the worst movie you guys have been dragged to?

[Hannah]

Originally Posted by Katie

People who stay with "manipulative and abusive" people because they are assured that the relationship will end have self esteem issues. Specifically they have a hard time defining their value outside a relationship. I'm not talking out of my ass here, I volunteer at a battered women's shelter.

People who have a healthy image of themselves won't tolerate that kind of ******** and will leave. Immediately.

You're an ass. Don't speak for victims of abuse.

[Redeemer]

Read Twilight

[Ecto Jedi]

Originally Posted by Hannah

You're an ass. Don't speak for victims of abuse.

Yeah. This is gonna end well.

[愛]

Originally Posted by Hannah

You're an ass. Don't speak for victims of abuse.

Good f*cking lord, you are insufferable. Why are you still here, anyway, when you have no real interest in holding a decent conversation?

[Type 97 Chi-ha]

Originally Posted by Cure

Tried long distance. Ugh.

I know two gay furries who do have a long-distance relationship (on opposite coasts) and have never personally met, yet one is absolutely deeply in love with the other. It's been that way for years, though I'm unsure how it will work out. (In speaking with "the other", I have found him both genial and intelligent. He spends a lot of time with schoolwork.)

BTW, speaking of Twilight, the first guy went to see the movie-to laugh at it, a la Mystery Science Theater 3000. The rest of the (mostly teenage girl) audience didn't appreciate that.

[Katie]

Originally Posted by 愛

Good f*cking lord, you are insufferable. Why are you still here, anyway, when you have no real interest in holding a decent conversation?

My guess, not getting validation at home so she needs to post here again so people will assure her of her self worth.

Low self esteem = needing people to tell you you're good/smart/pretty.....when people stop doing that you latch onto the next person who pays attention to you.....and end up in relationships where you don't really like the other person, but hey, they're telling you you're good/smart/pretty so you stay in the relationship for so long you get stuck.

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I've done long distance. Not horrible as long as you trust the other person.

[Cure]

Originally Posted by Katie

I've done long distance. Not horrible as long as you trust the other person.

How far away were they? Cuz with me, we were countries apart and after meeting her, I waited yeeeeeeeeeeears for the chance she'd show up again. And she never did.

Spoiler:

Things you'd do for awesome booty, amirite?

[Ecto Jedi]

Originally Posted by Voltron

For example, I have a dentist appointment tomorrow with a young, beautiful, super-intelligent doctor. Thus, I've been brushing, flossing, and using mouth wash five times a day.

How'd that go? Did she offer to do it doggy-style after seeing your squeaky-clean canines?

Thank you. I do this for a living.

[KROW]

Originally Posted by ToTheNines

What's the worst movie you guys have been dragged to?

Titanic...

[Mayhem]

Originally Posted by Cure

How far away were they? Cuz with me, we were countries apart and after meeting her, I waited yeeeeeeeeeeears for the chance she'd show up again. And she never did.

I was mad/crazy/dumb/smart* to do it more than once...!

(* delete as applicable)

[Katie]

The farthest apart I've been is a couple of states. Close enought that if the booty call is a necessity you can get there in less than a day......but far enough apart that seeing each other daily....weekly.....monthly even, is impractical.

My LDR's were because of school and jobs. One ended in break up, one did not. Trust and communication. If you need constant reassurance and attention they aren't for you. The best part is that you're always happy and excited to see that person (for me anyway).