Err... Help with girls, somebody?

Sparvid · 09-26-2003, 01:58 PM

Short version: I meet this girl on net. Likes her very much. Have been talking to her fooor... about 1,5 year now, passing through several kinds of relationships; very close, to very far, to everything in between, and so on...

And now she meets this boy she likes irl. Which of course is nothing wrong from her side. I certainly don't blame her, but unfortunaly I'm the type of person who get jealous reeeally easy, (and she's aware of that, and actually tries to talk about him as little as possible, for my sake). The last thing I want is to stop talking to her completely! And, as I said, she hasn't done anything wrong in this situation; of course she prefers someone who she can meet every day, who wouldn't? But has anybody got a tip for me on how to not feel so depressed so often? (which is magnified by the knowledge that I don't "have the right" to be so jealous, being "wrong" and all...)

Donatello007 · 09-26-2003, 02:15 PM

You could meet someone else to help ease the pain. Either that or if you have a best friend that is a girl you could talk to her. (Girls are usually good at this kind of stuff)

*Mars-Chan* · 09-26-2003, 02:18 PM

I agree, Don. I have a ton of friends who are guys and they always come to me if they have problems.

Donatello007 · 09-26-2003, 02:27 PM

Yea there is this girl at my school who i am so tight with people call us brother and sister and i always go to her with problems. And she will ask me for advice on stuff like how to impress a certain guy and all that junk.

*Mars-Chan* · 09-26-2003, 02:30 PM

See, Sparvid? All you have to do is be friends with a girl and she will help you with ANYTHING.

CookSux · 09-26-2003, 02:35 PM

Just block her, and get a life

Haha not to be mean or anything, but sometimes it helps to get into a relationship where you can at least see someone in person every so often.

*Raven* · 09-26-2003, 03:03 PM

I guess all I cann say is think of her as a friend now, I remeber see this on a show, almost the same problem, this guy meets a girl on the net, he likes her, she dosent, he wants to meet her, she wants her old boyfriend back.
she takes a train to old boyfriend, but the dude rents the whole train (rish man) than tells her his feelings, she rejects him, and tells him there only friends.
so I dont know how that really helps, but mabey it does some how?

*damnhooligan* · 09-26-2003, 05:04 PM

I'd suggest spending a good ol' fashioned night on the town, or something of the equvilant. While it certainly won't solve any problems, it may help put things into perspective.

If I've learned nothing else, it's that no one person can make you happy, short of yourself. Go out, live, experience, and go after what you want. Unfortunately, as easy as it is to sit around and wait for something or someone to come to us, it rarely happens.

Mind you, that's no license to be reckless

All things in moderation, mate! Best of luck.

*kyabetsu* · 09-26-2003, 05:15 PM

yup. they covered it:

1) be nice to her but give'er her space

2) find something/someone else to take your time and make you happy b/c you don't need to be dwellin on stuff that gets you down.

3) talk about it if you gotta, but that ALSO leads ta thinkin' about it ... so just find something totally NON-THAT-GIRL related and have some fun.

the simplest stuff's the hardest stuff ta do, so don't get discouraged if all that seems too much to hope for at first. just day ta day. moment ta moment. livin' a string of pleasent distractions is really the only way to avoid the terminal blues.

*Mars-Chan* · 09-26-2003, 05:47 PM

Kya...*bows*...good way of wording it.

Sparvid · 09-27-2003, 05:29 AM

Thanks everybody!

Now if I only could find some money under a rock so I actually could do a night on the town

And unfortunaly I don't have many to talk with right now, as most of my friend I spent the summer with have moved away for school & stuff (one lives in England right now!)

*JameO* · 09-28-2003, 09:13 AM

Yeah as most people say find a irl women you could talk to and relate too. And for sure go out on a wonderful gander of the town. Make sure to send the tab to another table.

*Voltron* · 09-29-2003, 11:45 AM

Spar, you live in Sweden. From what I understand you have women on tap.

*Brodie* · 09-29-2003, 12:45 PM

Yeah, can't you just go get a new one at the store? Here's what you do. Go to the grocery store, get a cart, bump into a Hottie's cart, strike up a convo, and start talking and walking, snag her number and dial the digits later that night.

I also agree with Cook, block the other one.

Dinny · 09-29-2003, 01:22 PM

Or you could get a friend who owes you to walk up 2 a girl that you like but start acting like a jerk, then just step in and start talking. Thats how I got my girlfriend.

*damnhooligan* · 09-29-2003, 02:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dinny

Or you could get a friend who owes you to walk up 2 a girl that you like but start acting like a jerk, then just step in and start talking. Thats how I got my girlfriend.

Whoa, sneaky. Does your girlfriend know that story? If not, don't f'ing tell her... ever.

*Brodie* · 09-29-2003, 03:18 PM

hahaha, that's Funny. "Don't tell her.......ever...."

Donatello007 · 09-29-2003, 04:23 PM

Cuz if you did............................................... ...........................
Don't worry, we would all show up for the funeral....

*JameO* · 09-30-2003, 05:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Donatello007

Cuz if you did............................................... ...........................
Don't worry, we would all show up for the funeral....

I don't know man. I am on a tight schedule here. When will the date be? I don't think I will be able to make it.

Dinny · 10-01-2003, 11:06 AM

Ill make sure to tell her some day your all free

09-26-2003, 01:58 PM	#1
Sparvid Stone Warrior Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Östersund, Sweden Posts: 860	Err... Help with girls, somebody? Short version: I meet this girl on net. Likes her very much. Have been talking to her fooor... about 1,5 year now, passing through several kinds of relationships; very close, to very far, to everything in between, and so on... And now she meets this boy she likes irl. Which of course is nothing wrong from her side. I certainly don't blame her, but unfortunaly I'm the type of person who get jealous reeeally easy, (and she's aware of that, and actually tries to talk about him as little as possible, for my sake). The last thing I want is to stop talking to her completely! And, as I said, she hasn't done anything wrong in this situation; of course she prefers someone who she can meet every day, who wouldn't? But has anybody got a tip for me on how to not feel so depressed so often? (which is magnified by the knowledge that I don't "have the right" to be so jealous, being "wrong" and all...)

09-26-2003, 02:15 PM	#2
Donatello007 Stone Warrior Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Putnam, CT Posts: 532	You could meet someone else to help ease the pain. Either that or if you have a best friend that is a girl you could talk to her. (Girls are usually good at this kind of stuff) __________________ myspace

09-26-2003, 02:18 PM	#3
Mars-Chan I'LL BE THE HERO!!!! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Practicing Alchemy in Risembool Posts: 6,297	I agree, Don. I have a ton of friends who are guys and they always come to me if they have problems. __________________ clings to award THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!!! cries in joy RED DAAAAAAAAAAAAWWN!!!! PROUD Member of the Risembool Rangers! (icon made by bakergirl69 on glitter-graphics)

09-26-2003, 02:27 PM	#4
Donatello007 Stone Warrior Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Putnam, CT Posts: 532	Yea there is this girl at my school who i am so tight with people call us brother and sister and i always go to her with problems. And she will ask me for advice on stuff like how to impress a certain guy and all that junk. __________________ myspace

09-26-2003, 02:30 PM	#5
Mars-Chan I'LL BE THE HERO!!!! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Practicing Alchemy in Risembool Posts: 6,297	See, Sparvid? All you have to do is be friends with a girl and she will help you with ANYTHING. __________________ clings to award THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!!! cries in joy RED DAAAAAAAAAAAAWWN!!!! PROUD Member of the Risembool Rangers! (icon made by bakergirl69 on glitter-graphics)

09-26-2003, 02:35 PM	#6
CookSux Stone Warrior Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Sparta Posts: 928	Just block her, and get a life Haha not to be mean or anything, but sometimes it helps to get into a relationship where you can at least see someone in person every so often. __________________ http://http://cooksux.deviantart.com/ http://www.xanga.com/cooksux http://www.myspace.com/cooksux

09-26-2003, 03:03 PM	#7
Raven follower of Jesus Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 6,212	Re: Err... Help with girls, somebody? I guess all I cann say is think of her as a friend now, I remeber see this on a show, almost the same problem, this guy meets a girl on the net, he likes her, she dosent, he wants to meet her, she wants her old boyfriend back. she takes a train to old boyfriend, but the dude rents the whole train (rish man) than tells her his feelings, she rejects him, and tells him there only friends. so I dont know how that really helps, but mabey it does some how? __________________ TMNT Future Despair Deviant Offical Ultimate Ninja Turtles Site!

09-26-2003, 05:04 PM	#8
damnhooligan Mad Scientist Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Dorksville, USA Posts: 1,745	I'd suggest spending a good ol' fashioned night on the town, or something of the equvilant. While it certainly won't solve any problems, it may help put things into perspective. If I've learned nothing else, it's that no one person can make you happy, short of yourself. Go out, live, experience, and go after what you want. Unfortunately, as easy as it is to sit around and wait for something or someone to come to us, it rarely happens. Mind you, that's no license to be reckless All things in moderation, mate! Best of luck. __________________

09-26-2003, 05:15 PM	#9
kyabetsu Foot Elite Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: under my hat Posts: 4,393	yup. they covered it: 1) be nice to her but give'er her space 2) find something/someone else to take your time and make you happy b/c you don't need to be dwellin on stuff that gets you down. 3) talk about it if you gotta, but that ALSO leads ta thinkin' about it ... so just find something totally NON-THAT-GIRL related and have some fun. the simplest stuff's the hardest stuff ta do, so don't get discouraged if all that seems too much to hope for at first. just day ta day. moment ta moment. livin' a string of pleasent distractions is really the only way to avoid the terminal blues.

09-26-2003, 05:47 PM	#10
Mars-Chan I'LL BE THE HERO!!!! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Practicing Alchemy in Risembool Posts: 6,297	Kya...bows...good way of wording it. __________________ clings to award THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!!! cries in joy RED DAAAAAAAAAAAAWWN!!!! PROUD Member of the Risembool Rangers! (icon made by bakergirl69 on glitter-graphics)

09-27-2003, 05:29 AM	#11
Sparvid Stone Warrior Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Östersund, Sweden Posts: 860	Thanks everybody! Now if I only could find some money under a rock so I actually could do a night on the town And unfortunaly I don't have many to talk with right now, as most of my friend I spent the summer with have moved away for school & stuff (one lives in England right now!)

09-28-2003, 09:13 AM	#12
JameO Mad Scientist Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 1,753	Yeah as most people say find a irl women you could talk to and relate too. And for sure go out on a wonderful gander of the town. Make sure to send the tab to another table.

09-29-2003, 11:45 AM	#13
Voltron Handsomest Boy in School Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: The Realm of SJW Posts: 4,642	Spar, you live in Sweden. From what I understand you have women on tap.

09-29-2003, 12:45 PM	#14
Brodie Certified Teacher Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Bizarro Metropolis Posts: 6,495	Yeah, can't you just go get a new one at the store? Here's what you do. Go to the grocery store, get a cart, bump into a Hottie's cart, strike up a convo, and start talking and walking, snag her number and dial the digits later that night. I also agree with Cook, block the other one. __________________ Stupendous Monster

09-29-2003, 01:22 PM	#15
Dinny Stone Warrior Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 774	Or you could get a friend who owes you to walk up 2 a girl that you like but start acting like a jerk, then just step in and start talking. Thats how I got my girlfriend.

09-29-2003, 03:18 PM	#17
Brodie Certified Teacher Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Bizarro Metropolis Posts: 6,495	hahaha, that's Funny. "Don't tell her.......ever...." __________________ Stupendous Monster

09-29-2003, 04:23 PM	#18
Donatello007 Stone Warrior Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Putnam, CT Posts: 532	Cuz if you did............................................... ........................... Don't worry, we would all show up for the funeral.... __________________ myspace

10-01-2003, 11:06 AM	#20
Dinny Stone Warrior Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 774	Ill make sure to tell her some day your all free