The New Café

[JaffleMan]

Originally Posted by syd

...........God i hate you.

Umm... are you saying you hate Jo or god?

If that was directed at Jo that was completely uncalled for.

[Sewer Bull]

Originally Posted by syd

first of all,i shell correct you about my reaction to JO,actually,i'm not sure how to react,i'm not even sure if Jo was talking to me or not,not to mention i couldn't get at them at all.

You are unsure about what to do, so the best thing that comes to your mind is to spew your deep hatred around.

Smart move.

Originally Posted by syd

secondly,i'm not a brat.and you have no right to call me a brat or a kid or something like that,coz in age i could be your papa.

TheCure said you are being a brat, not that you are a brat. There's a difference.

And how old are you anyway, forty something?

[syd]

it's at Jo,not God.God does nothing to us,whatever bad or good thing.but Jo is different.

I HAVE NOOO-,N,O,-NOOO hatred okay?people say "i hate late pizza"all the time,do they spew their DEEP hatred around?

well is it a word game or something?be a brat or being a brat?you mean you say "you are being a bitch"is not taken as the same as "you are a bitch" from some extend?

i'm 20,i just had my birthday party last month,17th,October,you know,the same day as eminem.

[JaffleMan]

Originally Posted by syd

it's at Jo,not God.God does nothing to us,whatever bad or good thing.but Jo is different.

I HAVE NOOO-,N,O,-NOOO hatred okay?people say "i hate late pizza"all the time,do they spew their DEEP hatred around?

Still despite whatever your intentions may have been, it was a mean thing to say. When someone is having a bad time, pretty much what this entire thread is about, the last thing they need is random people saying they hate them.

I am willing to accept that you honestly meant no harm from what you said, but still an apology would never go too far astray.

[愛]

What is even going on in this thread anymore? I can't make out any posts!

[syd]

Originally Posted by JaffleMan

Still despite whatever your intentions may have been, it was a mean thing to say. When someone is having a bad time, pretty much what this entire thread is about, the last thing they need is random people saying they hate them.

I am willing to accept that you honestly meant no harm from what you said, but still an apology would never go too far astray.

you know,i'm thinking about Jo's a gal,and you are herrrrrrrrrrrr friend.

[Katie]

I need advice on how to handle a situation.

for the past couple of years, every day I'm at work, I have lunch with these girls. There's three of us and we have a set time....unwritten. Lunch is at 11:00. About the time we ALL need to get away and breathe for a minute.

We're friends outside work too. One of the girls lives pretty far from town and commutes in. we talk on the drive in and when she broke down on the side of the road one night she called and I drove a 5 hour round tripper to get her home safe to her apartment....she had broken down on the interstate 5 miles from home.

So, this week I was completely caught off guard when each day they were already gone at 11:00...together to lunch. No coming to see if I was ready....no talk of it when I would stop to say good morning. I was just ditched. I've been really upset by it. REALLY upset.

I would understand if I was one of those people who spews negativity and talks about all the problems in their lives...but I'm not like that at all. I pretty much just giggle along to their stories about husbands and what that freak of a boss of ours did that day. When I start a conversation topic It's usually about a TV show we all watch...or a sale we should try and hit up on teh weekend. Normal stuff.

yesterday, just for the hell of it, I went to speak to one of the girls, in casual conversation, no mention of the lunch thing, at about 11:00. she was on the phone withthe other girl asking where they were going to go, but quickly endede that conversation once she saw me standing there. I felt like I could cry right there but I smiled and asked how her day was going and what her work volume had been today. It was a small talk answer bit....I was interfering with the set lunch time.

I've said before how much I hate letting on that someone has hurt me. I think it makes me look weak and the LAST think I want is them to invite me to lunch again because they feel sorry for me but don't really want me there.

I feel like total crap. I don't even know what the hell happened and as far as I knew walking in the door on Monday we were all friends and everything was good. Now I feel like total crap and have been so depressed. I've been staying away from everyone I know for fear of really unleashing some serious emotional baggage over this and BECOMING that person who whines about her problems to friends. I've gotten past that part. My bags are safely checked after a freakishly long workout last night...But I still need some serious advice.


what should I do? should I say something?

[Ra]

Emotional things like this with the female gender are always very delicate situations, I'm afraid. I know that all too well. Personally, I wouldn't really say anything. Bringing things out into the open can lead to some pretty awful situations. Then again, they can lead to some good ones, but you can never be sure what to do in all cases.

Funny, a similar situation happened to me a few years back. A group of girls I thought were nice would catch the same train as me. I would hang around, try and engage with conversations and what-not. But then they kept on moving to different carriages of the train...clearly trying to avoid me. I ignored it until one day when they sort of ditched me. They said they were all going to the plaza to go shopping. I declined the offer to go with them, but I caught two of the girls who went "shopping" getting off at my platform about half an hour later, trying to keep out of sight. I decided to just go off on my own then.

Not too sure what else you can do except to find your own way. You can still find people to talk to and eat with. Just not people who clearly don't want you around.

[Voltron]

In after-school specials, saying something always resolves the problem. But this is real life, and real life is full of jerks. When something like this happens to me, I just don't interact with those people anymore.

Then, on the side? I start being a total dick to them. I call them by the wrong name when I pass them in the hall. I wish them happy birthday about 4 months before the date, then two months after. And, when and if they start talking to me about something good that's happened to them, I tend to be real negative about the outlook of the whole situation.

Or, just make subtle comments about how they look that day. For example, ask when one of your friends had their nose broken, then follow up with "Yeah, it looks crooked, that's why I asked."

Or just stay away from them. I dunno.

[Katie]

I know....I really just want to know what happened.

I'm sitting here at home on my lunch break and I haven't done that in years. They walked out ahead of me with one of the new girls (guess I've been replaced)

"Oh Look, there's Katie" one of them said, upon seeing me walking to my car.

"Just get in the car.....we've got to get going. that place fills up fast" The other said.

F#$%ing sucks.

[JaffleMan]

Originally Posted by syd

you know,i'm thinking about Jo's a gal,and you are herrrrrrrrrrrr friend.

I would have made the same defence to anyone, irregardless of gender, race, political views or personal choice of fabric softener.

Prior to this post I believed you had good intentions but were just badly misunderstood. But from what you are now insinuating it's obvious you are trying to stir trouble. Meh....... I'm just going to be a bit of a jerk and ignore you.

I feel like total crap. I don't even know what the hell happened and as far as I knew walking in the door on Monday we were all friends and everything was good. Now I feel like total crap and have been so depressed. I've been staying away from everyone I know for fear of really unleashing some serious emotional baggage over this and BECOMING that person who whines about her problems to friends. I've gotten past that part. My bags are safely checked after a freakishly long workout last night...But I still need some serious advice.

If this were me, I wouldn't worry about it too much, if they ditch you like that they were never true friends in the first place. I'd start talking to other people and try to make new friends. And if that failed I'd just look for a new job and start afresh.

[syd]

all i can assure you is:i have no idea what you are talking about...0xo

[Ra]

He's just saying that he thought you were just misunderstood by everyone before, but he doesn't think so now due to the things you are saying. I would go and quote a few things, but I'm pretty busy right now...

Originally Posted by Katie

I know....I really just want to know what happened.

I'm sitting here at home on my lunch break and I haven't done that in years. They walked out ahead of me with one of the new girls (guess I've been replaced)

"Oh Look, there's Katie" one of them said, upon seeing me walking to my car.

"Just get in the car.....we've got to get going. that place fills up fast" The other said.

F#$%ing sucks.

I guess all you can do is just let it be. They clearly don't care for you, so you may as well pick yourself up and move on. Women like that are fickle things.

[Jo Dawn]

Originally Posted by Ra

I guess all you can do is just let it be. They clearly don't care for you, so you may as well pick yourself up and move on. Women like that are fickle things.

Yeah, women can be awful and mean.

Katie, I'm sorry you're going through that. It's happened to me many a time, and it hurts every time, irregardless. I would say to maybe mention to one of them that you miss the lunch time... or maybe ask if you did something... But that, I've learned, can be eating right into their little hands. The worst is when they find humor in that they KNOW that you think that way. I say ignore, hold yourself higher and realize that in the end, you really don't want friends like that.


And syd, nothing in my post had anything to do with you; I'm sorry if you thought it did.

[syd]

i accept your apology.
and i wanta you to know that it is because your statements previous are completely uncomperhensible to me that forced me to think you were gonna criticize my grammar like other people had did before.

[Cure]

Originally Posted by syd

i accept your apology.
and i wanta you to know that it is because your statements previous are completely uncomperhensible to me that forced me to think you were gonna criticize my grammar like other people had did before.

You ain't understand her. YOU ain't understand HER. Oh, the irony.

[syd]

uh?0xo
then pleaz,illuminate?

[Sewer Bull]

I shall illuminate.

You are the one whose posts are generally VERY hard to understand and don't make much sense at all, yet you accuse Jo's "statements" of being "completely uncomperhensible", although her point was rather clear and logical to everyone else.

Here lies the irony.

[syd]

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i don't think my humble statements are THAT...humble as you said.would you be so kind to suggest me that which part twisted you so hard,buddy?
furthermore,i really FAILED to get at hers.to tell the truth,i gota a little frustrated at failing to decipher them,coz i actually have certain confidence in english,whatever you think,and i love it too.therefore i dropped "i hate you" there to her.you see,there's nothing in this world which can not be explained,as long as you speak it out.

[Voltron]

Originally Posted by syd

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i don't think my humble statements are THAT...humble as you said.would you be so kind to suggest me that which part twisted you so hard,buddy?
furthermore,i really FAILED to get at hers.to tell the truth,i gota a little frustrated at failing to decipher them,coz i actually have certain confidence in english,whatever you think,and i love it too.therefore i dropped "i hate you" there to her.you see,there's nothing in this world which can not be explained,as long as you speak it out.

And so, the world exploded under the mass frustration of those who laid eyes upon the text. Then, as though it too had felt the pain, the Universe shuddered with terror and knew that, someday, it would share the same fate.

Behold, the song that ends the Earth.