Am I The Only One Who Feels Bad for Megan Fox?

[Leo656]

Originally Posted by The Stryker

Ridiculing and hating other people because they f*cked up in their life. Real honest and moral living.

I understand where you're coming from but I've seen too many people struggle, fail and succeed in those situations to take the ridiculous stand of "You did the thing. You are no longer worth anything and I look down on you."

Lots of people f*ck up their lives, for various reasons. Doing so with certain things like drugs, alcohol, gambling... that is a person CHOOSING to f*ck up their life, because there are absolutely NO good outcomes for people in those situations, yet they act like they were pushed. It's just another way to avoid responsibility.

To clarify, like anyone else, obviously, I still know lots of people in all areas of my life who abuse drugs and alcohol. And I do enjoy them individually and always hope that they start practicing common sense, yet seemingly am continually disappointed by them and do my best not to be around them when they screw up yet again. We all know where we stand; I do my best not to harass them, and they keep their bullsh*t far away from me. And in between, we get along fine. But more often than not, they end up dead or in jail, and that really doesn't speak much positive for people who accept that lifestyle.

I'm a very hard person. I'm hard on myself, and I'm hard on others. I don't like liars. I don't like thieves. I don't like abusers. As such, I don't like anything that contributes to a person BEING any or all of those things. People who choose addiction do so under the lie they tell themselves that their addiction "makes life easier", when in fact all it does is make it worse for everyone. Every person knows this in their heart. Which is why I cannot find it in mine to accept why so many people think they will be the ONE person who comes out the other side just fine. It's insane.

Some people believe deeply in the idea of redemption. And that's a fine and wonderful thing. But all things being equal, if we accept that people can be redeemed, we must also accept that they can fall so low as to no longer be of equal measure to other human beings. That's what I believe, that when you choose to hurt yourself and those around you, that you lose worth as a human being. I don't deny that it's possible to go back the other way... I've just personally never witnessed it. Most people who fall just keep falling, no matter who tries to help them, because they very often refuse to admit they've done anything wrong.

I know this particular point of view is pretty rigid and too hard for most people to accept, and that's fine, I guess. Frankly, I'm just not very accepting of "mistakes", especially ones that only have a set number of predetermined outcomes, the main one being death and the second one being poor. I completely can't understand it. And it absolutely can't be genetic, because if addiction was genetic then I would be a substance abuser, since almost everyone in my family is. That more than anything makes me feel it's not a "disease" as much as just poor, selfish choices.

I'm thankful every day I was able to escape my family's cycle, and it really bothers me that nobody else I share blood with has the "strength" to do the same. Instead they pass it on to their kids. It's like watching people get murdered in slow-motion.