Have you ever done something you regretted?

NameGoesHere1066 · 08-16-2010, 04:47 PM

When I was a little kid I had a little white girl that was a friend that I met one summer at a public pool. My mom was able to get me in a program for disadvantaged kids to get free swimming lessons. We got so close to each other and we hung out almost every weekend. The neighborhood I lived was mostly poor kids like my self and when they would see my friend get dropped off by her mom in a nice car and see me play with her in my back yard, they started picking on me. The other kids would say, "oh, you think you're white now" or "you think because you hang out with her you're better than us." It got to the point where when the neighborhood kids would see me coming they'd be like "oh look whose coming" and stuff like that. I'll regret this forever, but I stopped hanging out with her because of this and ended our friendship. I remember she cried when I said I didn't want to see her anymore.

Anyone one else here do something lousy or stupid to another person you regretted?

*Sage Ninja* · 08-17-2010, 12:24 PM

wow...that's...heavy...

*Katie* · 08-17-2010, 12:35 PM

Who can honestly say they haven't done something they regret? I've done plenty...though nothing really similar to what you describe. (I wasn't ever relly driven by peer pressure as I was generally the "leader" in my circles of friends)

The main thing is to learn from things like this.

*gobo* · 08-17-2010, 12:56 PM

I was actually just thinking of this thread an hour ago. I read the title yesterday, and was all prepared to post a smart-ass remark in response to it. Then, I read your post, and I changed my mind immediately. That would just be heartless. So, can that count as my regret? I don't really have anything else... unless you count things I didn't act on (missed opportunities).

Voidoid · 08-17-2010, 01:04 PM

Oh wow....that blows. It's funny because my story is really similar. In middle school I dated a mixed girl (black and white) who looked white for the most part, and I got alot of crap for it (i'm black btw). We went to a majority black school and the kids would say things racist things about us but for the most part I just ignored it and went on about my day. Then it would pick up and they would ask things like "A black girl not good enough for you?!" and stuff like that, but I never really understood it. We hung out alot out of school and in the mall kids would say things about us or we would get dirty looks. Being around 13 or 14 at the time it really started to bother me, so I called it off (STUPID STUPID I KNOW!) so we stopped talking and seeing each other for some time. We eventually got back together in high school, but I regretted breaking it off to begin with because I really liked her, and that time apart really killed me. But you do get older and learn to not pay attention to stupid **** like that though. Ah well, live and learn......live and learn.

愛 · 08-17-2010, 01:14 PM

I regret nothing! Can't be living in the past!

~~Leo656~~ · 08-22-2010, 05:28 PM

Without getting into a religious discussion, all I'll say is that if there is a Heaven, I'm pretty sure I'm not on the list. And I have a hard time believing that even an all-knowing God would be able to forgive me for the litany of offenses that I can never forgive myself for.

So yes, I've done things I regret, and no, I won't spell them out because one or two people here still think I'm a good person and I would like to keep it that way.

OA · 08-22-2010, 06:05 PM

Yeaaa... I'm pretty sure everyone has some regrets, along some line or another. Me, I have a TON, and nearly all involve some combination of:

1. Girls
2. Booze
3. Sex

And most of those regrets involve how I treated the first on my list. I'm alot better now, but still not where I'd like to be.

*triplexxx* · 08-22-2010, 06:20 PM

No one is 100% without regret, just a question of a lot or a little, and people can change their mind about it sometimes---they can regret something now and then years later decide their glad of it instead and vice versa. Regret is a despair from one's own choices I believe. I don't much to despair over, and most of my despair comes from situations where I didn't have a choice in the matter, where it was out of my hands and not my fault, it was either someone else's fault or nobody's and just a bad hand dealt by nature. I have more contempt than regret.

*Samhain* · 08-22-2010, 06:32 PM

Sure I do. Mostly nvolving what Terminator said. I love this quote,

''Good judgment comes from bad experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment''.

Live and learn. Sometimes we gotta do the wrong thing to appreciate what is right.

Mutated Turtle · 08-23-2010, 08:18 AM

I regret alot of things, but I don't want to post them.

ooglafina · 08-23-2010, 08:37 AM

Mostly I regret being so lazy and wasting time, which isn't nearly as interesting as the previously mentioned girls, booze, sex regrets.

collectormike · 08-23-2010, 09:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ooglafina

Mostly I regret being so lazy and wasting time, which isn't nearly as interesting as the previously mentioned girls, booze, sex regrets.

i should have gotten my degree by now. i been lazy on that. although i have had a lot of training and certifications and actually have the credits to receive my 2 year degree in computer science. i still think i been lazy about it. that on top of the fact that the military is paying 100% of it and i shrug it off like a lazy bum makes it worse. HAHA

ooglafina · 08-23-2010, 10:30 AM

I'm in Michigan, which has the worst employment rate in the country and have an arts degree. So I'm in paralegal school living off loans. It's not a good way to live.

Lynn · 08-23-2010, 02:22 PM

Oh yeah. I've got regrets. Mostly it invovles not being nicer to my sister when growing up.

*gobo* · 08-23-2010, 02:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TMNTerminator

1. Girls
3. Sex

I could totally live with regrets like these. ^_^ But, playing the nice guy 24/7 doesn't garner a lot of opportunity for that.

I'd just rather have respect for myself.

*plastroncafe* · 08-23-2010, 02:55 PM

When it comes to regrets I'm way more in the "Should have" camp as opposed to "Shouldn't have."

While I realize that every mistake I made in the past as lead me to where I am now, I can't help but mentally kick myself every now and again for not sticking up for myself in the past the way I would today.

*XERO* · 08-23-2010, 03:42 PM

I tried my hardest to not do anything that I would regret later, but I'm pretty sure the ones I would regret, I forgot about. I'm just too careful with myself.

Can't say the same for the rest of my family, though...

Vivi · 08-24-2010, 08:48 PM

Many, but this one is currently with me- I went back to school to study, and started seeing some-one in my class. Bad idea.

JaffleMan · 09-28-2010, 09:42 AM

Not taking the oppurtunity to get to have said things i'd always wanted to say and ask questions iv'e always wanted to ask to friends and family that have now passed on....

Other than that I have no regrets. I have had regrets and have done stupid things I have regretted... but looking back... that idiot i was in the past is omeone I had to be in order to become the person I am now. I am now happy and loving my life... and if having to have those things happen in order to be where i am now... i regret nothing.

08-16-2010, 04:47 PM	#1
NameGoesHere1066 Stone Warrior Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: at home LOL Posts: 957	Have you ever done something you regretted? When I was a little kid I had a little white girl that was a friend that I met one summer at a public pool. My mom was able to get me in a program for disadvantaged kids to get free swimming lessons. We got so close to each other and we hung out almost every weekend. The neighborhood I lived was mostly poor kids like my self and when they would see my friend get dropped off by her mom in a nice car and see me play with her in my back yard, they started picking on me. The other kids would say, "oh, you think you're white now" or "you think because you hang out with her you're better than us." It got to the point where when the neighborhood kids would see me coming they'd be like "oh look whose coming" and stuff like that. I'll regret this forever, but I stopped hanging out with her because of this and ended our friendship. I remember she cried when I said I didn't want to see her anymore. Anyone one else here do something lousy or stupid to another person you regretted? __________________ ]

08-17-2010, 12:24 PM	#2
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08-17-2010, 12:35 PM	#3
Katie Just...way too serious. Join Date: May 2005 Location: purgatory Posts: 3,519	Who can honestly say they haven't done something they regret? I've done plenty...though nothing really similar to what you describe. (I wasn't ever relly driven by peer pressure as I was generally the "leader" in my circles of friends) The main thing is to learn from things like this. __________________ THE WORLD IS JUST AWESOME

08-17-2010, 12:56 PM	#4
gobo Wacky Action Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: on Earth Posts: 12,784	I was actually just thinking of this thread an hour ago. I read the title yesterday, and was all prepared to post a smart-ass remark in response to it. Then, I read your post, and I changed my mind immediately. That would just be heartless. So, can that count as my regret? I don't really have anything else... unless you count things I didn't act on (missed opportunities). __________________ Live and let live... or go to hell.

08-22-2010, 06:05 PM	#8
OA Scatter the nuns!! Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 3,981	Yeaaa... I'm pretty sure everyone has some regrets, along some line or another. Me, I have a TON, and nearly all involve some combination of: 1. Girls 2. Booze 3. Sex And most of those regrets involve how I treated the first on my list. I'm alot better now, but still not where I'd like to be. __________________

08-17-2010, 01:04 PM	#5
Voidoid Stone Warrior Join Date: May 2010 Location: Maryland Posts: 625	Oh wow....that blows. It's funny because my story is really similar. In middle school I dated a mixed girl (black and white) who looked white for the most part, and I got alot of crap for it (i'm black btw). We went to a majority black school and the kids would say things racist things about us but for the most part I just ignored it and went on about my day. Then it would pick up and they would ask things like "A black girl not good enough for you?!" and stuff like that, but I never really understood it. We hung out alot out of school and in the mall kids would say things about us or we would get dirty looks. Being around 13 or 14 at the time it really started to bother me, so I called it off (STUPID STUPID I KNOW!) so we stopped talking and seeing each other for some time. We eventually got back together in high school, but I regretted breaking it off to begin with because I really liked her, and that time apart really killed me. But you do get older and learn to not pay attention to stupid **** like that though. Ah well, live and learn......live and learn.

08-17-2010, 01:14 PM	#6
愛 Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 7,449	I regret nothing! Can't be living in the past!

08-22-2010, 05:28 PM	#7
~~Leo656~~ Banned Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: nWo Country Posts: 27,703	Without getting into a religious discussion, all I'll say is that if there is a Heaven, I'm pretty sure I'm not on the list. And I have a hard time believing that even an all-knowing God would be able to forgive me for the litany of offenses that I can never forgive myself for. So yes, I've done things I regret, and no, I won't spell them out because one or two people here still think I'm a good person and I would like to keep it that way.

08-22-2010, 06:20 PM	#9
triplexxx Mad Scientist Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 1,816	No one is 100% without regret, just a question of a lot or a little, and people can change their mind about it sometimes---they can regret something now and then years later decide their glad of it instead and vice versa. Regret is a despair from one's own choices I believe. I don't much to despair over, and most of my despair comes from situations where I didn't have a choice in the matter, where it was out of my hands and not my fault, it was either someone else's fault or nobody's and just a bad hand dealt by nature. I have more contempt than regret. __________________ Please don't shoot me Mr. Big Mike. I'm too young and good-looking to die, well too young. I got a father, I got a mother, I got a grandmother, I got a little sister...and a little brother this high (raises hand), and a little brother this high (lowers hand), and little brother this high (lowers hand), and a little brother this high (lowers hand), and a little brother this high (lowers hand) and then I got a great big brother this high (slaps gun and runs). "Fright Night" - Three Stooges

08-22-2010, 06:32 PM	#10
Samhain Dare To Be Stupid! Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: 1313 Mockingbird Lane Posts: 4,752	Sure I do. Mostly nvolving what Terminator said. I love this quote, ''Good judgment comes from bad experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment''. Live and learn. Sometimes we gotta do the wrong thing to appreciate what is right.

08-23-2010, 08:18 AM	#11
Mutated Turtle Stone Warrior Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Nope.avi Posts: 825	I regret alot of things, but I don't want to post them.

08-23-2010, 08:37 AM	#12
ooglafina Hench Mutant Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: St. Olaf, Minnesota Posts: 413	Mostly I regret being so lazy and wasting time, which isn't nearly as interesting as the previously mentioned girls, booze, sex regrets. __________________ "You look sharper than a page of Oscar Wilde's witticisms that have been rolled to a point, sprinkled with lemon juice and jabbed into someone's eye" - Ace Rimmer http://www.fanfiction.net/~connienervegas http://pizzas-scrolls.be/viewuser.php?uid=76 http://www.5wwwww5.com/forum/viewfor...tealthystories

08-23-2010, 10:30 AM	#14
ooglafina Hench Mutant Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: St. Olaf, Minnesota Posts: 413	I'm in Michigan, which has the worst employment rate in the country and have an arts degree. So I'm in paralegal school living off loans. It's not a good way to live. __________________ "You look sharper than a page of Oscar Wilde's witticisms that have been rolled to a point, sprinkled with lemon juice and jabbed into someone's eye" - Ace Rimmer http://www.fanfiction.net/~connienervegas http://pizzas-scrolls.be/viewuser.php?uid=76 http://www.5wwwww5.com/forum/viewfor...tealthystories

08-23-2010, 02:22 PM	#15
Lynn Hench Mutant Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Iowa Posts: 269	Oh yeah. I've got regrets. Mostly it invovles not being nicer to my sister when growing up.

08-23-2010, 03:42 PM	#18
XERO Hybrid Theorist Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Alamo City Posts: 8,185	I tried my hardest to not do anything that I would regret later, but I'm pretty sure the ones I would regret, I forgot about. I'm just too careful with myself. Can't say the same for the rest of my family, though... __________________ "Travel at the speed of light... then hit the nitro!"

08-24-2010, 08:48 PM	#19
Vivi Mad Scientist Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Ninja HQ, Moon Posts: 1,076	Many, but this one is currently with me- I went back to school to study, and started seeing some-one in my class. Bad idea.

09-28-2010, 09:42 AM	#20
JaffleMan Stone Warrior Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Portarlington, Vic Australia Posts: 761	Not taking the oppurtunity to get to have said things i'd always wanted to say and ask questions iv'e always wanted to ask to friends and family that have now passed on.... Other than that I have no regrets. I have had regrets and have done stupid things I have regretted... but looking back... that idiot i was in the past is omeone I had to be in order to become the person I am now. I am now happy and loving my life... and if having to have those things happen in order to be where i am now... i regret nothing.